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Old 10-14-2010, 07:58 AM
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I just began watching a 2 month od, mom said he took bottles from her. he's hungry but will not take the bottle from me. sorry he's shrieking as i hold him. what 2 do??
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:07 AM
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Sadly, I think you're just going to have to keep trying. Is the bottle warm enough? Try warming it (in a bowl of hot water) until it's really pretty darn warm--not hot, but definitely warm-- to the touch. He might take it then. Other than that, you'll probably just have to wait it out. BF babies tend to be rather put out by having their milk come from something other than a nice warm breast, at least at first. Now, not only are you a stranger, but you are most DEFINITELY not mommy; you don't smell right and you don't sound right and gosh darn it he's not happy about it. Warm the bottle even more than you would a formula bottle and keep trying. He'll figure it out eventually--maybe not today, but certainly in a couple days. And ask Mom to try having people other than her give bottles at home and over the weekend.
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:11 AM
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Sadly, I think you're just going to have to keep trying. Is the bottle warm enough? Try warming it (in a bowl of hot water) until it's really pretty darn warm--not hot, but definitely warm-- to the touch. He might take it then. Other than that, you'll probably just have to wait it out. BF babies tend to be rather put out by having their milk come from something other than a nice warm breast, at least at first. Now, not only are you a stranger, but you are most DEFINITELY not mommy; you don't smell right and you don't sound right and gosh darn it he's not happy about it. Warm the bottle even more than you would a formula bottle and keep trying. He'll figure it out eventually--maybe not today, but certainly in a couple days. And ask Mom to try having people other than her give bottles at home and over the weekend.
i do know all these things but thanks for lending a listening ear. gonna try again, the milk is only lukewarm (it is BM). not crying b/c i am rocking him but about to try to feed him again-tks i will try your suggestions
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:14 AM
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awwwww.....poor little guy. He's just not used to being fed by you yet.
I have had this happen before. For today, I would just keep offering it every few minutes or so. At pick up today, I would ask Mom to bring a baby blanket that she has used while feeding him.....try to get her scent on it. Then use it when you feed him. Put it across your front, leaving enough to bring up over him, near his face. Have her bring a new one daily, that she has used that AM or the evening before. This way, he still smells Mom while you are feeding him. It MIGHT help.
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:14 AM
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no problem. Good luck! Don't be afraid to warm the milk quite a bit--it's 98 degrees or more when it comes out of the breast, after all! And having it really warm might help him forget that it's not coming direct from the manufacturer!

Oh--and another thought--wait until he's getting drowsy and half-asleep. He might not notice as much then.
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im surprised he takes the bottle from Mom usually breastfed babies dont and are easier with taking the bottle from someone else. What kind of bottle is it? I have found that BF babies like the breastflow bottles more as they are more like the breast. Try holding him like you would hold a baby while breast feeding then try giving him the bottle like that also try to squirt a little into his mouth so he sees what it is and he should start sucking.
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:19 AM
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tks ladies!!!!!!! he is eating now. yay!!!! i will suggest mom bring a blanket w/her scent. thanks for lending your support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:25 AM
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awwwww.....poor little guy. He's just not used to being fed by you yet.
I have had this happen before. For today, I would just keep offering it every few minutes or so. At pick up today, I would ask Mom to bring a baby blanket that she has used while feeding him.....try to get her scent on it. Then use it when you feed him. Put it across your front, leaving enough to bring up over him, near his face. Have her bring a new one daily, that she has used that AM or the evening before. This way, he still smells Mom while you are feeding him. It MIGHT help.
i was gonna suggest the same thing! i had a brand new 6 week old who had never had anyone other then momma hold him, let alone feed him. i had mom bring me a tshirt she slept in. i held it if front of me whenever i held or fed baby. mom was a little grossed out i was walking around w/ her dirty tshirt, but it did the trick. after two weeks of "Wearing" her shirt, he settled right in. he just turned one, and he's the best baby ever!!!!
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:28 AM
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I was going to suggest the blanket idea myself. I had this problem with my daughter and it was very hard. I also found that switching to the playtex bottles with the brown nipples(the oversized ones) helped. They are super soft and natural looking. They also colapse when baby is drinking (more like mom). It was the only one that worked for us. Good luck
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:30 AM
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I get mom to sleep for several nights with a recieving blanket, and tent him from me. Then sneak the bottle in,.. but barring that if I lay them in my lap.
sometimes he will accept the bottle,.. if not just wait until he has fussed himself to almost sleep and sneak the bottle in. It helps to lay it on their top lip, barely touching and when they nudge their head towards, make them reach for it,.. sometimes that helps.

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I just began watching a 2 month od, mom said he took bottles from her. he's hungry but will not take the bottle from me. sorry he's shrieking as i hold him. what 2 do??
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sounds silly but warm the nipple too! I used to soak it in hot water while the bottle was warming. Moms nipples are warm - not cold rubber. It really made a difference for me in the past.

but then there was my dd who would go 8 hours (at 3 months) without eating. She'd take a binky and would not take a bottle - no matter what her sitter did. She just waited for me.
She is 14 now and still just as stubborn!!!
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Old 10-14-2010, 10:13 AM
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Glad to hear baby is taking the bottle. I'm on my third BF baby. I agree with getting the bottle real warm and warming the nipple. One thing I learned, was NOT to cuddle them up close like Mom does. Mine did better in the beginning, if I propped them on my lap and put thier head on my knee. I didn't try to imitate Mom nursing.

When they weren't suggled up, they weren't busy looking for a breast, but just took the milk.

After a few bottles, I could then suggle them up and they were fine.
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I just began watching a 2 month od, mom said he took bottles from her. he's hungry but will not take the bottle from me. sorry he's shrieking as i hold him. what 2 do??
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Old 10-14-2010, 08:05 PM
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they make special nipples for babies who are breastfed too - is that the kind he has? they are brown with more of a flat nipple than the rounded one?

he/she might be having to work harder to get milk than what he's used to. you could try cutting the hole to make it a little easier to come out.
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Old 10-15-2010, 06:56 AM
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I too was going to suggest a blanket or something with mom's scent on it.

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i was gonna suggest the same thing! i had a brand new 6 week old who had never had anyone other then momma hold him, let alone feed him. i had mom bring me a tshirt she slept in. i held it if front of me whenever i held or fed baby. mom was a little grossed out i was walking around w/ her dirty tshirt, but it did the trick. after two weeks of "Wearing" her shirt, he settled right in. he just turned one, and he's the best baby ever!!!!
When my son was a newborn and I started back to work my dc provider had asked me to do the same thing - bring one of my shirts on his first day. I thought she was crazy, but I did. She ended up not needing it at all. He never really cared who fed him or how he was fed, as long as he was fed. Now, 6 years later, he's not much different. He's a great eater.
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Old 10-15-2010, 09:39 AM
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Bottle nipples acctually make the milk easier to get than moms nipples. If you cut the nipple wider, it may cause him to choke a bit. When a baby is breastfeeding, they are able to control the flow of milk (unless mom has a strong let down) and they cant control the flow of milk as easily with a bottle.
My daughter never really took a bottle except on a rare occation, but the only way to get her to drink when she needed to, was to wait until she was pretty much asleep and use a very slow flow nipple that made her work for the milk a bit.
You can also use a small medicine cup to feed him, just put a little milk in it and feed him like you would a regular cup. Just raise the level of milk to touch his top lip, and he should drink. Its slow, but thats what they do with some premies that have trouble nursing.
Other than that, if he gets hungry, he will eat. If he doesnt eat well for you, he may start cluster feeding at home, which is completely normal and healthy. just irritating to mom.
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Old 10-15-2010, 10:19 AM
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Bottle nipples acctually make the milk easier to get than moms nipples. If you cut the nipple wider, it may cause him to choke a bit. When a baby is breastfeeding, they are able to control the flow of milk (unless mom has a strong let down) and they cant control the flow of milk as easily with a bottle.
My daughter never really took a bottle except on a rare occation, but the only way to get her to drink when she needed to, was to wait until she was pretty much asleep and use a very slow flow nipple that made her work for the milk a bit.
You can also use a small medicine cup to feed him, just put a little milk in it and feed him like you would a regular cup. Just raise the level of milk to touch his top lip, and he should drink. Its slow, but thats what they do with some premies that have trouble nursing.
Other than that, if he gets hungry, he will eat. If he doesnt eat well for you, he may start cluster feeding at home, which is completely normal and healthy. just irritating to mom.
well, not if they won't latch onto the nipple. when i introduced the bottle to my daughter, i tried just the regular clear, plastic nipple that most bottles have with the 3 little tiny holes. she'd try to latch on and end up just shaking her head around and then screaming her head off because it felt so different i assume. i started using that brown nipple and the bag/drop ins so i could squirt a little milk in her mouth to tempt her. she'd latch onto that nipple with no problem bc it was soft/flexible instead of the regular nipples that don't change shape.
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I just began watching a 2 month od, mom said he took bottles from her. he's hungry but will not take the bottle from me. sorry he's shrieking as i hold him. what 2 do??
I had one like that. Just give him more time. It's really, really nerve-racking in the meantime, but you have to stick with it. He'll eventually get hungry enough to take it. Maybe you could ask mom for a blanket from home, or even a shirt she has worn. Maybe the scent of mom will help ??
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Old 10-15-2010, 05:36 PM
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So how's it going today?
I did not have him today. Thurs was just a day for mom to get out & run errands before she heads back to school (to teach) next week. So Monday will be the 1st full day he'll be in my care. I'm crossing my fingers it goes better. It did not go bad but I was not prepared for the crying (very high-pitched shrill, made my 3 year olds cover their ears, lol). Anyway, mom is going to bring a receiving blanket that she slept with so hopefully it will help!
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Old 10-18-2010, 12:12 PM
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well, not if they won't latch onto the nipple. when i introduced the bottle to my daughter, i tried just the regular clear, plastic nipple that most bottles have with the 3 little tiny holes. she'd try to latch on and end up just shaking her head around and then screaming her head off because it felt so different i assume. i started using that brown nipple and the bag/drop ins so i could squirt a little milk in her mouth to tempt her. she'd latch onto that nipple with no problem bc it was soft/flexible instead of the regular nipples that don't change shape.
The nipple can definatly make a difference, but it will still feel different. Some kids are just more sensitive to that than others. I tried every nipple they make with my daughter, she didnt like any of them.
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When I worked and took my newborn dd to daycare, I would send a shirt that smelled like me for my daycare lady to put over her shoulder while she fed her. It helped a lot. Good luck, poor little one!
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