Screaming Child! Help!

[Bizzymom1111]

Hi there! So I've been reading lots of posts on here and I have to say, I feel soooo much better! I don't feel like the only one with OMG!! moments!

So I need some advice about a dcb. He is 3yrs old, and has been here for 2 1/2 weeks. EVERY time anyone even looks at him let alone takes a toy away, he SCREAMS, a high pitched, blood curdling scream that just scares the pants off everyone else. I have tried talking to him and telling him it's not acceptable, and now I'm trying time outs. Am I being too harsh about this? I just can't stand all the screaming! He's already been on the time out 5 times this morning and it's only 9:30! Should I talk to his mom about this?
Any advice would be great! Thanks for reading!

[My4SunshineGirlsNY]

I would continue with the time out rule...he may not be used to time outs but give it time and be persistant and he'll understand that the screaming leads him to time out. Just keep doing it over and over and over and hopefully he will get it.

I would also bring it up to his mom...ask her if he screams at home and mention that he's been doing it there and it scares the kids. This will make her aware and maybe she'll be more firm on it at home.

[jen]

I do sort of the same thing, but I don't call it time out. I also don't make it unacceptable. I just say something like...

"Oh, you are upset. It is OK to be upset but if you'd like to cry/scream you need to come over here to the cry pillow. You may get up when you are done."

If we've done that a few time and the screaming continues I go on the notion that they are tired...

"Oh, you must be very tired today. Let's go take a nap." And down they go. It doesn't take long for them to figure it out.

[MarinaVanessa]

Originally Posted by jen

"Oh, you are upset. It is OK to be upset but if you'd like to cry/scream you need to come over here to the cry pillow. You may get up when you are done."

EXACTLY what I do. "You can cry, that's ok. Let's go to the crying corner" It's the only place that they are allowed to cry. I don't call it time-out though. I let the child sit there until they finish. They can stay there 1 minute or 20 if they wish (but I don't force them to sit). When they are ready they can get up and join the activity. If they get up and continue to cry I just lead them to the crying corner again. It's actually not even a corner at all. Just the bottom step to my stairs. Tattling turtle sits there also so they can tell all of there troubles to the turtle while they cry lol.

[jen]

Originally Posted by MarinaVanessa

EXACTLY what I do. "You can cry, that's ok. Let's go to the crying corner" It's the only place that they are allowed to cry. I don't call it time-out though. I let the child sit there until they finish. They can stay there 1 minute or 20 if they wish (but I don't force them to sit). When they are ready they can get up and join the activity. If they get up and continue to cry I just lead them to the crying corner again. It's actually not even a corner at all. Just the bottom step to my stairs. Tattling turtle sits there also so they can tell all of there troubles to the turtle while they cry lol.

I LOVE the tattling turtle idea!!!

[Bizzymom1111]

Originally Posted by jen

I LOVE the tattling turtle idea!!!

That IS a great idea! I'm going to scope out a crying corner right away! But how about a tattling tiger?! No turtle on hand!!

[sahm2three]

Originally Posted by Bizzymom1111

Hi there! So I've been reading lots of posts on here and I have to say, I feel soooo much better! I don't feel like the only one with OMG!! moments!

So I need some advice about a dcb. He is 3yrs old, and has been here for 2 1/2 weeks. EVERY time anyone even looks at him let alone takes a toy away, he SCREAMS, a high pitched, blood curdling scream that just scares the pants off everyone else. I have tried talking to him and telling him it's not acceptable, and now I'm trying time outs. Am I being too harsh about this? I just can't stand all the screaming! He's already been on the time out 5 times this morning and it's only 9:30! Should I talk to his mom about this?
Any advice would be great! Thanks for reading!

Nope, not too harsh in my book. If kids scream in my dc and are not hurt, they know the rules, they get sat in time out, then we talk about why we don't scream and we use our words and back to play. If it happens even a minute later then back in time out. Consistancy is key. I had some realy screamers but have nipped that in the bud. Good luck!