How Would You Feel About This

[greenhouse]

I had the flu recently and dcm still brought dck telling me she couldn't spare the time off. Annoying and I would have liked time off, but I needed the $ anyway and suffered though it. So dcm has caught it and has called out from work and is bringing dck over here because she can't watch him while sick. Would this "it's okay for you but not for me" attitude bother you? I feel irked.
Btw- I charge per day, so it's not as if she's paying anyway.

[daycare]

It would bother me, but I find that a lot of things in this business are all double standards.

I would just suck it up and provide care for her child. It's KARMA... She came to your house when you told her you needed to be off and she got sick.... Her fault.

[AnneCordelia]

That's the name of the game in daycare.

Unless your contract specifically states that you ONLY provide care so parent can work or go to school then you are in a tight spot.

I've worked through two colds this fall, while keeping DCKs because their parents need time to recover from the same illness.

IME, if you NEED the time off to recover then you need to close your daycare for the day. Given the option, parents will often bring their kids regardless of what it means for your health/day. If you need the time, then you need to close.

Let this be a lesson that you shouldn't feel guilty about closing for illness because she clearly has time off...she just doesn't want to use it on you. Don't offer the choice and she'll soon realize that her 'time off' is to be divvy'd up between her illnesses, her child's illnesses and YOUR closures.

[greenhouse]

It doesn't bother as much as her bringing him while I'm sick- it bugs me that she doesn't feel like she should have to watch him when she's sick. I think that's part of motherhood.

[daycare]

Originally Posted by greenhouse

It doesn't bother as much as her bringing him while I'm sick- it bugs me that she doesn't feel like she should have to watch him when she's sick. I think that's part of motherhood.

I know what you mean, but it is hard to provide good care to your little ones when all you need and want to do is sleep so you can get better and get back to work.

[wdmmom]

If she's capable of getting DCK out of bed, dressed, hair combed and DCM can do the same AND drive, she can take care of her.

I'd sarcastically meet her at the door and comfront her about the double standard and "thank" her for re-exposing you again!

Parents like that P!ss me off!!!!

[renodeb]

This is proof that parents are selffish and only do what feels good or benefits them. It would erk me big time but as providers we do end up shouldering alot of this kind of stuff.
Debbie

[AnneCordelia]

Philosophically I agree with you that parents who stay home should ideally keep their kids with them. Realistically it just doesn't often work that way.

For myself, I didn't close this Monday, when I had two wisdom teeth extracted. My sister came and took over for the 2 hours I was gone (they didnt' knock me out, I was conscious). I let parents know in advance that I would be frozen for the last hour of care and wouldn't close for the day. I did close the next day...and cared for my own 4 children while recovering. I was open yesterday and today.

Yes, it would be nice to send my kids somewhere else so I could recover quietly, but we had a nice day together on the couch, watching movies, eating noodle soup & ice cream, ect. To me, it's part of motherhood. But, then, I don't have the option. Maybe I'd have felt differently if I did.

[greenhouse]

Originally Posted by wdmmom

If she's capable of getting DCK out of bed, dressed, hair combed and DCM can do the same AND drive, she can take care of her.

I'd sarcastically meet her at the door and comfront her about the double standard and "thank" her for re-exposing you again!

Parents like that P!ss me off!!!!

I wouldn't get in the car and drive with my baby with a fever, I think that's crazy.

[AnneCordelia]

That's true about exposure though! I always forget about that.

It upset me earlier this year when DCD dropped off DCK because he had the stomach flu. Well, you got her to me and then breathed all over us before leaving. Gross. That's exposure....and you'd better not complain when I have to call in sick next week because I've got it too!

Originally Posted by greenhouse

It doesn't bother as much as her bringing him while I'm sick- it bugs me that she doesn't feel like she should have to watch him when she's sick. I think that's part of motherhood.

I don't mean this rudely or with any disrespect but....

...she doesn't want to watch him when she is sick because she doesn't HAVE to (you allowed her to bring him) and she brought him when you were sick because you allowed her to (because you needed the money).

If we, as providers are going to be strict about our illness policies and not spreading illnesses and sicknesses, then we need to follow our own rules. We can't break the rules because of needing the money and then be irked about it....kwim? I just don't think it makes sense to the parents when we have double standards....

[Cat Herder]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I don't mean this rudely or with any disrespect but....

...she doesn't want to watch him when she is sick because she doesn't HAVE to (you allowed her to bring him) and she brought him when you were sick because you allowed her to (because you needed the money).

If we, as providers are going to be strict about our illness policies and not spreading illnesses and sicknesses, then we need to follow our own rules. We can't break the rules because of needing the money and then be irked about it....kwim? I just don't think it makes sense to the parents when we have double standards....

This is so true.

Really, it is up to you to enforce your own policies. I know it is hard sometimes, but that is the only way these types of issues will stop.

Hope nobody else got sick......

[awestbrook713]

I just went through this same thing, I was suffering from a kidney stone but mom brought 6 wk old here anyways but the other day came home sick and was sleeping while I watched the child, and because my current rates are so ridiculously low she knows how to milk me for all I'm worth and pay as little as possible. Can't wait until january when I go to weekly rates although I sense a battle brewing to get everyone in line.

[countrymom]

I hate the double standard, if you can drive your child and drop them off then you can take care of them. Its called parenting.

[greenhouse]

Originally Posted by countrymom

I hate the double standard, if you can drive your child and drop them off then you can take care of them. Its called parenting.

She was looking better this morning but yes dropped him off bright and early and then returned home.It's not about being sick- its about getting out of parenting. I'm sorry, but nothing seperates me from my child. This poor kid.

Just like a child, adults that are sick need to rest. Taking care of a rambunctious toddler/preschooler while feeling ill can prolong the illness and stop the parent from getting well quickly.

Having your child go to child care while you are ill is not getting out of parenting. It is the best measure in trying to stop the illness as quickly as possible so that everyone can get back to work and on with daily life.

I would also think that limiting the exposure of the child to the illness would also be helpful.

Even the parents I have that receive state assistance are allowed that courtesy. If the parent is sick, the state will pay for the child to continue going to care with the belief that the quicker the parent recovers, the faster the parent can go back to work.

Originally Posted by countrymom

I hate the double standard, if you can drive your child and drop them off then you can take care of them. Its called parenting.

I hate it too-

it's called paying. She is paying you for a service

Parenting and paying

PP That is what it is PP Where do you get those smiling laughing faces......could use about three of them right here:-)

[SimpleMom]

Originally Posted by AnneCordelia

That's the name of the game in daycare.

Unless your contract specifically states that you ONLY provide care so parent can work or go to school then you are in a tight spot.

I've worked through two colds this fall, while keeping DCKs because their parents need time to recover from the same illness.

IME, if you NEED the time off to recover then you need to close your daycare for the day. Given the option, parents will often bring their kids regardless of what it means for your health/day. If you need the time, then you need to close.

Let this be a lesson that you shouldn't feel guilty about closing for illness because she clearly has time off...she just doesn't want to use it on you. Don't offer the choice and she'll soon realize that her 'time off' is to be divvy'd up between her illnesses, her child's illnesses and YOUR closures.

Yep, this exactly. Took me a few times to figure this out as well! I finally Close with NO option of attentdance if really don't feel well enough or capable of giving good care (i.e. if my kiddos are sick). Doesn't happen often, but once or twice in the past two years.