Originally Posted by Max:
I didn't mean to imply that providers who can detach aren't special at all 
Just that becoming attached can be a good thing. One of several qualities that sets a great provider apart from others. I hope that makes sense!
I "think" I know what you are trying to say
but that ^^ made it worse.
One of several qualities I don't have so I am not a great provider either.
I think a provider that grows attached to children in her/his care CAN be a positive thing IF that is a quality YOU (general you as a parent) that wants that type of bonding.
I've had families leave because they didn't like the bond their child created with me. It caused jealous feelings and insecurities about their parenting skills so attachment to children enrolled isn't something everyone wants or values.
