Originally Posted by Ariana:
I have been a caregiver in my home for 7 years and I am starting to realize that I desperately need to detach from the kids in my care. I am not sure if it is possible but it would greatly reduce my stress.
For example if I suspect a developmental delay that needs to be addressed and I bring it up to parents and nothing gets done, how do I keep doing my job effectively? How do I let go of the worry or the feelings of hopelessness about the situation and ignore the problem like the parents are doing? I hate that I am more stressed than the parents are. I hate that sometimes I spend my free time researching symptoms etc. I really just want to let it go and not care. Let go of the pressure I feel to be the childs advocate.
I think I have asked this question before but I am terrible at it and need more advice!
This is me.
I love them while they are here but they aren't my kids.
I am not attached to them and I don't "mourn" them when they leave or age out.
I have a very clear divide in regards to what things/issues I will stress/focus on and what I won't. The black and white thought process is what keeps me in business, keeps me from having common issues other providers have.
I can give you advice or suggestions on what I would do in certain situations but I don't know if that is what you are looking for or not.
I don't know how to explain my approach without sounding cold and uncaring. I am neither but I am both.
