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Today 04:35 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
No but to me, that doesn't seem very professional
Exactly.
Itís not suppose to be professional
It was posted on her personal page.
Today 02:42 PM
Unregistered
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31 View Post
I am not a fan of FB in general but if it was about something personal and posted on the coworkers personal page, what does it have to do with work?
No but to me, that doesn't seem very professional
Yesterday 03:55 PM
Unregistered When I put a child's activity away in his bag, and all the activities from the past week are still in there :/
Yesterday 12:32 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
Got on fb this morning and a girl I work with posted about something personal however, I was appalled at the language that was used within that post and also another girl I work with did the exact same thing. Hope the employers don't see it or the parents...
I am not a fan of FB in general but if it was about something personal and posted on the coworkers personal page, what does it have to do with work?
Yesterday 11:06 AM
Unregistered Got on fb this morning and a girl I work with posted about something personal however, I was appalled at the language that was used within that post and also another girl I work with did the exact same thing. Hope the employers don't see it or the parents...
Yesterday 11:02 AM
Gemma
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Originally Posted by Josiegirl View Post
Obviously the people mandating masks don't have 2 yo.

Good luck!
Thank you!
I don't know how much of this I can take! I might just call it!
Yesterday 11:00 AM
Gemma My group is all 3yr and under, even if for some miracle the kids would agree to the masks, I can just imagine the drooling and runny nose discharge that would accumulate on those masks, how is that healthy?
Gross!!!
Yesterday 10:44 AM
Josiegirl
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Originally Posted by Gemma View Post
Mandate masks for age 2 and up...give me a break!!!
Obviously the people mandating masks don't have 2 yo.

How the heck.....?
I mean, parents can choose not to take them into public places(because you know they'll refuse to wear them) but parents NEED child care.

Good luck!
Yesterday 09:53 AM
Gemma Mandate masks for age 2 and up...give me a break!!!
04-18-2021 07:12 PM
e.j. Ugh! I hope they hadn't attached themselves to you yet. I've heard it's supposed to be a bad year for them.
04-17-2021 03:22 PM
Josiegirl 'Tis the tick season in New England again. DH just plucked 2 off my head this afternoon. Now I'm scratching like crazy.
04-09-2021 06:43 AM
Annalee some people......nothing surprises me anymore.....let's just leave it at that!!!!
04-09-2021 05:35 AM
gumdrops 18 month old came in today screaming cause she didn't get to open the door. I got her calmed down and DCM comments how her DD is so funny sometimes and she is the sweetest little girl. She hopes her personality never changes. I have considered terming because her behavior is so bad at times I think DCM is trying to convince me that I'm seeing things wrong
04-07-2021 06:07 AM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by 284878 View Post
I think I offended DCM.

Due to covid, the school keeps losing bus drivers and not replacing them. So routes keep changing. In January we got a new driver and she comes later than the other driver. I also started a DCB (that did not work out) that had to walk down to the bus stop, he would refuse to walk back up and we would not get back up in time for the next family to arrive.

So I said to dcm, the bus time has changed and we need to change your drop-off time by 5 minutes so I can get all the kids back to the house safely before you pull in. It should not be a problem since you normally come 6-8 minutes after the scheduled drop-off time, (she also would talk to me if she came on time). She gave me a look when I said that but she agreed to the change. (in the last month she has come 10-13 after the scheduled drop off time and still gets to work on time)

Just now she asked if they could go back to the normal time, "I know I'm normally late but I just wanted to check"
(Ironically the bus time is changing again after spring break.)


Did I offend her? I did not mean it as an insult, I was just pointing out that she already comes late anyways so there would not be any difference.
I wouldn't worry about it. You aren't in charge of the bus times. When I took school aged kids and needed to coordinate drop off times, I just TOLD parents this is the time I will/won't be available. I rarely if ever worried if it effected their time or not.

I would tell her you are available for her to drop off between X and Y times and leave it be. If she's late, that's on her. If she's early and you aren't there just yet... that's also on her. I'd offer up the times for parents and let them figure it out.

I wouldn't stress about whether or not the DCM is offended by any of what you said.

#Stating the facts
#Truth hurts
# If the shoe fits
04-06-2021 07:25 PM
284878 I think I offended DCM.

Due to covid, the school keeps losing bus drivers and not replacing them. So routes keep changing. In January we got a new driver and she comes later than the other driver. I also started a DCB (that did not work out) that had to walk down to the bus stop, he would refuse to walk back up and we would not get back up in time for the next family to arrive.

So I said to dcm, the bus time has changed and we need to change your drop-off time by 5 minutes so I can get all the kids back to the house safely before you pull in. It should not be a problem since you normally come 6-8 minutes after the scheduled drop-off time, (she also would talk to me if she came on time). She gave me a look when I said that but she agreed to the change. (in the last month she has come 10-13 after the scheduled drop off time and still gets to work on time)

Just now she asked if they could go back to the normal time, "I know I'm normally late but I just wanted to check"
(Ironically the bus time is changing again after spring break.)


Did I offend her? I did not mean it as an insult, I was just pointing out that she already comes late anyways so there would not be any difference.
04-06-2021 07:09 PM
284878
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
Why do schools schedule things for the middle of the day??

Ds program is in the afternoon, so now I've gotta close daycare for the day for an hour program.

BUT, I'm super thankful we get to go! Covid took away so much this school year, so I'm excited we get to attend this!
Yes, be grateful that you get to go. We get nothing.

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Originally Posted by Annalee View Post
They do that here because parents would not bring their kids at night time. An entirely different generation/culture of parents
That explains why they do this. When I started DC I thought I would be able to go to things and I found out when dd started school that I can not.
04-06-2021 08:50 AM
Jupadia
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
Why do schools schedule things for the middle of the day??

Ds program is in the afternoon, so now I've gotta close daycare for the day for an hour program.

BUT, I'm super thankful we get to go! Covid took away so much this school year, so I'm excited we get to attend this!

I get you. I had book off a day when my oldest had kindergarten graduation. But now I'm disappointed this year cause there is no little cap and gown pic or ceremony for my youngest (covid).
04-06-2021 08:12 AM
Annalee
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
Why do schools schedule things for the middle of the day??

Ds program is in the afternoon, so now I've gotta close daycare for the day for an hour program.

BUT, I'm super thankful we get to go! Covid took away so much this school year, so I'm excited we get to attend this!
They do that here because parents would not bring their kids at night time. An entirely different generation/culture of parents
04-06-2021 06:41 AM
CountryRoads Why do schools schedule things for the middle of the day??

Ds program is in the afternoon, so now I've gotta close daycare for the day for an hour program.

BUT, I'm super thankful we get to go! Covid took away so much this school year, so I'm excited we get to attend this!
04-04-2021 10:38 AM
e.j.
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
"I am so sorry. I was on the cross at church and my replacement came late."

So, you were late picking up your kids from daycare because you were too busy virtue signaling for attention?

What would Jesus say?

Happy Easter, y'all.
I bet there aren't too many of us who have heard that excuse! Just when you think you've heard it all, some inventive parent comes up with a new one! lol
04-02-2021 02:22 PM
Cat Herder "I am so sorry. I was on the cross at church and my replacement came late."

So, you were late picking up your kids from daycare because you were too busy virtue signaling for attention?

What would Jesus say?

Happy Easter, y'all.
03-15-2021 08:29 AM
Sunshine69 My first family of three arrived just after 7am this morning with 5y/o dcg wailing because it was cold outside and she wanted to stay home. Dcm waived and left while dcg plunked herself down in my entrance stairway bawling about her hands being cold. It was 10 degrees outside and 70 inside.

My second family of 3 arrived so I had to drag dcg, kicking and screaming, out of the stairway so they could safely enter.

First dcm sent me text apologizing for dropping off screaming child.

Third dcd dropped dcb off and informed me he forgot the kidís pull-ups. Oh-well, heís got 3 left. When I put the last one on, youíll be getting a call to pick him up.

Ugh! I hate Mondays after daylight savings!!!
03-04-2021 01:21 PM
Sunshine69
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Originally Posted by Bluemoon5 View Post
I feel like I say "We don't play with the chairs" or "sit nice" or "you're going to fall if you keep doing that" or some variation on the theme CONSTANTLY all day. Today we were getting ready for lunch and as I was helping to wash hands dcb bounces in his chair and falls backwards, knocking his head on the floor. Nice big black and blue egg. I say these things because I don't want you to get hurt, not because I like the sound of my own voice! I just hate when my kids get hurt.
Ugh!

I donít know why they need to learn most everything the hard way. If itís not the daycare kids, itís our own kids.
03-04-2021 11:58 AM
Bluemoon5 I feel like I say "We don't play with the chairs" or "sit nice" or "you're going to fall if you keep doing that" or some variation on the theme CONSTANTLY all day. Today we were getting ready for lunch and as I was helping to wash hands dcb bounces in his chair and falls backwards, knocking his head on the floor. Nice big black and blue egg. I say these things because I don't want you to get hurt, not because I like the sound of my own voice! I just hate when my kids get hurt.
03-04-2021 08:21 AM
CenterTeacher20 This week has gone by so fast... how is it already Thursday? Not ~really~ complaining about it almost being the weekend, but I feel like I have accomplished like NOTHING this week.
02-26-2021 09:55 AM
Sunshine69
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
I'm just tired this week. Burnout is r-e-a-l.
Agreed. IDK why it seems so much more difficult right now. Maybe itís the Covid factor and everything having been closed in my area so thereís not much to do away from the home.

I was in Target a couple weeks ago and a toddler was having a tantrum in the cart. I simply couldnít listen to it any longer and went to the other side of the store. It was like ďNope, I listen to this crap all week long. Not going to do it on weekends too.Ē

Iím taking a week off for the first time in five years this spring. Not going anywhere. Just will have my house to myself for a week. Canít wait.
02-25-2021 09:45 AM
gumdrops
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
I'm just tired this week. Burnout is r-e-a-l.
Me Too! I think I get this way every year in February. I just remind myself that once the weather warms up, this job gets easier and everyone is happier!
02-25-2021 05:48 AM
Cat Herder I am noticing a trend, here. 3 years going.

My *boy moms turn in paperwork & requested supplies, read notices and notify me of changes promptly and without need of reminders.

My *girl moms have to be reminded, hounded and occasionally threatened to do so.

Even the moms who have one of each. Boy is always covered, girl is left to wait or make due.

What is the deal?
02-24-2021 11:34 AM
284878
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Originally Posted by Josiegirl View Post
Yeh, you get to that point where you just want it over with already. But hopefully you'll find relief at the end.
Dear DCB

Sometimes I start questioning my decision to term you but then you remind me by keeping me hostage in my living room during nap time. Thank you very much for the reminder, only one day left before I can get my quite naptimes back. Good luck with your new provider.
02-24-2021 02:58 AM
Josiegirl
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Originally Posted by 284878 View Post
Dcm that I gave two weeks notice to, drops off this morning and says they are going to pick up early because they are going to meet with the new provider....awkward. But I guess it is to be expected.
Yeh, you get to that point where you just want it over with already. But hopefully you'll find relief at the end.
02-23-2021 01:50 PM
Unregistered
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Originally Posted by 284878 View Post
Their reply was about finding a provider to tour with this week. Either a virtual tour or in person. Since I could not tour on the days they wanted me to.
Oh ok, guess I misread your statement
02-23-2021 09:18 AM
284878 Dcm that I gave two weeks notice to, drops off this morning and says they are going to pick up early because they are going to meet with the new provider....awkward. But I guess it is to be expected.
02-23-2021 08:00 AM
CenterTeacher20 I'm just tired this week. Burnout is r-e-a-l.
02-22-2021 09:18 AM
284878
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
Why would a nyone need a provider either virtually or in person?? How are they suppose to watch children if they are doing it through the computer screen???
Their reply was about finding a provider to tour with this week. Either a virtual tour or in person. Since I could not tour on the days they wanted me to.
02-22-2021 07:41 AM
CenterTeacher20
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Originally Posted by e.j. View Post
I hope you understand I was talking about the response I said I would be tempted to give her and not your actual response. I thought what you said to her was perfect and you're right....if she took it as snarky... oh, well. She started it!
Lol, yep I misunderstood!
02-22-2021 07:26 AM
Unregistered Why would a nyone need a provider either virtually or in person?? How are they suppose to watch children if they are doing it through the computer screen???
02-22-2021 07:13 AM
Sunshine69
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Originally Posted by 284878 View Post
I get a call from dc over a week ago from a dad, they need care Tuesday, Thursday, and Fridays and I am only open M-TH. I let them know how to find care and tell them to call me if they have any questions.

I get a call during lunch last Thursday from the mom and they found to care for Fridays and want to set up a tour. I have something scheduled Mon-Wed after work this week so I offered them the last Saturday tour, which I do not normally offer.

Saturday won't work for them, They would like Sunday/today. I don't want to on Sunday, it is my family day, so I offer this Thurs. That might work for them but they would prefer Friday morning. I have plans for Friday Morning, so I told them that I was not available then.

I do not hear anything and start wondering if they think we are a go for this Thursday.

They want to start next week (March 3rd). I have done a quick tour and signing before (covid) and had it work out but those families worked with the times that I had available for a tour.

Well, I just got an email back:

"Thanks, but we will just find someone else that can accommodate us either virtually or in-person asap this week."

Count your lucky stars and wish them luck as well.

I had someone call a couple weeks ago on a Monday afternoon looking for care that Tuesday through Friday but only through that Friday and no more. Ummm, Nope! Not even worth the paperwork.
02-22-2021 07:04 AM
Sunshine69
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
Backbone is easier when you tell yourself the truth.

When you are flexible with a family you are choosing to meet their needs over your own family's to be liked. It is more selfish than simply enforcing your policies to meet your family's needs. Martyrdom.

How many times can you choose someone else over your family before your family see's no need in continuing a relationship with you?

Nurture those you love first. They chose to be there, they don't have to be.
Love ❤️ this ^^^

Very valuable advice!

I remind myself often, Iím doing this job to support my family, not ignore them.
02-22-2021 06:58 AM
Sunshine69
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
We have received a lot of snow in the past month. My handbook clearly states that when a state of emergency of any kind is declared, I will not open for the safety of all families and my own.

One family is determined to bring their children regardless. Mom yelled and cursed at me and told me my handbook didn't mean anything and that I should be open. Im convinced that some parents feel that unless my home burns to the ground, I should provide them with care. Its incredibly frustrating and upsetting.
Wow! I hope you gave her termination notice.

My handbook is my policy. My contract stipulates that failure to follow my policy can result in immediate termination. This is one of those occasions where it definitely would. Obviously she needs someone open no matter what. Iíd tell her youíre obviously not able to provide her the service she wants. Wish her luck in her search. Sheís gonna need it trying to find someone with no life.
02-21-2021 08:08 PM
284878 I get a call from dc over a week ago from a dad, they need care Tuesday, Thursday, and Fridays and I am only open M-TH. I let them know how to find care and tell them to call me if they have any questions.

I get a call during lunch last Thursday from the mom and they found to care for Fridays and want to set up a tour. I have something scheduled Mon-Wed after work this week so I offered them the last Saturday tour, which I do not normally offer.

Saturday won't work for them, They would like Sunday/today. I don't want to on Sunday, it is my family day, so I offer this Thurs. That might work for them but they would prefer Friday morning. I have plans for Friday Morning, so I told them that I was not available then.

I do not hear anything and start wondering if they think we are a go for this Thursday.

They want to start next week (March 3rd). I have done a quick tour and signing before (covid) and had it work out but those families worked with the times that I had available for a tour.

Well, I just got an email back:

"Thanks, but we will just find someone else that can accommodate us either virtually or in-person asap this week."

02-20-2021 07:49 PM
e.j.
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
Meh, if she took it as snarky, that's her problem.
I hope you understand I was talking about the response I said I would be tempted to give her and not your actual response. I thought what you said to her was perfect and you're right....if she took it as snarky... oh, well. She started it!
02-20-2021 10:58 AM
CenterTeacher20
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Originally Posted by e.j. View Post
lol I wouldn't have allowed her to enroll. Just would have let her know in a more professional, less snarky way, that it wouldn't work out.
Meh, if she took it as snarky, that's her problem.
02-20-2021 08:53 AM
e.j.
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Originally Posted by Josiegirl View Post
Just tempted??
lol I wouldn't have allowed her to enroll. Just would have let her know in a more professional, less snarky way, that it wouldn't work out.
02-20-2021 05:33 AM
Josiegirl
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
It was very satisfying
Smart lady you are!
02-19-2021 10:21 AM
CenterTeacher20
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post


Pfffttt... Pfffttt. Claws out.

That is a war cry down here. Hold my earrings.
It was very satisfying
02-19-2021 08:18 AM
Gemma
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
I would have responded back "Thank you for your response. I wish you luck in your daycare search. Have a great weekend." - Radio Silence

She just told you who she is. Believe her and move on to someone else.
this
02-19-2021 07:59 AM
Cat Herder
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
if I made you feel any type of way


Pfffttt... Pfffttt. Claws out.

That is a war cry down here. Hold my earrings.
02-19-2021 07:43 AM
CenterTeacher20
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Originally Posted by Josiegirl View Post
Just tempted?? That's(ideally) what I would've done. Does she get reminders from her dentist and veterinarian? I do. I always thank them. This person sounds like a.....well I wouldn't have stayed open for a tour.
How did it work out anyways, just curious CenterTeacher20?
Oh, I simply responded "I apologize for the misunderstanding and if I made you feel any type of way, that wasn't my intention at all! Best of luck in your search, I hope you find the perfect place for your kiddos!"

Lol I just termed a family where the DCM had an attitude like that, I'm absolutely grateful that I dodged this new one lol!
02-19-2021 06:09 AM
Cat Herder
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
just got a message from her stating that she is apprehensive about bringing her kids here because she is an ADULT and doesn't need to be reminded of a tour and that messaging her twice was "extremely unnecessary" and ended the message with "Maybe you've had bad experiences with parents in the past, but we aren't all irresponsible. Just food for thought."
I would have responded back "Thank you for your response. I wish you luck in your daycare search. Have a great weekend." - Radio Silence

She just told you who she is. Believe her and move on to someone else.

Even my doctors office does what you did. It is risk management. Payroll.
02-19-2021 06:00 AM
Jupadia
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
Messaged a potential DCM this morning at 8am attempting to confirm that she was still coming for her tour today, like I always do. She read the message and it showed that she read it, but no response- messaged her again at 3pm saying to let me know by 4pm whether or not she still plans on coming at 5:30 or if she would like to reschedule, so that I can let my staff know if they need to stay for the tour or not-- and just got a message from her stating that she is apprehensive about bringing her kids here because she is an ADULT and doesn't need to be reminded of a tour and that messaging her twice was "extremely unnecessary" and ended the message with "Maybe you've had bad experiences with parents in the past, but we aren't all irresponsible. Just food for thought."

Like sure, be annoyed that I'm checking in but if a tour we're scheduling for AFTER HOURS due to covid hasn't confirmed that they're coming, is it really that crazy that I messaged to confirm??? I'm second guessing myself but like, I dont think I'm in the wrong??
I had one last week that no showed at 6pm for their interview. To make sure I called at like 615 to see what was up. Mom thought she should be able to come after 6pm but at any point after 6pm that she wanted. Despite us setting a time for the interview. When I told her I was firm about times because I have my own family she decided not to rebook. For me once she was telling me that my schedule did not matter and she should just be able to come sometime after 6pm I knew that there was ko way this family would work. So I told her jo problem we wont worry about you rebooking. I think she was surprised that I agreed so fast and ended the call. How parents treat you before an interview with the small stuff can tell you a lot about how they will be later.

You double checking after no response to a text trying to confirm an interview is not a real reason to rethink care. She is just trying to be the one to control the situation.
02-19-2021 05:54 AM
Cat Herder Backbone is easier when you tell yourself the truth.

When you are flexible with a family you are choosing to meet their needs over your own family's to be liked. It is more selfish than simply enforcing your policies to meet your family's needs. Martyrdom.

How many times can you choose someone else over your family before your family see's no need in continuing a relationship with you?

Nurture those you love first. They chose to be there, they don't have to be.
02-19-2021 03:31 AM
Josiegirl
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
Child is 2 years old as of a month ago.

Child came to me in July 2020 from another provider. Mom has been trying to potty train since before she came to me. Every time the child hears the word potty, she screams.

I've tried to tell mom that she may not be ready and that this is causing stress to the child and the other children (child tends to begin screaming and doesn't stop) I feel like mom is blaming me for not having the child trained.
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
We have received a lot of snow in the past month. My handbook clearly states that when a state of emergency of any kind is declared, I will not open for the safety of all families and my own.

One family is determined to bring their children regardless. Mom yelled and cursed at me and told me my handbook didn't mean anything and that I should be open. Im convinced that some parents feel that unless my home burns to the ground, I should provide them with care. Its incredibly frustrating and upsetting.
Are you the same person for both of these rants? I'd simply point the dcparent to what your handbook says and it's there for a reason, end of discussion. If that doesn't stop them, ask them if this means they're giving their 2 week notice.

I always wanted to have BlackCat's backbone and never achieved it but I did get a little better as the years went on. Take back your business because there are enough dcfs out there who will appreciate and respect that. And who needs the added stress of dealing with parents issues??
02-19-2021 03:26 AM
Josiegirl
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Originally Posted by e.j. View Post
I don't think you're in the wrong either, especially under the circumstances you've described. Parents who have never worked in this line of business often don't get it. While she's right that not all parents are no call/no shows, you had no way to know whether she is or isn't "that parent". Asking her to confirm the appointment is reasonable, in my opinion.

With her response, she's just given you a glimpse as to what she's going to be like to deal with as a parent. Maybe it's my mood lately but I'd be very tempted to suggest that she continue her child care search elsewhere because "not all day care providers are willing to put up with her attitude 'Just food for thought.'" (I wouldn't really do it but I'd be tempted!!)
Just tempted?? That's(ideally) what I would've done. Does she get reminders from her dentist and veterinarian? I do. I always thank them. This person sounds like a.....well I wouldn't have stayed open for a tour.
How did it work out anyways, just curious CenterTeacher20?
02-18-2021 03:09 PM
e.j.
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
We have received a lot of snow in the past month. My handbook clearly states that when a state of emergency of any kind is declared, I will not open for the safety of all families and my own.

One family is determined to bring their children regardless. Mom yelled and cursed at me and told me my handbook didn't mean anything and that I should be open. Im convinced that some parents feel that unless my home burns to the ground, I should provide them with care. Its incredibly frustrating and upsetting.
Wow! Is she looking for a new child care provider tonight?
02-18-2021 03:03 PM
e.j.
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
Messaged a potential DCM this morning at 8am attempting to confirm that she was still coming for her tour today, like I always do. She read the message and it showed that she read it, but no response- messaged her again at 3pm saying to let me know by 4pm whether or not she still plans on coming at 5:30 or if she would like to reschedule, so that I can let my staff know if they need to stay for the tour or not-- and just got a message from her stating that she is apprehensive about bringing her kids here because she is an ADULT and doesn't need to be reminded of a tour and that messaging her twice was "extremely unnecessary" and ended the message with "Maybe you've had bad experiences with parents in the past, but we aren't all irresponsible. Just food for thought."

Like sure, be annoyed that I'm checking in but if a tour we're scheduling for AFTER HOURS due to covid hasn't confirmed that they're coming, is it really that crazy that I messaged to confirm??? I'm second guessing myself but like, I dont think I'm in the wrong??
I don't think you're in the wrong either, especially under the circumstances you've described. Parents who have never worked in this line of business often don't get it. While she's right that not all parents are no call/no shows, you had no way to know whether she is or isn't "that parent". Asking her to confirm the appointment is reasonable, in my opinion.

With her response, she's just given you a glimpse as to what she's going to be like to deal with as a parent. Maybe it's my mood lately but I'd be very tempted to suggest that she continue her child care search elsewhere because "not all day care providers are willing to put up with her attitude 'Just food for thought.'" (I wouldn't really do it but I'd be tempted!!)
02-18-2021 02:58 PM
Baby Beluga
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
Messaged a potential DCM this morning at 8am attempting to confirm that she was still coming for her tour today, like I always do. She read the message and it showed that she read it, but no response- messaged her again at 3pm saying to let me know by 4pm whether or not she still plans on coming at 5:30 or if she would like to reschedule, so that I can let my staff know if they need to stay for the tour or not-- and just got a message from her stating that she is apprehensive about bringing her kids here because she is an ADULT and doesn't need to be reminded of a tour and that messaging her twice was "extremely unnecessary" and ended the message with "Maybe you've had bad experiences with parents in the past, but we aren't all irresponsible. Just food for thought."

Like sure, be annoyed that I'm checking in but if a tour we're scheduling for AFTER HOURS due to covid hasn't confirmed that they're coming, is it really that crazy that I messaged to confirm??? I'm second guessing myself but like, I dont think I'm in the wrong??
No, you're not wrong.
Chances are mom has been accused of being irresponsible before from someone else and took it personally.
Wonder what she does when medical providers call to confirm appointments.
02-18-2021 01:28 PM
CenterTeacher20 Messaged a potential DCM this morning at 8am attempting to confirm that she was still coming for her tour today, like I always do. She read the message and it showed that she read it, but no response- messaged her again at 3pm saying to let me know by 4pm whether or not she still plans on coming at 5:30 or if she would like to reschedule, so that I can let my staff know if they need to stay for the tour or not-- and just got a message from her stating that she is apprehensive about bringing her kids here because she is an ADULT and doesn't need to be reminded of a tour and that messaging her twice was "extremely unnecessary" and ended the message with "Maybe you've had bad experiences with parents in the past, but we aren't all irresponsible. Just food for thought."

Like sure, be annoyed that I'm checking in but if a tour we're scheduling for AFTER HOURS due to covid hasn't confirmed that they're coming, is it really that crazy that I messaged to confirm??? I'm second guessing myself but like, I dont think I'm in the wrong??
02-18-2021 11:49 AM
Unregistered We have received a lot of snow in the past month. My handbook clearly states that when a state of emergency of any kind is declared, I will not open for the safety of all families and my own.

One family is determined to bring their children regardless. Mom yelled and cursed at me and told me my handbook didn't mean anything and that I should be open. Im convinced that some parents feel that unless my home burns to the ground, I should provide them with care. Its incredibly frustrating and upsetting.
02-18-2021 11:46 AM
Unregistered Child is 2 years old as of a month ago.

Child came to me in July 2020 from another provider. Mom has been trying to potty train since before she came to me. Every time the child hears the word potty, she screams.

I've tried to tell mom that she may not be ready and that this is causing stress to the child and the other children (child tends to begin screaming and doesn't stop) I feel like mom is blaming me for not having the child trained.
02-15-2021 07:50 AM
Unregistered i just have to laugh at some of the excuses some parents give for why they bring their kids to daycare when they aren't working.

i had a parent ask where everyone was at (it was obvious she's not working today), and i told her it was a holiday so most of the kids get to spend time with their parents today. she told me she's not working either, but needs to clean the animal cage. she then told dck that she might pick them up "slightly early" since she's not working today. i don't judge, but i'll never understand.
02-11-2021 09:03 AM
Annalee
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
My DH saved the day and brought us some mini-cupcakes with white icing and heart sprinkles. I then found some small bakery boxes for the kids to decorate in my craft hoard. The red cupcakes will be going home in those.

I am quite pleased with how they turned out, too. It looks planned.
Emergent curriculum...love it
02-11-2021 08:46 AM
Cat Herder
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Originally Posted by Annalee View Post
We always wipe off some frosting before giving to the kids.
My DH saved the day and brought us some mini-cupcakes with white icing and heart sprinkles. I then found some small bakery boxes for the kids to decorate in my craft hoard. The red cupcakes will be going home in those.

I am quite pleased with how they turned out, too. It looks planned.
02-11-2021 07:27 AM
Annalee
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
I hear you. I got them here, too.

They are in, gasp, red frosting. Shoot me.
We always wipe off some frosting before giving to the kids.
02-11-2021 07:23 AM
Cat Herder
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
it's generous for parents to bring in treats, but why is it always cupcakes?? they are SO messy. i'm sure they don't realize the mess it creates, but it's not fun cleaning up frosting and cake mess from 8 toddlers. it gets everywhere.
I hear you. I got them here, too.

They are in, gasp, red frosting. Shoot me.
02-11-2021 06:59 AM
Unregistered it's generous for parents to bring in treats, but why is it always cupcakes?? they are SO messy. i'm sure they don't realize the mess it creates, but it's not fun cleaning up frosting and cake mess from 8 toddlers. it gets everywhere.
02-02-2021 10:11 AM
Unregistered Was supposed to close early one day this week, things changed and now I don't have to. I thought the dcps would be relieved because I'm not closing early. Let everyone know and had a parent complain because they switched their schedule around for my early closure.

There's just no winning.
01-31-2021 11:34 AM
e.j.
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Originally Posted by Josiegirl View Post
Argh
-9F this a.m., by the time I got home from grocery shopping it was -12F. Wasn't -9 cold enough, like we needed the extra nudge towards the Arctic?
Annndddd tomorrow they're predicting 6-12" of snow through Wednesday. I'd rather shovel than be a popsicle.

I just want to be in my garden.
lol They're predicting 8-14" in this area. I'm with you on wanting to be in the garden but just the opposite when it comes to cold and snow. As much as I dislike the cold, I'd rather that than snow. I don't have to shovel the cold! Stay safe!
01-31-2021 06:58 AM
Josiegirl Argh
-9F this a.m., by the time I got home from grocery shopping it was -12F. Wasn't -9 cold enough, like we needed the extra nudge towards the Arctic?
Annndddd tomorrow they're predicting 6-12" of snow through Wednesday. I'd rather shovel than be a popsicle.

I just want to be in my garden.
01-30-2021 09:01 PM
Jupadia
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Originally Posted by VictoryCare View Post
I know how you feel Jupadia, I am dealing with the exact same thing, it's constantly back and forth between the kids doing school and the rest of the kids who aren't, and like you said, can not do anything until school is done, it stinks, sorry you are dealing with it too, it makes for a very tiring day
Sorry to hear your going threw it to.

Last spring I lost my clients and online school consested of a few assignments posted per week with some mabey having a pretaped lesson. This year it's so much more. Both of my kids need in person school. The oldest get anxiety when speaking especially when talking about things he is not 100% on. He gets extremely hard on himself for not doing things right the first time or answering wrong. He has been like this since his was little. So in person school was the best for him. Having him home only sets back his progress for the year. Let me tell you having him read a simple book report outloud for me to tape this week almost killed me. If the kid sounds rehearsed its cause I made him read rhrew his own work like a half a dozen times. I knew I only get 1 shot ag tapering him before he shut down. But he did it.
The youngest needs in person school cause he is behind. The thing is he behind for his grade level but not realy for his age though he not at the beging of the group either for his age more on the tail end. The problem is he has a birthday 2 days before cut off date for school and there is no red shirting. This kid would have done so much better by being born two days (less then 38 hours) later.

One of my parents is so great she is a teacher and has her own kid she is helping threw Kindergarten as well. She so great that the kids are missing out a bit on things. But her kid is also just 1 and realy only just sits outside and cant move in snowsuit. Actually 2 of my e can barely move in their snow suit though one dose walk. The other moves a bit more but hates the cold and hangs by the door till we go back in most days or just sits in a little tikes car.
01-30-2021 04:22 PM
VictoryCare I know how you feel Jupadia, I am dealing with the exact same thing, it's constantly back and forth between the kids doing school and the rest of the kids who aren't, and like you said, can not do anything until school is done, it stinks, sorry you are dealing with it too, it makes for a very tiring day
01-30-2021 10:08 AM
Jupadia Longest January of my life.

We have been in lockdown since like mid November with more and more restrictions and areas being added each week. Then they announced that schools where shutting down down and going virtual.
While thankfully none of my family's have pulled cause their diffrent family's now and are still working. None of my old family's came back after first lockdown.
It's been so hard trying to balance having one kid in our family movie room for am classes (located next to daycare room, he is doing grade 2 and is online most of the day with his class. For the most part he ok by himself but needs refocusing at times. Also hates speaking in front of others so it's a fight to get him to leave Camara on and speak up to ask his own questions. He also tends to drift off and miss the assignment at times (mostly for language). The other kid is in Sr. Kindergarten and on for 2 to max 3 hours. Him I have to sit near and keep focused. His morning class takes place in the daycare room. Thankfully his afternoon one happens during nap and I use the babymoniter for the daycare kids and we sit upstairs. The other one then works from the dinning table. Thankfully I do have my laptop the oldest uses and the school got us a chromebook for the other one this week. Before that he was working on a crappy tablet with a wifi speaker because the volume sucks on the tablet.
First it was going to be two weeks late back. Now its February 10th.
I feel so stretched thin each day. Trying to keep on top of both kids while doing daycare. Our outside time only happens now after 330pm. It just cant be done before that. Crafts other then some basic colouring have disappeared cause I just dont have the time.
I need my kids back in school.
01-29-2021 12:23 PM
Baby Beluga
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
So very ready! My birthday weekend!
Happy birthday!!
01-29-2021 09:44 AM
CenterTeacher20
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Originally Posted by 284878 View Post
I spent most of Tuesday thinking it was Thursday (my Friday) but I was disappointed when I realized that I was wrong and still had two more days to get through.
TGIF!!
01-29-2021 08:53 AM
284878
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I spent up until an hour ago thinking it was Friday somehow?? Ugh
I spent most of Tuesday thinking it was Thursday (my Friday) but I was disappointed when I realized that I was wrong and still had two more days to get through.
01-28-2021 10:49 AM
CenterTeacher20
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Originally Posted by Annalee View Post
We can dream....ready for the weekend
So very ready! My birthday weekend!
01-28-2021 10:44 AM
Annalee
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Originally Posted by CenterTeacher20 View Post
I spent up until an hour ago thinking it was Friday somehow?? Ugh
We can dream....ready for the weekend
01-28-2021 10:33 AM
CenterTeacher20 I spent up until an hour ago thinking it was Friday somehow?? Ugh
01-28-2021 08:25 AM
Unregistered I've got a dcd who works shifts. He has never kept dcg home with him on his days off. There are months where he's on the night shift so he rarely sees her, and will still bring her every single day he's off.

It breaks my heart when dcg gets sad and doesn't want him to leave. I'm sure she knows when he's not working. He always has the lamest excuses, too. "You have to stay here because we're getting our tv hooked up." "I have errands to run." "I need to take the car to the shop." And then dcm usually ends up picking dck up after work, like dcd can't even pick her up early.

I love spending days with my kids so I don't get why some parents are so eager to get rid of them. These days go fast and they will regret it.
01-28-2021 07:57 AM
284878
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Dcg came with out snow pants, I pointed it out to dcd, I thought he was going to come back with them but he hasn't. We have to take sa kids to the bus and all she has on is leggings.
I found my DD old snow pants I am saving for ds.

what is with these zipper mittens? Every time a kid comes with them, I spend more time putting them on then they do wearing them. The only other option is one layer knitted mittens.
01-28-2021 04:52 AM
284878 Dcg came with out snow pants, I pointed it out to dcd, I thought he was going to come back with them but he hasn't. We have to take sa kids to the bus and all she has on is leggings.
01-28-2021 04:50 AM
284878
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OMG! Will we ever get back to normal???!!!

The DCKs are an absolute nightmare today!

Local school has been remote since a week before Xmas. I have 4 SA plus 2 of my own teens at home doing remote learning.

Iíve been up since 4am because I had to go out and do snow removal before my first client arrived. Of course they were an hour late 😡.

Iíve got each SA kid in separate rooms so they can focus without screaming toddlers or interrupting each other with their meets. This means Iíve lost additional napping areas so the 3 year old that fidgets through nap time keeps all the other kids up. If Iím not hovering over him, he sneaks around and takes out noisy toys.

I have one Kindergartner that has her schoolwork on paper. She knows everything there is to know about everything except how to do her schoolwork. Actually itís just a game she plays to get out of doing schoolwork. I let her use her tablet or watch a movie during nap but she canít do that without yelling and waking everyone up. If I try to quietly help her with school work, she has a meltdown because she doesnít want to do it.

When the SA kids arenít learning theyíre roughhousing and encouraging the younger kids to misbehave.

ATM were trying to get through nap. All I can do is sit in the dark starving and having to use the bathroom. The second I try to take a quick break, DCB will be up poking at other sleeping kids.

Will the kids ever go back to school???!!!

Calgon, take me away!!!!!
01-27-2021 11:28 AM
Sunshine69 OMG! Will we ever get back to normal???!!!

The DCKs are an absolute nightmare today!

Local school has been remote since a week before Xmas. I have 4 SA plus 2 of my own teens at home doing remote learning.

Iíve been up since 4am because I had to go out and do snow removal before my first client arrived. Of course they were an hour late 😡.

Iíve got each SA kid in separate rooms so they can focus without screaming toddlers or interrupting each other with their meets. This means Iíve lost additional napping areas so the 3 year old that fidgets through nap time keeps all the other kids up. If Iím not hovering over him, he sneaks around and takes out noisy toys.

I have one Kindergartner that has her schoolwork on paper. She knows everything there is to know about everything except how to do her schoolwork. Actually itís just a game she plays to get out of doing schoolwork. I let her use her tablet or watch a movie during nap but she canít do that without yelling and waking everyone up. If I try to quietly help her with school work, she has a meltdown because she doesnít want to do it.

When the SA kids arenít learning theyíre roughhousing and encouraging the younger kids to misbehave.

ATM were trying to get through nap. All I can do is sit in the dark starving and having to use the bathroom. The second I try to take a quick break, DCB will be up poking at other sleeping kids.

Will the kids ever go back to school???!!!

Calgon, take me away!!!!!
01-27-2021 08:02 AM
Annalee
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I know people have different opinions on the whole Covid thing, but I can't help but be annoyed when a dcp downplays the seriousness of it. I find myself explaining that as a business owner, I take it serious because I would have to close for a period of time.

I just had a dcm say that "oh, looks like the flu disappeared" and "most people don't even get that sick", "it's stupid", etc. I told her I've been lucky that it hasn't affected daycare yet and that I keep on expecting to have to close at some point.

It's like people don't get how the virus can affect daycare, which in turn will affect THEM.
People are so DONE!!!! We just want it OVER and NORMALCY! It has drained everyone mentally, physically and everything in-between. There are some truths, some myths and we will forever be effected by this time in our life; but still move on to greater things is my hope!
01-27-2021 07:52 AM
CountryRoads I know people have different opinions on the whole Covid thing, but I can't help but be annoyed when a dcp downplays the seriousness of it. I find myself explaining that as a business owner, I take it serious because I would have to close for a period of time.

I just had a dcm say that "oh, looks like the flu disappeared" and "most people don't even get that sick", "it's stupid", etc. I told her I've been lucky that it hasn't affected daycare yet and that I keep on expecting to have to close at some point.

It's like people don't get how the virus can affect daycare, which in turn will affect THEM.
01-27-2021 05:36 AM
Cat Herder
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Originally Posted by gumdrops View Post
DCM wants 3.5yo nap cut in half because she is up for 4 hrs in the middle of the night. I don't think nap time is the problem...sounds like a parenting problem!
"That sounds difficult. How much exercise is she getting after dinner, DCM? You should start there. Our naptime schedule is not up for debate."
01-27-2021 05:11 AM
gumdrops DCM wants 3.5yo nap cut in half because she is up for 4 hrs in the middle of the night. I don't think nap time is the problem...sounds like a parenting problem!
01-21-2021 05:00 AM
Cat Herder
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Originally Posted by Annalee View Post
You can solve that.....one drop off, one pickup....I learned that the hard way!
Yes.

One drop-off and one pick-up, per day.
01-20-2021 03:39 PM
Annalee
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
Dcm said dcg (most difficult child) wouldn't be coming today...guess who shows up this morning.

Picks her up early to go to her physical therapy and says she won't be bringing her back. Guess who just messaged me and said she's bringing her back.

Ugh, never fails.
You can solve that.....one drop off, one pickup....I learned that the hard way!
01-20-2021 01:51 PM
CountryRoads Dcm said dcg (most difficult child) wouldn't be coming today...guess who shows up this morning.

Picks her up early to go to her physical therapy and says she won't be bringing her back. Guess who just messaged me and said she's bringing her back.

Ugh, never fails.
01-19-2021 02:48 PM
e.j.
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Originally Posted by Unregistered View Post
Why would anyone give their kids miralax before daycare???? I have a nephew that use to have to take Miralax but he took it at night
Some parents don't want to have to deal with the poopy diapers that result.
01-19-2021 01:22 PM
Unregistered Why would anyone give their kids miralax before daycare???? I have a nephew that use to have to take Miralax but he took it at night
01-19-2021 11:52 AM
Cat Herder
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I unfortunately I work in a center so no can do. Thatís not grounds for termination
Sad.

There is a huge risk in accepting kids on laxatives into care. Hope they have excellent insurance.
01-19-2021 11:41 AM
Unregistered
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
Sounds like you get to send three kids home today.

I would let them go for that. Instant termination for dope and drop.
I unfortunately I work in a center so no can do. Thatís not grounds for termination
01-19-2021 11:38 AM
Cat Herder
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3 parents gave their kids Miralax today and the poop has not stopped!!
Sounds like you get to send three kids home today.

I would let them go for that. Instant termination for dope and drop.
01-19-2021 11:28 AM
Unregistered 3 parents gave their kids Miralax today and the poop has not stopped!!
01-19-2021 05:22 AM
gumdrops DCG was up from 3-6 this morning...she's 3.5! This happens approx 1x/week. Usually she naps for 1/2 hr and is good to go, I think today is going to be different
01-14-2021 01:36 PM
CenterTeacher20 I'm seriously crossing my fingers for a snow day tomorrow. I need it
01-14-2021 07:43 AM
CountryRoads Dcm walks in and and just leaves the door wide open. It's 10 degrees outside. I had to go close it for her. Careless things like this just irk me
01-11-2021 07:42 AM
Unregistered When I say your child needs to be here PRIOR to snack time in order to have snack, that means they need to be here BEFORE snack time. Not right at snack time when the plates are fixed and kids are sitting down eating, but BEFORE.

Then I'M the one that gets the dirty look when I have to tell dcp that they've missed snack.

Grr. I'm in a mood today :/
01-08-2021 04:58 PM
Annalee
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Oh my goodness!
I have her relative

I stopped taking infants for years.
Finally took one and he was a really good baby.

DCM makes a point of telling every parent of any infant I have now that her child is the reason I now accept babies.

Heís also the reason I stopped taking SA kids but I donít hear her telling any one that.
If only these parents knew some our 'real thoughts'..
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