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Half-Pint Hide-Out 09:25 AM 04-12-2012
I woke up this morning with the always very lovely flu bug! All of my parents, except for one family, prefer to be notified of changes by text message, which is fine with me, especially when I can't get away from the bathroom long enough to actually have a phone conversation. I sent messages out to all my families, and my other family, I called them. This was at 6:10 this morning and their daughter isn't scheduled to come until 8, so they had plenty of notice. I received no answer on the home phone, so I left a message. Same with mom's cell phone and dad's cell phone. I figured I had all my bases covered at that point and went back to bed.
7:30 rolls around and there is a knock on my door. I tried ignoring it, but the knocking got more and more persistent. Then there was a knock on my bedroom window! My bedroom window is right next to the front door, but I have never had anyone knock on my window.
So, I get up, ratty, messy hair, slightly smeared make-up that didn't all come off the night before, whole-y pajamas, and low and behold, it's the mom that I called that morning! I opened the door and she said "Wow, you don't look very good" No duh, I've got the flu. I told her that I was sick and daycare was closed and that I had called to leave three messages that morning, Her response? "Yeah, we got your messages, but didn't think it was going to be that big of a deal for you to watch just one kid." This same mom sent her child to me last week when mom was sick...and now mom wants me to watch her while I'm sick? I was as calm as I could be and told her that I would not be watching any children and I would see them at their regular time next week. I shut the door before she could answer!! Ugh, so frustrating!!
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MarinaVanessa 09:29 AM 04-12-2012


Wow, so she can't watch her own child when she is sick but you can watch her child when you are sick .

Hope you feel better soon!!
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countrymom 09:32 AM 04-12-2012
inconsiderate, but I got one to top you too. In june my dd is graduating grade 8, so I was going to take the day off because I need to bring her to a hair and nail appointment, well dcm already said she can't take it off, so now I will have to drag her kid with me all day. The other dcm heard this convo, and almost ripped into her.
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cheerfuldom 09:36 AM 04-12-2012
oh my goodness! what is wrong with people??? they have no common sense and are so self centered.....what is up with that?!?!
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SunshineMama 09:37 AM 04-12-2012
Originally Posted by Half-Pint Hide-Out:
I woke up this morning with the always very lovely flu bug! All of my parents, except for one family, prefer to be notified of changes by text message, which is fine with me, especially when I can't get away from the bathroom long enough to actually have a phone conversation. I sent messages out to all my families, and my other family, I called them. This was at 6:10 this morning and their daughter isn't scheduled to come until 8, so they had plenty of notice. I received no answer on the home phone, so I left a message. Same with mom's cell phone and dad's cell phone. I figured I had all my bases covered at that point and went back to bed.
7:30 rolls around and there is a knock on my door. I tried ignoring it, but the knocking got more and more persistent. Then there was a knock on my bedroom window! My bedroom window is right next to the front door, but I have never had anyone knock on my window.
So, I get up, ratty, messy hair, slightly smeared make-up that didn't all come off the night before, whole-y pajamas, and low and behold, it's the mom that I called that morning! I opened the door and she said "Wow, you don't look very good" No duh, I've got the flu. I told her that I was sick and daycare was closed and that I had called to leave three messages that morning, Her response? "Yeah, we got your messages, but didn't think it was going to be that big of a deal for you to watch just one kid." This same mom sent her child to me last week when mom was sick...and now mom wants me to watch her while I'm sick? I was as calm as I could be and told her that I would not be watching any children and I would see them at their regular time next week. I shut the door before she could answer!! Ugh, so frustrating!!
I would term for that. They knew you closed AND knocked on your bedroom window?
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Breezy 09:40 AM 04-12-2012
Wow just wow!
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EntropyControlSpecialist 09:46 AM 04-12-2012
I really wouldn't want to work with that family any longer. I wouldn't have even answered the door, though.
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Half-Pint Hide-Out 09:53 AM 04-12-2012
Originally Posted by SunshineMama:
I would term for that. They knew you closed AND knocked on your bedroom window?
They'll be gone the end of May anyway...I just figure I'll suffer through!!
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Half-Pint Hide-Out 09:53 AM 04-12-2012
Originally Posted by LCLC:
I really wouldn't want to work with that family any longer. I wouldn't have even answered the door, though.
I wouldn't have answered either, but I figured she wouldn't go away if I didn't and she was really disrupting my sleep. Plus, it was nice to shut the door on her
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Angelwings36 10:03 AM 04-12-2012
Wow!!! I would have had a really hard time biting my tongue and not saying something I would regret later! She knocked on your door after already getting the message that you be closed? Then she proceeded to knock on your bedroom window? What is wrong with people. I would be sending this dcm a stern letter of warning:

Dear Dcm,

On Thursday April 12th I contacted you numerous times via telephone at approximately 6:10am and left 3 messages on your answering machine that I was unable to provide care to your child as I had come down with the flu. Please keep in mind that being alert is so very important in my job; when you are dealing with little individuals all it takes is a couple seconds for an accident to take place. For this reason when I am feeling under the weather and am not able to give the children my full attention and energy I will close the daycare. You will be contacted in the same form as you were contacted this morning if this were to ever occur in the future.

On Thursday April 12th after receiving the 3 messages I left on your answering machine you proceeded to arrive at the daycare and knock on the daycare door several times. When I did not answer the daycare door you proceeded to knock on my bedroom window, at which point I pulled myself out of bed to find out what was going on. Please be aware that this behaviour is not acceptable, you were well aware that I was closed that day as you honestly admitted yourself. Please also be aware that this behaviour will not be tolerated and if such behaviour repeats itself in the future your contract will be immediately terminated.

Sincerely,
Your provider.
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Christian Mother 10:21 AM 04-12-2012


I can tell you that I just can't begin to tell you how upset I'd be not to mention how upset I am for you!!

Your my hero though for having the courage to stick up for your self and shut the door in that parents face for even considering you where available to watch her child even though your sick...she even acknowledged you LOOKED ill. What is wrong with this parent?!! She understands needing care when she is ill but not the other way around?
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skittles 10:23 AM 04-12-2012
nothing that parents do ever surprises me. My own son is scheduled to have a surgery in June. As soon as I found out I let All my parents know in writing. Some are so nice about it and some give me so much crap! The surgery is only for one day and its a Friday!! For his evalution I closed the afternoon and still let them all know. They were all worried if they would have to pay me for the whole day (which they did not have to) or if I was going to do this all the time (I have closed twice in 10 years)!! Oh goodness, people today!!!
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momofboys 10:48 AM 04-12-2012
Originally Posted by countrymom:
inconsiderate, but I got one to top you too. In june my dd is graduating grade 8, so I was going to take the day off because I need to bring her to a hair and nail appointment, well dcm already said she can't take it off, so now I will have to drag her kid with me all day. The other dcm heard this convo, and almost ripped into her.
Wow - I would just say I am taking the day off - no exceptions! she has 2 months to find back-up - WTH does she do if you have to call of for an emergency?!?


To the original poster I can not believe the DCM showed up anyway. How rude!! And knocking on your bedroom window!!!
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permanentvacation 10:56 AM 04-12-2012
I can't believe they knocked on your window! I would have said something like "ARE YOU SERIOUS!!!???" and then told them to hold on a minute, gone and gotten their kids stuff ( I have the parents provide a change of clothes that stays here), gone back to the door, handed them their kid's stuff and told them to NEVER come back to my daycare!
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LittleD 11:23 AM 04-12-2012
Notonly all this, but wasn't she supposed to show up at 8am? It said that she showed up at 7:30am, so she was early to top it off?!?!
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e.j. 11:58 AM 04-12-2012
Just when you think you've heard it all...! Unbelievable.
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SunshineMama 12:15 PM 04-12-2012
This post keeps hitting a nerve for me today. I can. not. believe. that someone would be so horrid. I feel like some parents expect us to be super humans. We are people too. We require breaks and down time. 99% of the time we work through when we are sick. Like the 50 hours a week, 51 weeks out of the year your kid is here isn't enough, you have to come AFTER you know I closed due to the flu!?! Forget about the fact that the mom was awful for even wanting her child around someone with the flu. Talk about a terrible mother!

Do the parents even know what we go through as providers when we have to call off for a day. It is the worst feeling in the world and so hard to get the nerve to even send out that "I'm closed" text.

I am very kind and polite and people take advantage of that. But if I called off sick and someone did that to me, AND I knew they were going to be leaving in a month anyway, I think I would have just said, "ARE YOU KIDDING ME," and shut the door.

I just keep shaking my head- that is SO low!
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Meeko 12:19 PM 04-12-2012
Originally Posted by permanentvacation:
I can't believe they knocked on your window! I would have said something like "ARE YOU SERIOUS!!!???" and then told them to hold on a minute, gone and gotten their kids stuff ( I have the parents provide a change of clothes that stays here), gone back to the door, handed them their kid's stuff and told them to NEVER come back to my daycare!
This a million times over!!!
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itlw8 12:40 PM 04-12-2012
I hope you forgot to cover your mouth when you coughed on her.
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Kaddidle Care 01:23 PM 04-12-2012
Hah! I was thinking an appropriately timed puke (all over her shoes) would have chased her away.

I just don't get some people.

Feel better!
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saved4always 08:31 PM 04-12-2012
Originally Posted by Breezy:
Wow just wow!
You took the words right out of my mouth.
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momma2girls 06:47 AM 04-13-2012
After all the yrs of providing daycare, nothing surprises me anymore with anything. I have never heard of this one though!! Just when you think you have seen, heard, if all, something new comes up!! WOW!!!!!
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Zoe 07:19 AM 04-13-2012
So have you talked to dcm about what happened yesterday?
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Half-Pint Hide-Out 07:38 AM 04-13-2012
[quote=Zoe;219010]So have you talked to dcm about what happened yesterday?[/

DCG doesn't come on Fridays, so I didn't have to see mom this morning. I did, however, write a very nice, stern letter to her reminding her of her drop-off time, which she was early for, regardless of me being sick or not. I also added in the letter that her behavior was very inappropriate and that any further instances on her part will result in immediate termination. It's in her folder for next week.

On the happier side...I had one of my daycare families stop by with a cute little care package, with get-well cards, ginger ale, crackers and chocolate for when I was better!!
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Creek 08:02 AM 04-13-2012
Don't you LOVE parents like that?
Shoulda thrown up on her shoes!

I have to admit that I have been pretty lucky with my families. I try to accept children based on the interaction of the child/parents and I together. In any case, I have this one family. Dad is great, the mom on the other hand seemed to do a complete 180 on me.

I have had bad ear issues for years, getting really bad this winter. Many infections and constant pain later my specialist said it was time for surgery. I gave 2 weeks notice and only took off 1 afternoon as I thought this family would give me a hard time about it. The mother actually sighed after I told her about my surgery and the afternoon off that I would need on the Friday. She asked if I couldn't cancel my surgery because she had taken too many days to go to the spa that month and was planning on going to the gym that afternoon.

It caught me a little off guard, I was hurt. But repeated, no, this is necessary, and I'll see you on the Monday.

I don't know how some people can be so self centred.
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Creek 08:04 AM 04-13-2012
[quote=Half-Pint Hide-Out;219024]
Originally Posted by Zoe:
So have you talked to dcm about what happened yesterday?[/

DCG doesn't come on Fridays, so I didn't have to see mom this morning. I did, however, write a very nice, stern letter to her reminding her of her drop-off time, which she was early for, regardless of me being sick or not. I also added in the letter that her behavior was very inappropriate and that any further instances on her part will result in immediate termination. It's in her folder for next week.

On the happier side...I had one of my daycare families stop by with a cute little care package, with get-well cards, ginger ale, crackers and chocolate for when I was better!!
Good call with the letter.

Love that you got such a sweet little care package. Love families that care!
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texascare 08:23 AM 04-13-2012
Originally Posted by countrymom:
inconsiderate, but I got one to top you too. In june my dd is graduating grade 8, so I was going to take the day off because I need to bring her to a hair and nail appointment, well dcm already said she can't take it off, so now I will have to drag her kid with me all day. The other dcm heard this convo, and almost ripped into her.
Country mom, you do not have to take that kid with you! You just need to tell her NO! I am taking the day off as planned you need to find back up care. Don't ruin your day.
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DanceMom 08:38 AM 04-13-2012
Originally Posted by SunshineMama:
I would term for that. They knew you closed AND knocked on your bedroom window?
I would too, no question. That would be crossing the line for me.

Nothing worse when you leave msg's all over the place and they still show up, its happened to me twice. Complete BS.
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