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lovemykidstoo
07-16-2013, 02:48 PM
I just had a dcm call me immediately after she got home to tell me that her son (2 yrs) was running a fever. They just left my house. She said she was giving me a heads up in case other kids got sick. I didn't notice that he wasn't feeling well. He had only been up about a half an hour before he let. In this conversation she says "he always comes home from your house sick". Then haha. I am so tired of some saying that. I usually say, oh I bet he never goes anywhere else, like the store etc. My house is the only place that has germs. What are some of your responses when people are so ignorant by saying something like this? I want to tell her to teach her 2 yr old to stop putting toys in his mouth and maybe he wouldn't get sick a lot.

daycare
07-16-2013, 02:55 PM
I just had a dcm call me immediately after she got home to tell me that her son (2 yrs) was running a fever. They just left my house. She said she was giving me a heads up in case other kids got sick. I didn't notice that he wasn't feeling well. He had only been up about a half an hour before he let. In this conversation she says "he always comes home from your house sick". Then haha. I am so tired of some saying that. I usually say, oh I bet he never goes anywhere else, like the store etc. My house is the only place that has germs. What are some of your responses when people are so ignorant by saying something like this? I want to tell her to teach her 2 yr old to stop putting toys in his mouth and maybe he wouldn't get sick a lot.
I would have said...

I am sad to hear that you think that he is always getting sick from my house. I guess he doesn't go anywhere else that he could possibly come into contact with germs? I also find it weird that he is the only child that this ever happens to. Maybe he is allergic to me or something........

Or yeah I find it weird that there aren't any germs at the grocery store, park, library or anywhere else, only at my house...........then I would have just stayed quiet

EntropyControlSpecialist
07-16-2013, 04:22 PM
If he is sick today, that likely means he came into contact with something on Sunday. I'm guessing he wasn't at your house on Sunday... ;)

lovemykidstoo
07-16-2013, 05:46 PM
Exactly. I have said before to certain people, oh I guess you don't take him to the grocery store or the mall and you don't work and carry germs home. I just don't know what people think when they say something so ignorant.

AcornMama
07-16-2013, 07:13 PM
Just considering the amount of time children spend in daycare, doesn't it make sense that statistically speaking they would begin showing symptoms of illness at their caregiver's home more often than in their own home?

Isn't it logical that any place you where you spend the majority of your time will be the place in which something...illness, happiness, fussiness, sleepiness, whatever...has a greater chance of happening? Do parents get this? I'm new here and haven't even started my business, so this is more than a rhetorical question to me. Really, do parents realize how much time their kids spend in daycare?

Oh, and do you get equal credit for the evenings dck goes home healthy? Or happy?:rolleyes:

JoseyJo
07-17-2013, 04:20 AM
Really, do parents realize how much time their kids spend in daycare?

Absolutely not in most cases! It makes me so sad :(

I was a really young mom and my kids went to daycare most of their before-school years. I am sure I made lots of mistakes- but I never sent my kids to daycare and took a day off, or went to the grocery before picking them up, or cared so little for their feelings that I was an hour late because I "lost track of time".

We have a little one whose mom has said many times that she knows that dcb misses her because she works so much- that a lot of his behaviors are because he misses his mommy. She sends grandma to pick him up 2-3 days a week because she's not going to get off until after we close, and dcb throws a fit every time. BUT she also has this whole week off and guess where he is? At daycare from 8-5. I was amazed today when she said he wouldn't be here tomorrow because she is going to spend the day with him. In the 3 years he has been with us she has taken him w/ her on vacation one time, for one week. Every other time he has went to daycare on all of her vacation days. When he was smaller it broke my heart how sad he was that mommy was taking him to daycare while she was staying home (or going places w/o him). He doesn't seem to care as much now, guess he is used to it. :(

She gets 6 weeks of vaca a year so there have been 4.25 MONTHS that she has chosen to send him to daycare when she was off in the last 3 years.

We have had a few parents who really seem to want to spend time w/ their kids, keep them home when sick (and actually take a sick day from work to stay with them instead of dope and dropping!), and pick them up at a consistent time each day. Unfortunately in this business it seems like that by far is not the norm.

Laurel
07-17-2013, 04:21 AM
I just had a dcm call me immediately after she got home to tell me that her son (2 yrs) was running a fever. They just left my house. She said she was giving me a heads up in case other kids got sick. I didn't notice that he wasn't feeling well. He had only been up about a half an hour before he let. In this conversation she says "he always comes home from your house sick". Then haha. I am so tired of some saying that. I usually say, oh I bet he never goes anywhere else, like the store etc. My house is the only place that has germs. What are some of your responses when people are so ignorant by saying something like this? I want to tell her to teach her 2 yr old to stop putting toys in his mouth and maybe he wouldn't get sick a lot.

How about how you really feel? :) "I don't like it when you say things like that. It makes me feel like maybe somehow you think that Johnny gets sick because of something I do."

Then let her stammer "Oh I was just kidding." Then you "Well I don't like it." Then let it drop.

One time a mom started to try to figure out WHO had given her child a cold. I stopped her right away saying "We don't do that here (meaning the blame game). People can pick up germs anywhere so we don't do that." She never said anything again.

Laurel

providerandmomof4
07-17-2013, 11:50 AM
My youngest dd father used to try to say ridiculousness like that and use it against me in court. We arent together and havent been since she was born. She was a very healthy baby. Just a cold here and there. I used to wonder if he really thought she was sick a lot or if he was just trying to use anything he could think of to use against me. And why was my house the cause of her colds? She spent time at his house too? Iguess he was insinuating my house was dirty and germy. Hmmm...wonder if dcp think that when they make caddy comments like that..:rolleyes:

lovemykidstoo
07-18-2013, 05:41 AM
I sent her a message yesterday asking how he was. She said he had a fever and no other symptoms. Told her sorry to hear that and luckily no one else here is sick so that's great that it hasn't spread. In other words, he didn't get it from a sick kid here.

PolarCare
07-20-2013, 12:31 AM
"Of course he leaves my house sick. There are 168 hours in a week. A child young enough to be in daycare instead of school should be sleeping about 11 hours a night, and taking at least a 1-2 hour nap per days. So on average, Skippy here is awake for maybe 12 hours a day. 5 days a week, he spends 9 of those hours or more at MY house. You do the math."

kimmills
07-21-2013, 06:06 AM
Kids spend most of the time in the daycare and it is but natural that whatever they feel or go through is in a daycare. If they get sick then it is possible that they have contracted it from a kid in the daycare or from a room they were playing in. Similarly, if they cultivate good habits, learn new things, make new friends, are happy or get back home in a very nice mood then also its the daycare's credit. One cannot blame only the bad things to a daycare and take all the positive things to their credit.

Cradle2crayons
07-21-2013, 07:04 PM
My three sibling set are constantly bringing colds into the daycare here. My kids are rarely sick thankfully, but I usually catch it from them. Of course, my main problem with these three kids is that their parents never taught them personal hygiene or hygiene manners and these last few months have been tiring having to teach them things they should already know by their age!

but oh well!!

JoseyJo
07-23-2013, 04:54 AM
Not sure what I would rather have-

The parent who blames us for every sickness their child gets, or the one who blames every misbehavior on imaginary (of course non-contagious!) sicknesses so they don't have to discipline.

Oh! and then there is the parent who dopes and drops and uses their work sick leave for vacations w/o child.

Ugh! Wouldn't it be nice if our job was just the kids and not their parents. :D