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05-17-2011, 04:10 AM
I still have a boy who comes in crying every day. I know he's happy here....but it is a rough transition at drop off. He is 4 years old. He quits crying within 5 minutes at the most. My question is.....after mom leaves...what would you do? I usually give him a hug, talk with him a bit and sit him down with the other kids in front of the TV. But....he is disturbing them. Today I told him he could sit in this one certain quiet place till he "felt better". He stopped crying in about 2 minutes. Now he is fine. I don't want to "encourage" his behavior by coddling him every morning. I give him a hug.....and talk to him a bit...but after that I am non chalant. Still....I'd like some of your advice.....ideas....whatever. By the way...this is a very high maintenance boy who has come a very far way in behavior and self control since coming here. His mom notices and so do others. Mom cannot say "no" to him.....and gives in all the time....so I think this is part of the problem. He rules the roost.
05-17-2011, 05:38 AM
I would give him a spot to sit quietly and get his feelings out before he joins the group. I don't get upset about dropoff crying nor do I really acknowledge it. I say goodbye to mom and dad and wish them a good day at work and then lead the DCK away from the door by the hand asking them what they would like to do today. If they are still crying when we reach the playroom I tell them they can sit on the step until they are calm enough to play or they can stop crying and go play right now.
I find that alot of 4 year olds get super dramatic about dropoffs anyway even if they aren't new or sensitive.
MN Day Mom
05-17-2011, 07:36 AM
I have a little guy that will come in angry some mornings because he didn't get his way prior to arriving here... like this morning, dad didn't take the route that the little guy wanted... so he came in angry and crying. Dad tried to pacify... and I just took the little guy from him and said "say good bye to dad" Then we head down to the daycare... if he is still crying when we get to the bottom of the steps he goes and sits in our crying/whining spot until he is calm and ready to join us.
I keep all emotion out of it and that seems to work best for everyone... LOL... even dad.
05-17-2011, 11:22 AM
How about a reward for coming in not crying? I'd talk to him right before p/u, show him some really awesome stickers and say that he can pick one in the morning when he comes in not crying.
05-17-2011, 11:56 AM
I have a girl that does that, only with her mom (if dad or grandparents drop her, totally fine) because she knows she can (mom is very nice and says a quick bye and leaves, but dcg tries to continue the attention seeking) and I do the same as pp's- have her sit in a quiet spot until she calms down and is ready to play. It is about a minute or less! And not every day. Also on good days I give her lots of praise for saying such a nice goodbye!
05-17-2011, 12:35 PM
I have a dcb who will be 4 in June. He does the SAME THING. His mom brought him this morning, and he hung on her legs "crying." I walked over, got his 18 month old brother who was perfectly happy, took him to the breakfast table, and came back and got 4yr old dcb. I said "Tell mom bye!" and he buried his head in my shoulder.
Mom walks out the door, isn't even out of sight yet, and he pops his head up, says "I'm done!" and goes to play...Seriously!? He does this EVERY DAY. I finally asked him one day if he was really sad about coming to school or if he just pretends for his mom. He said "I'm just joking with her!"
I have explained this, but I know sometimes it's hard for parents to believe us. So, every once in a while, as soon as she leaves, I take a picture of him playing happily and text it to her. That helps them SEE that everything's okay! :)
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