I think it is ok to attach...up to a point. We care about the kids but it shouldn't be all consuming or something that keeps us up at night. I should love the kids but not more than my own kids or my own sanity.
A healthy attachment is what my goal is. I can let go when it calls for it without emotions. Detachment by definition is being able to observe life without emotion or with the abilith to control emotion.
I had an experience last year where a parent made me feel insane. I never ever want to go through that again. In the end she was the crazy one but I allowed my feelings to get too wrapped up in the situation and as weird as it sounds I feel like I was traumatized by the experience. Time to change
