Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Tell her she can do all of that for as long as she wants.
She just can't do it in YOUR house. She can do it at home, in the car and on the way over but NOT in YOUR house.
You do NOT have to be an audience for her. That's what she is looking for. 
This is your solution right here. "It's GREAT that you want to cuddle him, but I am going to need you to do that in the car/at home/on the porch before you come in. Thank you!
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