Originally Posted by e.j.:
When my son (who has Asperger's) used to have meltdowns, this is exactly how I handled them. Reacting to them just fed into the tantrums and made them last longer. Remaining calm and ignoring them as much as possible allowed him to calm down much faster. As long as he wasn't in any danger of harming himself, I would calmly tell him, "When you're done, let me know." Once he was calmed down, we would talk it over and discuss better ways to handle his frustrations.
Another thumbs up for this ^^
My pediatrician told me when my son had tantrums (also an Aspie) to ignore them....they preform when they have an audience.
Take away the audience and there is no joy in performing.
Talk it through later when they are calm and able to focus on what you are saying.