Originally Posted by sahm2three:
He has a speech therapist and OT counselor. No caseworker that i know of. The massage is for sensory issues, which I get, and do comply with doing it (not head to toe, just joints mostly) when we are transitioning from one thing to another because he has a terrible time with transitions. I also do it right after diaper change after nap time. He doesnt' communicate, other than to scream. So I have been asking for help for a long time. I was his 4th daycare, and I got him at 4 1/2 months. So I didn't want to be another person who passed him on. Ugh. So I have had him for over a year and a half. Struggle. I am sure that the OT suggested things to the mom, and because I have him over 50 hours a week, I guess she thinks it's my job to do it. I have bent over backwards, because I love the boy, but if he truly needs this kind of care, unfortunately it can't happen here. I can't take that kind of time away from the other kids.
OH, also, she told me to get coffee straws and give him something thick to suck thru the straw to tire his jaw out (because he has been biting them, but WE haven't have that problem here). So I guess I am supposed to buy coffee straws AND make him, what, milk shakes?! 
What I don't understand is why she told YOU to go and find/buy/prepare these things. With your own money. On your time. Without even asking if it was okay. Maybe because you've been so helpful with getting him help, she thinks that you're on board with anything they come up with.
I personally wouldn't feel comfortable giving a coffee straw to a one year old who chews things...nor serving a thick drink through a straw to a toddler with sensory issues. He definitely needs a one-on-one nanny or nurse, or a therapeutic preschool, because some of these suggestions aren't things that would normally be considered safe or ideal for a toddler...and especially one in group care. JMO.