Originally Posted by Unregistered:
If a parent REALLLLLY truly believes their child is being abused in their childcare, WHY WHY WHY, on God's green earth, would they continue to take their child there? Regardless of whether its true or not- if they THINK its true, what would motivate them to bring the child back? If I thought for a SECOND that my child was being mistreated in someone else's care, I would be DONE!! I have a parent who recently accused me of letting her child go an entire day in wet underwear because he was *kind of* wet when he left. He was dry all day!! OMG!! As if I'd let a child run around in wet pants all day. GROSS!!!!! This is the same parent who, after I tell her that her child JUST used the toilet, she takes him out to her car and lets him pee in my bushes on the side of the driveway. I'm sure my neighbors are wondering what kind of show I'm running here. WTH is wrong with these people?!! I have absolutely ZERO respect for parents who try everything possible to make you look like a horrible provider simply because they feel guilty that they are letting someone else raise their child. If they don't appreciate the care you provide for their child, they shouldn't be leaving them with ANYONE other than themselves. I'm so sick of these kinds of parents!! Okay, now you know the week I've had- done venting. I hope you have a stronger backbone than I do because I have plenty to complain about but its almost impossible for me to say anything to the parents. Thus, the venting.
This story took place 16 years ago...My own daughter... (she will turn 18 in a few weeks)... was approximately 2...
I had a little girl in my daycare group.. slightly younger.... 18-20 months old.. walking..
We had been playing outside ... I lived on a cul de sac in a quiet neighborhood.. I had a very long driveway...and we would frequently ride toys on the driveway..
An older child's parent arrives.. boy... 5 years old..
He could not find an item he had brought to care that day..
I take all the children inside...with this parent... in order to search for the missing item..
After locating the missing item... I call all the children to return outside..... the small girl is stepping out the front door... my daughter rushes up from behind and shoves past her... knocking the little girl flat on her face and hands and knees... The daycare mom of the older boy rushes over to her... scoops her up to evaluate the injuries... she is WAILING of course... we survey the damange.. determine there are no scratches or scrapes... then this mom hands the wailing child to me.. and says.. she has a poopy diaper...I call all the children back inside.. as this parent and her son leave...
I take the wailing girl to the changing table and begin to change her poopy diaper... moments later.. the mother of this wailing child arrives...I had an unlocked open door policy.. so she stepped in to the daycare room with this stressed look on her face and said.. What is wrong??? why is she screaming... ?
When the child sees her mom.. she starts wailing even LOUDER.. and tries to get up off the changing table..
I tell the child.. lay still just another minute and I'll have you changed and ready to see mom...
Meanwhile.. I glance up at the mom and begin to tell her the story of what happened...
Only.. I abreviate it somewhat... for time..
I say... we were walking out the front door to play.. and she got knocked down in the doorway...
First thing she says..
You were INSIDE when I arrived..
Yes.. we had come inside to look for something for another child that was leaving... and we were just headed back out a few minutes ago when it happened...
Meanwhile.. I finish changing the diaper on this wailing.. flailing kid... and I hand her over to her mom...
Her mom started soothing her... I called all the other kids and said.. Ok everyone.. let's head back outside to play..
She leaves.. but seemed very unhappy..
I mention this to the other parent... the mom of the boy...
The one that had actually been there when it occured...
I tell her about the mom's reaction.. how she really seemed upset.. as though I had done something to the child to make her cry..
This first mom.. the witness... says.. well my word... tell her I was there.. tell her she can ask me to talk to her about it..
Well.. I didn't..
The next day the mom of the little girl brought her in for care.. I was busy with other parents... she was in.. dropped off child.. and back out.. so I just decided not to worry too much about it..
The mom of the little girl had always seemed a little stand offish anyway.. so I just let it go..
Well.. several weeks pass...and one day the first mom.. of the older boy... the 'witness'.. comes in to drop her son off...and she tells me..
Last night.. when son and I were at Walmart...The other mom of the little girl was there.. Son spoke to little girl in grocery cart...and mom asked .. how do you know little girl.. First mom of son says... oh they go to daycare together...
This mom says.. oh.. do you mind if I ask your son a question.. ?
First mom.. perplexed...says...sure.. go ahead..
she looks at son... 5 year old boy.. and says.. does Tammy ever do anything to you at daycare? like spank you.. or is she mean to you???
or the other kids??
This little boy absolutely LOVED ME... and his mom also.. AND he was 5..
He looked at this mom like she had LOST HER MIND...he said... NO!.. I love Tammy.. she is nice to me.. she doesn't do mean things to any of us..
First mom.. of son.. is astonished at this mom .. she immediately KNEW why she had asked him that... and she was SHOCKED at the realization..
This child had continued to attend care every single day.. FOR WEEKS... and all that time.. this mom of little girl actually thought that I was being mean to her child... that I had done SOMETHING to her child to make her cry...
First mom was too flabbergasted to even come up with a response...
she confessed later that she should have TOLD that mom that she had been there that afternoon...that she is actually the one that picked up little girl when she initially got knocked down.. that she is the one that handed the wailing child to me in order for me to change the poopy diaper..
BUT.. she didn't.. she just numbly walked away...and then told me the story of the encounter the following day..
I instantly made the decision to term this parent..
I was speachless...
She arrived that afternoon for pick up.. and I had several other parents there at the same time..
She walks over to me..
Hands me a check.. and says.. little girl will not be returning to your care...
I said.. I think that is best for all of us...
I spoke with FIRST MOM... of son... and she told me about seeing you last night.. and what you asked the son...I am shocked that you thought I had done something to your child.. but I'm even more shocked that you thought that.. and yet continued to bring your child to my daycare every day for the past several weeks..
Now remember...there were other parents picking their children up..
She FLIPPED OUT.. she screamed.. I KNOW SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HER THAT DAY... SHE WAS SCREAMING when I arrived to pick her up....
Now she has the attention of all kids.. all parents..
I say... Yes.. I told you exactly what happened to her that day...
She said yeah.. I know what you told me.. but you weren't OUTSIDE when I arrived.. you were all inside..
I said.. I told you that day.. we had BEEN OUTSIDE... came in to help son find a lost item.. and as we were walking back out.. my daughter rushed up from behind.. shoved past your little girl...and knocked her flat..
Other mom was here.. picking up son.. and was actually the one that picked up your child... you can call her.. ask her...
She said.. no thanks.. I don't need to talk to her...
we are not going to return to your daycare..
I just stood there.. I said.. I think that will be great... but.. if you suspected that I had done something to your child.. I can't IMAGINE why you would have continued to drop her off here for daycare every day since then...
I fully expected to hear from child care licensing over this issue..
I contacted my licensing rep myself and told her the story.. gave her first mom's contact info in case she wanted to verify..but.. there was never any report on it.. they basically just left... There's no telling who she went out and told the story too.. I never heard through the grapevine.. but.. who knows...
The whole thing was ridiculous...and it's just sad that a parent would put their child at risk like that.. and yet act OUTRAGED weeks later...