What Can You See In The Face Of A Child? By: Julie Cox (Face Reading Expert) Author, "Beginning Face Reading"

When you look at the moon, do you see a chunk of rock in space or a face in the heavens? Did you ever wonder why we identify constellations by giving them human and animal names? Stargazers fixate on the faraway lights in the night sky. Ordinary people look at faces.

From the time we are born, our outsides begin to form and shape themselves to reflect our insides. Children understand this. They carefully scan the faces of every approaching individual to determine whether they are friend or foe. They search the eyes, and in a heartbeat, make a judgment about whether to approach or flee. They are not fooled by a set of sweetly smiling lips, or by a syrupy voice promising candy. Our little people have a built in survival mechanism that allows them to see inside the soul of another without bias, to scan every passing face.

How do they do this? What do they see? Why don't adults retain this ability? What have we forgotten with the passage of years? The answers to these questions become clear when we examine the minute details of individual faces to see what the characteristics mean, instead of just the expressions. The image a person wants us to see if often very different from who the person actually is. Our faces become what we truly are and sometimes, our faces predict what we may become.

There is a language contained in the features on a face. Each feature on a face correlates to a certain personality trait. Once you develop an understanding of the meaning behind the features, you will see why we perceive others as we do. You will understand by simple observation, that the correlations of the shapes and sizes and their definitions are quite reliable.

If you are a parent, teacher or caregiver for children, it is immensely instructive to understand the meanings of the physical aspects of a face. Knowing the meaning of the facial features will help you to understand what kids see in other kids and why they perceive others as submissive or naïve. Or why others are seen as independent and strong. It will help you to spot the strengths and limitations that are beginning to form.

Look at a baby's face, with the big, round eyes, the small nose, the big full lips. There have been few external incidents that have influenced their appearance. That is where it begins - a blank canvas, upon which the experiences of our lives are painted until the day we die. Facial features are inherited genetically and are shaped and molded by parental example in your early home experience. Two thirds of the basic characteristics result from behaviors adopted during childhood. The remainder is developed in the adult years.

Even as an adult, you know that your face can change almost daily. When a child absorbs even a small portion of a given trait, it will simultaneously make itself seen through the corresponding feature to reveal a very clear picture of what is going on and those events which led to or reinforced the trait. Learning to read facial features will help you to recognize when a child is developing response patterns, which move him or her inward or away from true balance. Once a negative or unbalanced trait becomes ingrained into the personality, there will be a pressing need to modify or counter balance it in some way. You can learn to recognize this before a child starts to act out. You can guide the child to change the behavior before it becomes a habit that is even harder for them to break. Conversely, you can learn to spot a child's strengths and develop those.

There are other recognizable features that tell you that a child is "borrowing" traits from another, or trying on different faces to see how they fit. The reasons for selecting certain faces or features can vary. For instance, in some case, a child needs extra stamina or cleverness.

Benefits derived form reading the faces of children (and adults) are that it provides a concrete form of proof that certain life events can be seen through the face. Recognize the features and understanding the factors that contribute to their formation will give you a better understanding of a child's overall development. It will give you the tools to assist in the development that must accompany the child in his or her journey to adulthood.

Nothing is more beautiful than the brilliance and color of a human soul, which radiates through the face. The face of a child is painted with wonder and enthusiasm. Nothing is more powerful and more moving, than connecting all humanity, young or old, through the common language of face reading.

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