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05-15-2019 06:44 PM
storybookending Itís funny you guys are discussing this because today will be the first day that I ran my AC (canít open the windows bc the storms are still on) but tonight if I donít turn the heat on to kick back in I will wake up freezing. It was for sure sweater weather this AM but not this afternoon. We had pick up at the park today and I packed all of the sweaters to go home but did not think about it as they were leaving. I also had two bring shorts for me to change them into and sure enough that was necessary. I myself start off with pants in the morning and switch some time throughout the day.
05-15-2019 01:51 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by MomBoss View Post
What bothers me the most is my daycare is in the basement and at the end of the day we go outside for parent pick up and i have to carry a pile of sweaters, along with the child who doesnt walk, plus all the water bottles. I feel like i have enough to remember and carry at once. Plus i go to take off sweater from child..and he has no shirt underneath...poor kid
Aha, I can see that being bothersome I guess.

My kiddos all have locker cubbies with baskets so they have a complete set of clothing in their baskets. Whenever I remove an outer layer I just put it in the child's basket and then whether we are inside or out when parents arrive they go inside to sign out and grab anything they need to grab from their child's basket. Craft projects, extra clothing or whatever needs to go home for the day.

Water bottles....I have a shower caddy I use for everyone's water bottles, wet wipes, sun screen and everything else we have to haul outside with us.
05-15-2019 01:47 PM
MomBoss
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31 View Post
Because it's MN. Its cold in the mornings (sweater) and hot in the afternoons...T-shirt.

I require my kids to be dressed that way. Our furnace runs in the morning but by afternoon snack, the AC is on.

I dress that way. A t-shirt with a sweatshirt or sweater over the top. Remove layers as the weather changes.

I guess I thought that was how *most* Minnesotan's dressed.

As for tracking who's sweater is who's.... I require clothing to be labeled. Solves that issue easily.

What bothers me the most is my daycare is in the basement and at the end of the day we go outside for parent pick up and i have to carry a pile of sweaters, along with the child who doesnt walk, plus all the water bottles. I feel like i have enough to remember and carry at once. Plus i go to take off sweater from child..and he has no shirt underneath...poor kid
05-15-2019 01:41 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by MomBoss View Post
Why do parents dress their kids in layers (tshirt under sweater) and ask us to take off their clothes if they get too hot? Why cant they dress them appropriately? Its 80 degrees outside. Why did you need to dress your child in a sweater? I dont want to keep track of whose sweater belongs to who.
Because it's MN. Its cold in the mornings (sweater) and hot in the afternoons...T-shirt.

I require my kids to be dressed that way. Our furnace runs in the morning but by afternoon snack, the AC is on.

I dress that way. A t-shirt with a sweatshirt or sweater over the top. Remove layers as the weather changes.

I guess I thought that was how *most* Minnesotan's dressed.

As for tracking who's sweater is who's.... I require clothing to be labeled. Solves that issue easily.
05-15-2019 01:37 PM
MomBoss Why do parents dress their kids in layers (tshirt under sweater) and ask us to take off their clothes if they get too hot? Why cant they dress them appropriately? Its 80 degrees outside. Why did you need to dress your child in a sweater? I dont want to keep track of whose sweater belongs to who.
05-15-2019 05:49 AM
CountryRoads Dcb3 was smacking dcm in the face and pulling her hair during his tantrum.

She laughed and did absolutely nothing.

No words.
05-10-2019 11:41 AM
Mom2Two There's a horrible, highly contagious stomach bug going around here. A bunch of children caught it as well as two parents and a grandparent. It strikes without warning: fine then barf. I am so glad it's Friday!!!
05-07-2019 01:14 PM
MamaG2903 Why are my worst daycare kids the children of TEACHERS?! You literally spend all day dealing with other people's children and YOUR child is completely out of control and undisciplined. It boggles the mind!

Also, June can't come fast enough so I can give notice to a teacher who has the most horribly behaved child I've ever had the displeasure of knowing. If I even make it to June after this week.
05-06-2019 02:03 PM
BumbleBee
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
I had my first allergy excuse this morning.

"She has a bad cough, but no fever. It must be allergies."

I don't know for sure that it's not allergies, but she has been coughing non stop during nap. She has not slept at all and neither has my own child. Is the day almost over?!
Turns out it was strep throat. Lovely.
05-06-2019 12:22 PM
CountryRoads
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Originally Posted by BumbleBee View Post
I really love it when I catch allergies from coughing, sneezing, snotting children.
I had my first allergy excuse this morning.

"She has a bad cough, but no fever. It must be allergies."

I don't know for sure that it's not allergies, but she has been coughing non stop during nap. She has not slept at all and neither has my own child. Is the day almost over?!
05-03-2019 12:31 PM
BumbleBee I really love it when I catch allergies from coughing, sneezing, snotting children.
05-03-2019 11:26 AM
Flowerchild I had a great day yesterday. But today was assessment again and my kids are misbehavung. All because one won't behave and isn't usually here until afterschool. She's been a mess this week as well. My boss wrote me up this week and I can't get kids yo listen so it's been a struggle. I'm ready to go home. My boss played happiness police and I feel under watch this week. Everything I do is going yo be wrong. At least I feel like I'm being treated luke everything I did during assement was bad or wrong. And I'm always nervous around my coworkers now. It's been a struggle lately at work for us all but I feel like I got punished for being over this place. Treated badly for some reason. I'm really in a bad mood right now. Sorry boss 😞
05-03-2019 08:56 AM
CountryRoads Dcg gets downstairs, dcm takes off her shoes and says "we need to take off your shoes, you have mud all over them from playing in the field yesterday." This is AFTER walking all through our upstairs to get downstairs.

Upon further investigation, it is mud mixed with POOP. Outside they went
05-03-2019 06:02 AM
Daycaremomma01
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Originally Posted by Mom2Two View Post
Are you allowed to take another family and still be unlicensed? If you could take on another family soon, it would be softened when they quit. And also, the first family might be a bit more manageable when they see that the same rules apply to everyone.
With the kids I have currently, I can take on one more child, unrelated.
05-02-2019 12:45 PM
Mom2Two
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Originally Posted by Daycaremomma01 View Post
Ahhh!
I just wanna tell DCM ďthis is my contract, take it or leave it!Ē

Back story: I provide daycare for family. (Yes, I know, first mistake - when they term(and I know they will sooner than later) I wonít take on any more family, period.
After some issues with one family (three kids, my biggest income) and posting here, I decided to make a contract. Let parents know last week that it would be coming home Monday (sent with parents at drop off this Monday morning).
This particular dcm texted asking if we could talk about it at pick up, she had some questions, wanted to make sure she understood what a couple things meant.
Literally questioned everything -ďwhat do you mean by Ďmy house rules apply at drop off and pick up?Ē ďso I canít give Tylenol and then bring to you?Ē ďSo if Iím late, youíre charging me more?Ē ďOne drop/pick up? So I canít drop the baby off and hubby bring the boys later?Ē ďSo these days you canít keep them? What if I donít have time to take off?Ē(all major holidays and one week for a previously planned vaca before she asked me to keep her kids) ďwell dcb1 has a sensitive gag reflex, if he throws up because if that do I have to pick up?Ē ďDCKs have allergies, I canít call in every time one has a runny nose or gets sick...Ē
And then this morning She had the nerve to ask for a family or a sibling discount (when Iím beating anyone arounds Prices by $5-15/child/day, if not more!) because there will be weeks in the summer where she will be paying me $300/week for 3 kids!

I just wanna yell at her!
Thanks for letting me vent. Shew.

Are you allowed to take another family and still be unlicensed? If you could take on another family soon, it would be softened when they quit. And also, the first family might be a bit more manageable when they see that the same rules apply to everyone.
05-02-2019 12:43 PM
Mom2Two
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Originally Posted by BumbleBee View Post
Friggin parent. 1:30pm, smack in the middle of nap time. *Bang bang bang* HAPPY MAY DAY! As her kid clangs his noise maker.

Me: "thanks. It's nap time." Take flowers and shut the door on them.
Is she a passive aggressive type? I keep wondering if she's trying to be a problem on purpose.
05-02-2019 11:54 AM
Hunni Bee It is NOT necessary to pack 8 food items, two drinks and a treat in a preschooler's lunch. Especially if you left all of the items in their original packaging, which your child can't open by themselves. It is also not a good idea to pack soft berries in plastic bags. Also, mac and cheese doesn't do well at the park. Also, yogurt in a lunchbox with no ice pack on a 90į degree day can and WILL explode. Also, Reese's PEANUT BUTTER Cups are in fact a nut product.

Grrr.
05-01-2019 10:58 AM
BumbleBee
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Originally Posted by Firefly View Post
Are you serious? Wow
Dead serious. It's cool that they celebrate this holiday and all but c'mon, it's nap time. Her kid has been here for 2.5 years. Nap time hasn't changed. And she'd be the first to complain if someone woke up her kid.

Should I have responded the way I did? No. Do I feel bad about it? Also no.
05-01-2019 10:39 AM
Firefly
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Originally Posted by BumbleBee View Post
Friggin parent. 1:30pm, smack in the middle of nap time. *Bang bang bang* HAPPY MAY DAY! As her kid clangs his noise maker.

Me: "thanks. It's nap time." Take flowers and shut the door on them.
Are you serious? Wow
05-01-2019 10:37 AM
BumbleBee Friggin parent. 1:30pm, smack in the middle of nap time. *Bang bang bang* HAPPY MAY DAY! As her kid clangs his noise maker.

Me: "thanks. It's nap time." Take flowers and shut the door on them.
05-01-2019 07:53 AM
boy_mom
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Originally Posted by Daycaremomma01 View Post
Ahhh!
I just wanna tell DCM ďthis is my contract, take it or leave it!Ē

Back story: I provide daycare for family. (Yes, I know, first mistake - when they term(and I know they will sooner than later) I wonít take on any more family, period.
After some issues with one family (three kids, my biggest income) and posting here, I decided to make a contract. Let parents know last week that it would be coming home Monday (sent with parents at drop off this Monday morning).
This particular dcm texted asking if we could talk about it at pick up, she had some questions, wanted to make sure she understood what a couple things meant.
Literally questioned everything -ďwhat do you mean by Ďmy house rules apply at drop off and pick up?Ē ďso I canít give Tylenol and then bring to you?Ē ďSo if Iím late, youíre charging me more?Ē ďOne drop/pick up? So I canít drop the baby off and hubby bring the boys later?Ē ďSo these days you canít keep them? What if I donít have time to take off?Ē(all major holidays and one week for a previously planned vaca before she asked me to keep her kids) ďwell dcb1 has a sensitive gag reflex, if he throws up because if that do I have to pick up?Ē ďDCKs have allergies, I canít call in every time one has a runny nose or gets sick...Ē
And then this morning She had the nerve to ask for a family or a sibling discount (when Iím beating anyone arounds Prices by $5-15/child/day, if not more!) because there will be weeks in the summer where she will be paying me $300/week for 3 kids!

I just wanna yell at her!
Thanks for letting me vent. Shew.
This is definitely a preview of how she is going to be as a client, so be prepared to enforce EVERY. SINGLE. RULE. each day with her.

Honestly she sounds awful, if you can let her go, I would use this opportunity to tell her you may no longer be a good fit for her family!
05-01-2019 06:06 AM
Daycaremomma01 Ahhh!
I just wanna tell DCM ďthis is my contract, take it or leave it!Ē

Back story: I provide daycare for family. (Yes, I know, first mistake - when they term(and I know they will sooner than later) I wonít take on any more family, period.
After some issues with one family (three kids, my biggest income) and posting here, I decided to make a contract. Let parents know last week that it would be coming home Monday (sent with parents at drop off this Monday morning).
This particular dcm texted asking if we could talk about it at pick up, she had some questions, wanted to make sure she understood what a couple things meant.
Literally questioned everything -ďwhat do you mean by Ďmy house rules apply at drop off and pick up?Ē ďso I canít give Tylenol and then bring to you?Ē ďSo if Iím late, youíre charging me more?Ē ďOne drop/pick up? So I canít drop the baby off and hubby bring the boys later?Ē ďSo these days you canít keep them? What if I donít have time to take off?Ē(all major holidays and one week for a previously planned vaca before she asked me to keep her kids) ďwell dcb1 has a sensitive gag reflex, if he throws up because if that do I have to pick up?Ē ďDCKs have allergies, I canít call in every time one has a runny nose or gets sick...Ē
And then this morning She had the nerve to ask for a family or a sibling discount (when Iím beating anyone arounds Prices by $5-15/child/day, if not more!) because there will be weeks in the summer where she will be paying me $300/week for 3 kids!

I just wanna yell at her!
Thanks for letting me vent. Shew.
04-29-2019 09:42 AM
Josiegirl
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Originally Posted by Indoorvoice View Post
My favorite family has not paid me for 2 weeks! I get paid online and normally don't check right away because I have never had payment issues. Well I noticed Monday last week that my favorite family hadn't paid for the week before. I get paid Fridays for that current week. I know I know! I didn't say anything or think much of it because they had a really rough week being in and out of the hospital with a family member. So I did not add on a late fee, sent a reminder and figured mom would figure it out on pay day that she forgot the previous week and would take care of it all at the same time. Well I have no idea what was going on last week but the kids were dropped off and picked up by grandma every day last week so I did not get to bring up payment in person. I sent several messages with no reply. Come Friday, no payment for either week. They left Saturday for vacation and will not be here this week so I'm guessing I'll get another week of no pay even though I don't give free vacation time. This is supposed to be a friend. I'm kind of hurt and thinking she might be on the verge of leaving or something! She has never ever missed a payment. I know I messed this up myself by not adding a late fee and letting them come last week without paying. Just didn't think this family out of all people would do this.
Oh wow and she never even replied when you sent messages. Doesn't sound good. Yeh, I'm thinking she won't be returning but I could be wrong. It's happened once or twice. I hope, for your sake, she pays you everything she owes you!!! It's a hard enough job but if you're doing it as volunteer work, it really takes any fun out of it.
04-29-2019 07:47 AM
Indoorvoice My favorite family has not paid me for 2 weeks! I get paid online and normally don't check right away because I have never had payment issues. Well I noticed Monday last week that my favorite family hadn't paid for the week before. I get paid Fridays for that current week. I know I know! I didn't say anything or think much of it because they had a really rough week being in and out of the hospital with a family member. So I did not add on a late fee, sent a reminder and figured mom would figure it out on pay day that she forgot the previous week and would take care of it all at the same time. Well I have no idea what was going on last week but the kids were dropped off and picked up by grandma every day last week so I did not get to bring up payment in person. I sent several messages with no reply. Come Friday, no payment for either week. They left Saturday for vacation and will not be here this week so I'm guessing I'll get another week of no pay even though I don't give free vacation time. This is supposed to be a friend. I'm kind of hurt and thinking she might be on the verge of leaving or something! She has never ever missed a payment. I know I messed this up myself by not adding a late fee and letting them come last week without paying. Just didn't think this family out of all people would do this.
04-26-2019 02:43 PM
Ariana
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
Not a vent, just an update. The above DCM brought me Starbucks this morning.

I almost cried.

Guess whose kids will be going home with the leftover homemade oatmeal chocolate chip cookies from afternoon snack?
That little gesture of appreciation really goes a long way doesnít it! The mom of my most difficult kids brings me coffee and cookies every now and again and it is so nic when we feel supported .

I hope you enjoyed the ice cream!!!
04-26-2019 01:59 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by AmyKidsCo View Post
"Sally" will be 3 in 10 days. Yesterday she kicked 17 mo old "Bob" at drop off. I said "Sally! Don't kick Bob - kids aren't for kicking!" Mom says "Ok, Sally, bye" and goes out the door.

Today, "Sally" hits at "Bob". I say "Sally, don't hit Bob - hitting isn't nice." Mom says nothing and goes out the door.

I get that it's in my house and I took care of it, but a little back-up from mom would've been nice. I would've killed my own kids if they hit/kicked a younger one.
Make sure on Monday to let mom know Sally wasn't able to participate in certain activities (for big kids) because apparently Sally's parent isn't reinforcing the "NO HURTING OTHERS" rule at home enough for her to fully absorb/understand it.
04-26-2019 01:08 PM
AmyKidsCo "Sally" will be 3 in 10 days. Yesterday she kicked 17 mo old "Bob" at drop off. I said "Sally! Don't kick Bob - kids aren't for kicking!" Mom says "Ok, Sally, bye" and goes out the door.

Today, "Sally" hits at "Bob". I say "Sally, don't hit Bob - hitting isn't nice." Mom says nothing and goes out the door.

I get that it's in my house and I took care of it, but a little back-up from mom would've been nice. I would've killed my own kids if they hit/kicked a younger one.
04-26-2019 07:49 AM
CountryRoads
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Originally Posted by BumbleBee View Post
Yesterday: baby arrives in heavy fleece footie outfit. High yesterday was 75.

Today: baby arrives in short sleeve onesie and pants. No sweater/coat. High today is forecasted at 53. It is currently 34.

Can people not look at the weather report?
I have that problem today. Very chilly outside and 2 dcks are in shorts and sandals.

Dcm: I should've looked at the forecast. It's not very warm out. They don't have any spare clothes, so sorry

04-26-2019 04:45 AM
Cat Herder Not a vent, just an update. The above DCM brought me Starbucks this morning.

I almost cried.

Guess whose kids will be going home with the leftover homemade oatmeal chocolate chip cookies from afternoon snack?
04-25-2019 06:40 PM
LysesKids
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Originally Posted by Ac114 View Post
2nd pack n play In 3 weeks that has been destroyed by the same child. Giant holes that you can stick your whole arm through. 😒😒😒
Time to have parent supply the PNP for their child or pay to replace it every time it's destroyed. If the kid can damage it that much, parents must realize the issue
04-25-2019 02:36 PM
Cat Herder 3rd day in a row.

Last DCP to pick up rolls in at 445, kids excited at the window, passes the driveway and parks at the top of the hill (not the end of the culdesac, that would make more sense) eating an ice cream cone and talking on the phone.

Her kids can see her. All the other kids went by 430. She asks why they seem so upset at pickup lately.

I'm tired so I say "They might like an ice cream, too." She says work has been stressful and she just needs a break sometimes. I tell her I understand but the city park would be a better place for her. So now I'm the bad guy. I might lose sleep over this. Not.

I have spent the last hour and a half of my day, for three days, with her crying kids because of her. I need a break, too.
04-25-2019 11:30 AM
LittleExplorers Parents who run restaurants at home so their kids will eat drive me crazy.

No mom, who used to provide all organic food for her kiddo, I will not serve ranch at every meal for her nor will I allow you to bring a bottle of it for me to give her.
04-24-2019 12:20 PM
Ac114 2nd pack n play In 3 weeks that has been destroyed by the same child. Giant holes that you can stick your whole arm through. 😒😒😒
04-24-2019 08:34 AM
Ariana
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Originally Posted by BumbleBee View Post
Yesterday: baby arrives in heavy fleece footie outfit. High yesterday was 75.

Today: baby arrives in short sleeve onesie and pants. No sweater/coat. High today is forecasted at 53. It is currently 34.

Can people not look at the weather report?
13 month old came in today with a light sweater, no coat, no hat, no shoes. Its 46F
04-23-2019 05:44 AM
BumbleBee Yesterday: baby arrives in heavy fleece footie outfit. High yesterday was 75.

Today: baby arrives in short sleeve onesie and pants. No sweater/coat. High today is forecasted at 53. It is currently 34.

Can people not look at the weather report?
04-22-2019 01:14 PM
LostMyMarbles Monday after holiday.. I am tired of crying, over tired crabby kids. The day is almost over.
04-22-2019 10:01 AM
Pestle It's a Day of Many Gates. My two boys cannot keep their hands to themselves. One is shrieking joyfully at the chaos and misery he can cause, and the other is panicking and howling and yanking on toys because OMG, other people are in the same space as he is and won't let him have ALL THE THINGS.

So, Many Gates.
04-22-2019 08:04 AM
CountryRoads After sending out a letter last week asking parents not to medicate their child before dropping off, I had a dcm make a comment about her grouchy, crying, runny-nosed child this morning:

"She hasn't had any Motrin since Saturday, but maybe I should have drugged her up before she came here this morning."

So funny, dcm. So funny.
04-19-2019 01:43 PM
Leigh
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Originally Posted by Ariana View Post
So sick of telling parents in a proud moment that their kid is doing XYZ and they say ďoh yeah my mom taught her thatĒ or ďyes we work on that at home all the timeĒ.

Completely discounting any work I am doing in the 50 hours a week I am with your kid. Yeah you mean grandma who has seen your kid twice in the past 6 months?! Ugh Meanwhile this kid is with me 50 hours a week.....mom even brought her here the whole March break eventhough she was off (and didnít have to pay) and last week took a day off and had her husband bring her little ďprincessĒ promptly at 7am...pickup at 5...usual time. Yeah ok supermom you teach her everything

At this point why even be angry. Its just mostly sad that these people have no appreciation for anything we do day in and day out.
I have had SO MANY daycare kids who are SO SMART that they have taught themselves the alphabet, how to count, how to write their letters, phonic sounds, Spanish...I have been so lucky to have all these self-learners so that I can watch TV all day and get paid for it!
04-18-2019 02:01 PM
Ariana So sick of telling parents in a proud moment that their kid is doing XYZ and they say “oh yeah my mom taught her that” or “yes we work on that at home all the time”.

Completely discounting any work I am doing in the 50 hours a week I am with your kid. Yeah you mean grandma who has seen your kid twice in the past 6 months?! Ugh Meanwhile this kid is with me 50 hours a week.....mom even brought her here the whole March break eventhough she was off (and didn’t have to pay) and last week took a day off and had her husband bring her little “princess” promptly at 7am...pickup at 5...usual time. Yeah ok supermom you teach her everything

At this point why even be angry. Its just mostly sad that these people have no appreciation for anything we do day in and day out.
04-18-2019 01:15 PM
Mom2Two
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Originally Posted by Ariana View Post
This is 100% why burnout rates in our profession are so high. Feeling like you do a ton of work for very little recognition or payoff. You feel useless and “what’s the point”. Meanwhile kids would be lucky to be in your program and parents should understand how important your experience and education are.
04-18-2019 01:14 PM
Mom2Two
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Originally Posted by littlefriends View Post
Oh man, yes please send it! Now Iím suuuuuuuper pissed-they picked up 2 hours after I first contacted!
Many of us have fees for late picks on illness calls. My contract says $20 for pick up after 45 minutes per hour or part of an hour. So for picking up 2 hours late after call for sick pick up, I would have charged $40.

That amount is starting to sound a little low to me though...
04-18-2019 08:13 AM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by Snowmom View Post
Because their ultimate goal is to have all childcare state run under the guise of "childcare shortage".
They want the money. Participation will some day be required, so they are throwing in all kind of new regs when they can to make difficult and time consuming to complete in the future.

FWIW, I refuse to participate. It will likely be the main reason I leave this profession.
A related note: I went to some of their required trainings because it fit in with some of the training I needed for licensing. It was a room full of about 30-40 providers who were constantly CORRECTING the "trainer" because she was giving false information. False information regarding SUIDS and AHT... imagine how horrible that is given this topic has been the major focus in licensing for the last 5 years.
Participation ease and/or difficulties must be directly related to the area and who the coach is similar to the food program.

I participate. Not necessarily because I drank the Kool-aide but more for business reasons and it's super easy.

I really haven't had to do anything different nor have I had to change how I operate in comparison to how I operated prior to signing up.

I understand why so many don't want to participate but so far for me it's been useful. I struggle more with licensing changes and requirements far more than with Parent Aware.
04-18-2019 08:08 AM
Snowmom
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Originally Posted by nanglgrl View Post
Just a rant...Iíve participated in QRS for 13 years (since it was implemented in my state) and worked my way up to 4 stars. There was a lot of paperwork and jumping through hoops but it was attainable without being overwhelming. I felt that the categories and way of scoring were fair and provided a great way of scoring so that experience and education of the provider both received points. Providers didnít need a degree in ECE to obtain higher scores and could instead earn points on experience and in other ways. The grants for participation were also a factor as they provided decently for the amount of extra work being QRS rated would cause providers. Most parents donít care either way but it was a way for me personally to feel more professional.

Itís time for me to renew this summer and Iím looking at the new requirements and canít imagine that any provider would choose to participate in the new rating scale. Especially a provider with a degree in ECE since even with that degree a provider would have to participate in a ton of additional trainings on subjects that were more thouroughly covered in college courses.. Im at the tail end of my BS in ECE and will be finishing classes this summer. Iíve been a provider for for around 20 years total. 100% inspections and a solid and successful business.. However, the requirements take very little of that in to consideration. The amount of paperwork and hoops to jump through increased 10 fold and yet the grant for participation remained the same. The list of things a provider needs to do looks daunting and would add so many hours of paperwork/training/parent involvement activities I would be surprised if centers participate much less home providers. In addition, most of the things they are requireing are not things my clients would want to participate in. If I were to reapply Iíd probably only get 1 or 2 stars because the requirements for 3-5 stars are just way too much work (with little to no actual benefit for children, families or the provider).

Iím just so frustrated. I know that QRS has never been a factor in why a parent chose me, I know this will not make or break my business. I donít get to charge more due to my QRS rating because most parents donít even know what it is and if they did it wouldnít be reason enough to pay more. However, I feel like Iíve worked so hard to obtain something I looked at like a ďpromotionĒ in a job where career advancement is basically non-existent only to be told that Iím now getting a demotion.

I know, itís all in my head but Iím still upset. Why make participation in a program harder when the program already has low participation rates?
Because their ultimate goal is to have all childcare state run under the guise of "childcare shortage".
They want the money. Participation will some day be required, so they are throwing in all kind of new regs when they can to make difficult and time consuming to complete in the future.

FWIW, I refuse to participate. It will likely be the main reason I leave this profession.
A related note: I went to some of their required trainings because it fit in with some of the training I needed for licensing. It was a room full of about 30-40 providers who were constantly CORRECTING the "trainer" because she was giving false information. False information regarding SUIDS and AHT... imagine how horrible that is given this topic has been the major focus in licensing for the last 5 years.
04-18-2019 07:45 AM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by VAmomof4 View Post
Why can't I find the new thread button so I can post on this site??? I spend so much time searching for the blue "new thread" button and can never find it!! Help
Click this link:https://www.daycare.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=2

On the top left corner of the screen you should see the new thread button

Looks like this:
04-18-2019 07:41 AM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by VAmomof4 View Post
Why can't I find the new thread button so I can post on this site??? I spend so much time searching for the blue "new thread" button and can never find it!! Help
Are you using a smart phone or PC?
04-18-2019 06:57 AM
VAmomof4 Why can't I find the new thread button so I can post on this site??? I spend so much time searching for the blue "new thread" button and can never find it!! Help
04-18-2019 02:07 AM
Josiegirl
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Originally Posted by BumbleBee View Post
Dcg4.5 thought it would be a good idea, while in timeout, to stick her leg out and attempt to trip me when I was walking by, with a child in my arms.

Newsflash: it was not a good idea. I avoided it but man I was p*ssed.

Then dcb5.5 thought it was A-ok to haul off and smack someone in the stomach because they accidentally bumped into him when they sat down next to him at snack time.
What is it with kids these days?? I've had dcks do very similar things and I have to wonder sometimes. Right now I have a 5 yo who thinks nothing of body slamming me, in fun, while I'm kneeling on the floor. Have no clue it's coming. I'm usually next to my 11 mo dck or another child and geesh, I'm 65, easily thrown off balance. She'll also do things such as your 5.5 yo does. There seems to be absolutely no emotional self control with some kids.
04-17-2019 05:12 PM
BumbleBee Dcg4.5 thought it would be a good idea, while in timeout, to stick her leg out and attempt to trip me when I was walking by, with a child in my arms.

Newsflash: it was not a good idea. I avoided it but man I was p*ssed.

Then dcb5.5 thought it was A-ok to haul off and smack someone in the stomach because they accidentally bumped into him when they sat down next to him at snack time.
04-17-2019 07:27 AM
Indoorvoice It's always somethimg. Finally got dcb2 to stop screaming at drop off and actually give me a nice hello for the last month. A perfect little transition that I've been feeling awesome about after dealing with a year of horrible drop offs with this little one. Now dcm and dcd have been giving him a pad of paper and a marker in the car to scribble on the way here. They do not take it away before coming in even though I've asked them too so now dcb is screaming when they have to take it away inside and marker gets all over everyone and everything. Why?! Why make it harder on him and themselves? He was doing FINE for a month with nothing, so why introduce this new thing to scream about? I swear some people feed off the drama and just have to make it hard on purpose. Yes, I will be telling them to absolutely not bring the paper anymore, but it just makes me that I even have to. Seems like such a simple thing for them to figure out and handle without the daycare lady having to make a rule and hold their hand through the process.
04-16-2019 07:52 PM
LysesKids
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
Ugh, another round of illness has hit us again. Coughs, runny noses.

Dcm dropped off dcb this morning. I mentioned he didn't look like he feels good. "I checked and he didn't have a fever this morning, but I still gave him some motrin."

Fats forward to after lunch - has a 101+ fever. Not sure I'm buying that he didn't have a fever this morning...
The fact she gave meds would have been a " take him home & I'll chat with you tonight." moment for me... I never took kids that had been given meds for a non fever, and most my families were good about calling & saying, my little isn't well, no fever, but I'm keeping him home anyway today
04-16-2019 11:06 AM
CountryRoads Ugh, another round of illness has hit us again. Coughs, runny noses.

Dcm dropped off dcb this morning. I mentioned he didn't look like he feels good. "I checked and he didn't have a fever this morning, but I still gave him some motrin."

Fats forward to after lunch - has a 101+ fever. Not sure I'm buying that he didn't have a fever this morning...
04-15-2019 01:56 PM
CountryRoads You're generous once and give someone something at no cost, and then they always expect it after that. Lesson learned!

Not daycare related, BTW. I would never give my services for free
04-12-2019 02:54 PM
Ariana
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Originally Posted by nanglgrl View Post
Just a rant...Iíve participated in QRS for 13 years (since it was implemented in my state) and worked my way up to 4 stars. There was a lot of paperwork and jumping through hoops but it was attainable without being overwhelming. I felt that the categories and way of scoring were fair and provided a great way of scoring so that experience and education of the provider both received points. Providers didnít need a degree in ECE to obtain higher scores and could instead earn points on experience and in other ways. The grants for participation were also a factor as they provided decently for the amount of extra work being QRS rated would cause providers. Most parents donít care either way but it was a way for me personally to feel more professional.

Itís time for me to renew this summer and Iím looking at the new requirements and canít imagine that any provider would choose to participate in the new rating scale. Especially a provider with a degree in ECE since even with that degree a provider would have to participate in a ton of additional trainings on subjects that were more thouroughly covered in college courses.. Im at the tail end of my BS in ECE and will be finishing classes this summer. Iíve been a provider for for around 20 years total. 100% inspections and a solid and successful business.. However, the requirements take very little of that in to consideration. The amount of paperwork and hoops to jump through increased 10 fold and yet the grant for participation remained the same. The list of things a provider needs to do looks daunting and would add so many hours of paperwork/training/parent involvement activities I would be surprised if centers participate much less home providers. In addition, most of the things they are requireing are not things my clients would want to participate in. If I were to reapply Iíd probably only get 1 or 2 stars because the requirements for 3-5 stars are just way too much work (with little to no actual benefit for children, families or the provider).

Iím just so frustrated. I know that QRS has never been a factor in why a parent chose me, I know this will not make or break my business. I donít get to charge more due to my QRS rating because most parents donít even know what it is and if they did it wouldnít be reason enough to pay more. However, I feel like Iíve worked so hard to obtain something I looked at like a ďpromotionĒ in a job where career advancement is basically non-existent only to be told that Iím now getting a demotion.

I know, itís all in my head but Iím still upset. Why make participation in a program harder when the program already has low participation rates?
This is 100% why burnout rates in our profession are so high. Feeling like you do a ton of work for very little recognition or payoff. You feel useless and ďwhatís the pointĒ. Meanwhile kids would be lucky to be in your program and parents should understand how important your experience and education are.
04-12-2019 11:55 AM
nanglgrl Just a rant...Iíve participated in QRS for 13 years (since it was implemented in my state) and worked my way up to 4 stars. There was a lot of paperwork and jumping through hoops but it was attainable without being overwhelming. I felt that the categories and way of scoring were fair and provided a great way of scoring so that experience and education of the provider both received points. Providers didnít need a degree in ECE to obtain higher scores and could instead earn points on experience and in other ways. The grants for participation were also a factor as they provided decently for the amount of extra work being QRS rated would cause providers. Most parents donít care either way but it was a way for me personally to feel more professional.

Itís time for me to renew this summer and Iím looking at the new requirements and canít imagine that any provider would choose to participate in the new rating scale. Especially a provider with a degree in ECE since even with that degree a provider would have to participate in a ton of additional trainings on subjects that were more thouroughly covered in college courses.. Im at the tail end of my BS in ECE and will be finishing classes this summer. Iíve been a provider for for around 20 years total. 100% inspections and a solid and successful business.. However, the requirements take very little of that in to consideration. The amount of paperwork and hoops to jump through increased 10 fold and yet the grant for participation remained the same. The list of things a provider needs to do looks daunting and would add so many hours of paperwork/training/parent involvement activities I would be surprised if centers participate much less home providers. In addition, most of the things they are requireing are not things my clients would want to participate in. If I were to reapply Iíd probably only get 1 or 2 stars because the requirements for 3-5 stars are just way too much work (with little to no actual benefit for children, families or the provider).

Iím just so frustrated. I know that QRS has never been a factor in why a parent chose me, I know this will not make or break my business. I donít get to charge more due to my QRS rating because most parents donít even know what it is and if they did it wouldnít be reason enough to pay more. However, I feel like Iíve worked so hard to obtain something I looked at like a ďpromotionĒ in a job where career advancement is basically non-existent only to be told that Iím now getting a demotion.

I know, itís all in my head but Iím still upset. Why make participation in a program harder when the program already has low participation rates?
04-12-2019 05:42 AM
Ariana Mom has the day off for a PD day. Guess who brings the kid here at 7am? Dad

Sheíll be here from 7am to 5pm on moms day off. She didnít even want to eat breakfast with her child
04-11-2019 11:26 AM
springvalley112 Had a girl that's a senior in high school come & volunteer with us for 2 months through our local trade school and wanting 10 hours a week. Trade school calls week ago stating that the following week would be her last week with us. She comes in one day last week to work and our administrator states that the trade school had called and that that week would be her last week and then proceeds to tell this girl that she wants her to work 3 hours the following week because she got paid for four but only worked one and still owes us three hours. One we didn't pay her to start with and two I think she owes us NOTHING
04-11-2019 07:46 AM
gumdrops I just "tried" stepping over a toy that's about knee high to get to a child who was pushing. Tripped, bent my toe nail back (have tennis shoes on), and I think I sprained my big toe. Luckily no kids were in my landing zone. Next time I'll take the 2 seconds to move the toy!
04-10-2019 02:16 PM
Leigh
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Originally Posted by littlefriends View Post
I would too!! $400 would get you a nice little weekend trip somewhere!
The money would be nice. I want it to happen (almost) just to hit them where it hurts. Their kid never, ever misses a minute of daycare.
04-10-2019 02:15 PM
Leigh
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31 View Post
Stay safe! I'm watching the radar as it's suppose to be heading my way too! My area is suppose to get anywhere from 7-15 inches....my brothers live in the Twin Cities area and both said it's horrible there right now....

Hoping your DCM comes quickly...even if that means you're out the $200 per night.... just so you can be free of worry from daycare kids in general.
I'll be safe-I'm not going anywhere for a long time! We have already had 8-9 inches, and we are supposed to end with 25-30 inches. My brother and my nephew live in Blaine-they're supposed to get up to 14 there, too. We had a beautiful weekend that we spent outdoors-it was in the 70's. I just can't take any more winter!
04-10-2019 01:47 PM
littlefriends
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Originally Posted by Leigh View Post
Major blizzard. I am down to 4 dck's, 2 will be picked up any minute, 1 has parents whose work never lets them leave for weather. The last one, though -Mom is a teacher and school got out 2 hours ago. Why is she still here? There are school busses in the ditches, accidents and stuck cars everywhere. No way would I not have picked up asap! I reminded all yesterday that I charge $200/night if their kids get stranded here, and if she does, it will be at least 2 nights. I almost hope it happens.
I would too!! $400 would get you a nice little weekend trip somewhere!
04-10-2019 12:31 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by Leigh View Post
Major blizzard. I am down to 4 dck's, 2 will be picked up any minute, 1 has parents whose work never lets them leave for weather. The last one, though -Mom is a teacher and school got out 2 hours ago. Why is she still here? There are school busses in the ditches, accidents and stuck cars everywhere. No way would I not have picked up asap! I reminded all yesterday that I charge $200/night if their kids get stranded here, and if she does, it will be at least 2 nights. I almost hope it happens.
Stay safe! I'm watching the radar as it's suppose to be heading my way too! My area is suppose to get anywhere from 7-15 inches....my brothers live in the Twin Cities area and both said it's horrible there right now....

Hoping your DCM comes quickly...even if that means you're out the $200 per night.... just so you can be free of worry from daycare kids in general.
04-10-2019 12:25 PM
Leigh Major blizzard. I am down to 4 dck's, 2 will be picked up any minute, 1 has parents whose work never lets them leave for weather. The last one, though -Mom is a teacher and school got out 2 hours ago. Why is she still here? There are school busses in the ditches, accidents and stuck cars everywhere. No way would I not have picked up asap! I reminded all yesterday that I charge $200/night if their kids get stranded here, and if she does, it will be at least 2 nights. I almost hope it happens.
04-10-2019 08:49 AM
littlefriends
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31 View Post
I'll PM you the form I use for sending a child home.
It states directly on the paper the earliest day the child can return to care. It eliminates the parents ability to play dumb about it....

Also, I require parents to respond AND have their child picked up within 30 minutes of my initial contact with them. At 31 minutes, I start charging late fees...

You could set a time limit as to how swiftly the parent replies and picks up depending on how big of a community you live in....all my families work within a few minutes of my daycare and can easily be here and gone within that half hour.

When parents have to start paying these little fees....they realize how quickly they add up and you will see how fast they can act because of it...
Oh man, yes please send it! Now Iím suuuuuuuper pissed-they picked up 2 hours after I first contacted!
04-10-2019 07:38 AM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by littlefriends View Post
Just passed out a new illness policy that includes the 24/48 hour rule AND no dope and drop. Thatís whatís making me extra mad today; she just signed this thing like 2 days ago!! And it took 30 min for one of them to finally call me back. Iím definitely reminding her he canít come back for 48 hours when she finally gets here to pick him up.
I'll PM you the form I use for sending a child home.
It states directly on the paper the earliest day the child can return to care. It eliminates the parents ability to play dumb about it....

Also, I require parents to respond AND have their child picked up within 30 minutes of my initial contact with them. At 31 minutes, I start charging late fees...

You could set a time limit as to how swiftly the parent replies and picks up depending on how big of a community you live in....all my families work within a few minutes of my daycare and can easily be here and gone within that half hour.

When parents have to start paying these little fees....they realize how quickly they add up and you will see how fast they can act because of it...
04-10-2019 07:00 AM
littlefriends
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31 View Post
24/48 hour rule helps address this fairly well

I would absolutely do a well child check before allowing mom/dad to leave.

I would also use their own words to your benefit;

Parent: ďoh heís grouchy this morning he didnít get a good nights sleep ď

You: "Oh goodness, you'll need to take him back home then as I require all children to be able to participate as normal and if they aren't able to due to lack of sleep then they are excluded per program policies. Hopefully he gets a good nights sleep tonight and I'll see you tomorrow!"
Just passed out a new illness policy that includes the 24/48 hour rule AND no dope and drop. Thatís whatís making me extra mad today; she just signed this thing like 2 days ago!! And it took 30 min for one of them to finally call me back. Iím definitely reminding her he canít come back for 48 hours when she finally gets here to pick him up.
04-10-2019 06:15 AM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by littlefriends View Post
I swear wth??? I donít know what to do with this family...they have brought their kid here with pink eye, lice, fever (several times with this one)and every time theyíre like ďoh heís grouchy this morning he didnít get a good nights sleep ď or something similar. Theyíre always quick to drop and pay on time but I swear Iím just so sick of them doing this. I almost want to start making her stand there while I check him out and take his freaking temperature before I let her sign him in every morning!! Iíve had to call this family for illness pick up for their one kid more than all my other families combined!
24/48 hour rule helps address this fairly well

I would absolutely do a well child check before allowing mom/dad to leave.

I would also use their own words to your benefit;

Parent: ďoh heís grouchy this morning he didnít get a good nights sleep ď

You: "Oh goodness, you'll need to take him back home then as I require all children to be able to participate as normal and if they aren't able to due to lack of sleep then they are excluded per program policies. Hopefully he gets a good nights sleep tonight and I'll see you tomorrow!"
04-10-2019 06:10 AM
littlefriends I swear wth??? I donít know what to do with this family...they have brought their kid here with pink eye, lice, fever (several times with this one)and every time theyíre like ďoh heís grouchy this morning he didnít get a good nights sleep ď or something similar. Theyíre always quick to drop and pay on time but I swear Iím just so sick of them doing this. I almost want to start making her stand there while I check him out and take his freaking temperature before I let her sign him in every morning!! Iíve had to call this family for illness pick up for their one kid more than all my other families combined!
04-08-2019 03:34 PM
storybookending This is what Iím going to be attempting.. going with a bright yellow instead of gold, the mirror I found doesnít have a border and Iím using wood skewers and this is metal.. we will see!!
04-08-2019 02:13 PM
Leigh
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Originally Posted by storybookending View Post
A friend of mine has me convinced that I can make what I lost out on. I bought the materials for $8.30. Just need to buy spray paint and hot glue, which I might even have. I am not the best DIYer but she told me when she lived in japan that she did something very similar and that a monkey could do it. Sheís in Colorado now, I told her she flying home to fix it if sheís wrong.
I hope it works out for you! I can BUILD things, I can FIX things, but I can NOT CRAFT things!
04-08-2019 10:59 AM
storybookending
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Originally Posted by Leigh View Post
Ugh. I hate that, too! I found a complete set of kitchen cabinets for sale recently that matched mine for sale for $300. I needed the pantry for my kitchen, and was going to use the others for a separate daycare kitchen. I commented that I would take them literally less than 10 seconds after they were posted. PM'd to arrange pickup. No response. She sold them to a friend via her personal page, too. I get that she can do what she wants with her own stuff, but I was SO bummed.
A friend of mine has me convinced that I can make what I lost out on. I bought the materials for $8.30. Just need to buy spray paint and hot glue, which I might even have. I am not the best DIYer but she told me when she lived in japan that she did something very similar and that a monkey could do it. Sheís in Colorado now, I told her she flying home to fix it if sheís wrong.
04-08-2019 08:19 AM
Leigh
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Originally Posted by storybookending View Post
I HATE FACEBOOK FOR SALE GROUPS

I fall in love with a mirror. $25 great price. I ask the lady dimentions within 4 minutes of posting. She tells me them. I say interested. She says PM me. I send her a message. I ask if she can meet tomorrow. (Itís 10PM). She says yes. I say great. She replies ďPPUĒ. Um excuse me lady you just told me you could meet tomorrow!! I go on her personal page and she tells a friend, 47 minutes after she told me that I could buy it that she could have it and that sheíll bring it to work Monday.

Anything I find comparable is close to $100 which is a lot for something that I had planned on spray painting. I found something a little cheaper but itís also 11 inches smaller in height and width. Ugh.
Ugh. I hate that, too! I found a complete set of kitchen cabinets for sale recently that matched mine for sale for $300. I needed the pantry for my kitchen, and was going to use the others for a separate daycare kitchen. I commented that I would take them literally less than 10 seconds after they were posted. PM'd to arrange pickup. No response. She sold them to a friend via her personal page, too. I get that she can do what she wants with her own stuff, but I was SO bummed.
04-06-2019 08:59 PM
storybookending I HATE FACEBOOK FOR SALE GROUPS

I fall in love with a mirror. $25 great price. I ask the lady dimentions within 4 minutes of posting. She tells me them. I say interested. She says PM me. I send her a message. I ask if she can meet tomorrow. (Itís 10PM). She says yes. I say great. She replies ďPPUĒ. Um excuse me lady you just told me you could meet tomorrow!! I go on her personal page and she tells a friend, 47 minutes after she told me that I could buy it that she could have it and that sheíll bring it to work Monday.

Anything I find comparable is close to $100 which is a lot for something that I had planned on spray painting. I found something a little cheaper but itís also 11 inches smaller in height and width. Ugh.
04-04-2019 03:10 PM
Mom2Two
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Originally Posted by springvalley112 View Post
We are licensed by the state if Alabama and if we EVER let a child go without checking a child's permission form and that person's I.d, we would get wrote up and our license pulled. If I were a parent and my child went to your daycare and I found out what you were doing, I would pull and report you. Dont matter what the circumstances are I would be LIVID
My state's protocol is that I just need to be told by the enrolled parent to expect pick up from a person, be given the expected name, and then see picture ID at the door. And that is what ended up happening with this dad, so I have met him now. What he had been doing is just calling without having mom let me know to expect it. Since i had never met him, just had a photo from mom, I wouldn't have let the kids go with him. The photo wasn't THAT good.

And for the future, he is prone to being random, so I need to discourage him from showing up too much, coz he's the type to randomly drop off during lunch or pick up during nap. That could get annoying real fast.

DCM tried to include him on daycare selection, but he didn't want to come to our interview. I think she also told me that he doesn't help pay...for anything ever. Technically not relevant, but still....
04-04-2019 02:23 PM
Ms.Kay Going out of town spring break....I send a paper hand out reminders every 2 weeks for last 2 months. Have 3 signs hanging up....I just had 2 parents ask if I was taking any days off spring break. I cant believe these people procreated😡
04-04-2019 12:32 PM
Ac114 Sent home 2 children due to vomiting today 😩😩😩 I sent out a mass text letting everyone know Iím closing tomorrow so I can sanitize. There have been several children out this week due to illness and Iíve had enough 🤮🤮 for one week.
04-04-2019 12:25 PM
Jupadia My mouth is hurting so bad that I've made an emergency dental appointment for tomorrow. It sucks. Closing dor day tomorrow seconed time since starting, first time in 3.5 years. Dont even care what parents think, just want it to be tomorrow so I can find out what's up. Could be wisdom tooth related.
04-04-2019 09:22 AM
CountryRoads
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
Probably going to have to spend $1500+ to fence our entire property to keep the neighbors dogs out. Why get dogs if you're just going to let them roam where ever they please?

Their dog tries to jump in dcf's cars, tries to come in our house, jumps on everybody who comes here. Everyone is afraid they are going to run her over. She was inches away from getting run over by a bus this morning.

The perks of living out of town.
Well, won't have to worry about the dog anymore. Accidentally got ran over this morning by their son. I'm SO sad She was just a puppy. But when you don't fence your dogs, what do you expect?
04-03-2019 10:00 AM
WBee DCB had really bad anxiety prior (been here a year now) and would vomit at drop-off, cry half the a.m., etc. Yes, for a friend, I stuck it out and helped him grow out of it. Only grandparents can drop off/pick up now. Mom tried to drop-off yesterday...DCB screamed, through a fit, vomited NEXT to my toilet. I told her she cannot drop off and needs to show him that he doesn't run her as he is manipulative with her. Today, new DCB shows up 5 min. early (Grandma cannot wait to get him out of her hair) and informs me he is staying ALL day (which wasn't supposed to happen 'til next week) and he's been crying all a.m. Now another DCB just vomited. I'm checking out for today. Done!
04-02-2019 08:32 PM
BumbleBee 10:30pm, Tuesday, during spring break is a lovely time for the pressure relief valve to fail on the hot water heater.
03-30-2019 03:44 AM
Josiegirl Dcf told me Thursday they'd found a new dc and was giving me notice that next week would be their last week. I said ok. Even though technically they're supposed to give me 2 week notice. So dcm sent me a text yesterday a.m. saying they could start ds in his new dc next week and would it help me if yesterday was his last day. I was already passively aggressively upset at dcd for once again speaking to a dcg about being gentle(I gave him a look)so when I received the text I said I'd like to have him next week because I had already received less than the contracted 2 week notice, if that was ok. This extremely wordy dcm simply texts back ok.
Well, that was way before lunch. By the time dcb got picked up at 3, I had all his stuff packed and said it's been a rough day(partly because of sweet precious do-no-wrongdcb)so it was fine with me if he started new dc Monday.
One down, 5 to go. They won't be so easy.
03-29-2019 04:57 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by springvalley112 View Post
If I were a parent and my child went to your daycare and I found out what you were doing, I would pull and report you. Dont matter what the circumstances are I would be LIVID
Are you referring to Mom2Two? In regards to texts/phone call permissions

I’m not a center.
I’m licensed as in home. She is too
I am not required to check anyone’s ID
I do check in situations I feel warrant it but I too allow texts/verbal permission
The persons name doesn’t have to be listed in child’s file ahead of time all the time
That’s the beauty of family care vs center care
03-29-2019 04:53 PM
Rockgirl
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Originally Posted by springvalley112 View Post
We are licensed by the state if Alabama and if we EVER let a child go without checking a child's permission form and that person's I.d, we would get wrote up and our license pulled. If I were a parent and my child went to your daycare and I found out what you were doing, I would pull and report you. Dont matter what the circumstances are I would be LIVID
I donít understand. Why would you be livid? She wants to meet dcd in person, so she will know him if/when he does show up to pick up his children.
03-29-2019 03:51 PM
springvalley112 We are licensed by the state if Alabama and if we EVER let a child go without checking a child's permission form and that person's I.d, we would get wrote up and our license pulled. If I were a parent and my child went to your daycare and I found out what you were doing, I would pull and report you. Dont matter what the circumstances are I would be LIVID
03-29-2019 01:18 PM
Mom2Two
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Originally Posted by Cat Herder View Post
Be careful. He can legally show up with a LEO to verify his ID and pick up his kids, anytime. We can't deny parents, even if the other parent wants us to.

FTR, I loathe uninvited guests. I've got nothing to hide, I just like to enjoy my schedule, my way, uninterrupted.
I know...and really I do let kids go...with grandma or whoever...even just on text/phone call verification from the parent I know. But dcm says that this dad is prone to being very random, and she says it's likely that he could show up with no id or verification and want his kid. He's kinda tried it several times already by calling me without me hearing from mom. I really don't want to have to turn him away from the door, so I keep trying to push back and tell him he needs to sit down and meet with me and dcm.
03-29-2019 11:54 AM
Cat Herder
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Originally Posted by Mom2Two View Post
Then I get flaky divorced daycare dad, who I've never met call me (again), and ask if he can just fill something out online and come get his kids. No dude, you need to schedule a meeting with me and your ex-wife so I can meet you so I can recognize you, and I don't wonder if I'm turning the kids over to the right person when you show up.
Be careful. He can legally show up with a LEO to verify his ID and pick up his kids, anytime. We can't deny parents, even if the other parent wants us to.

FTR, I loathe uninvited guests. I've got nothing to hide, I just like to enjoy my schedule, my way, uninterrupted.
03-29-2019 11:50 AM
Mom2Two People from the various agencies we deal with who show up without properly introducing themselves or proper ID. Don't they know how creepy that is?

I really want an email introduction first preferably with a photo. I had to call one agency this past week to make sure a person was legit, and then today I had a person show up...to deliver a flier. They had ID and I didn't let them in (they didn't want to come in), but why come by just to deliver a flier?

Then I get flaky divorced daycare dad, who I've never met call me (again), and ask if he can just fill something out online and come get his kids. No dude, you need to schedule a meeting with me and your ex-wife so I can meet you so I can recognize you, and I don't wonder if I'm turning the kids over to the right person when you show up.

Makes me want to get some major security out the front!
03-26-2019 11:12 AM
Pepperth
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Originally Posted by Hunni Bee View Post
HATE those. One of my dcbs brought poop emoji lollipops on Valentines Day. Really...poop in your mouth. No thanks.
One of my previous dcb had a birthday party that was "poop" themed. It was disgusting. I don't understand the appeal at all.
03-26-2019 10:39 AM
Hunni Bee
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31 View Post
Ugh! Thatís as bad as those ďpooĒ pillows and toys etc...
HATE those. One of my dcbs brought poop emoji lollipops on Valentines Day. Really...poop in your mouth. No thanks.
03-26-2019 05:39 AM
CeridwenLynne
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31 View Post
Ugh! Thatís as bad as those ďpooĒ pillows and toys etc...
I hate those poo pillows.
03-25-2019 10:50 AM
gumdrops
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Originally Posted by CountryRoads View Post
Unexpected early pick-ups! UGH!

I always feel like it's chaotic when it happens. All the toys weren't picked up, sink was full of dishes, food was out from snack time that just finished. Just UGH.
I think it's OK for the parents to see what your day really looks like. Maybe they will realize our job is more than sitting around all day.
03-23-2019 03:45 PM
BumbleBee
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Originally Posted by springvalley112 View Post
@bumblebee: had an amish friend of ours in tennessee get hit last year in a buggy that he was riding in by a distracted driver, it was 3 adults I believe in the buggy and no children were involved but one had to be airlifted to a local hospital and they didn't know if he would live or not and our friend has bruises aand and a sore hip but he is better now. How was the amish that was hit?
From what I've heard the Amish involved are ok. This was the most minor of the 3 accidents.

The first an Amish gentleman was critically injured, 2nd a horse was killed. Both of those the buggies were destroyed. This one the buggy is damaged but was upright and in one piece.
03-22-2019 08:10 PM
sharlan Red lights are a suggestion here. People treat them like stop signs

When my dd and I were walking every night we were nearly hit so many times by drivers not paying attention.
03-22-2019 06:46 PM
springvalley112 @bumblebee: had an amish friend of ours in tennessee get hit last year in a buggy that he was riding in by a distracted driver, it was 3 adults I believe in the buggy and no children were involved but one had to be airlifted to a local hospital and they didn't know if he would live or not and our friend has bruises aand and a sore hip but he is better now. How was the amish that was hit?
03-22-2019 06:28 PM
BumbleBee 3rd time in less than a year that an Amish buggy has been hit by a vehicle. In all 3 instances the Amish were not at fault.

There's been serious injuries, horses killed, buggies smashed.

Distracted driving is ridiculous. Pay attention to the road. Heading home from shopping tonight I almost got t-boned because someone blew a stop sign.

Just angry tonight, this needs to stop.
03-22-2019 05:26 PM
Blackcat31
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Originally Posted by sharlan View Post
New toy called Butt Heads - they have butts for heads.
Ugh! Thatís as bad as those ďpooĒ pillows and toys etc...
03-22-2019 03:22 PM
sharlan
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Originally Posted by LostMyMarbles View Post
What is the fascination with butts or the word butt with boys. I had one say the word but over and over last week. He was on time out , talked to, reasoned with, you name it. His mom said he was saying it at home and disciplined repeatedly. He is over it now.

Today another one is pushing it with butt talk. Ugh!
New toy called Butt Heads - they have butts for heads.
03-22-2019 02:46 PM
CountryRoads Unexpected early pick-ups! UGH!

I always feel like it's chaotic when it happens. All the toys weren't picked up, sink was full of dishes, food was out from snack time that just finished. Just UGH.
03-22-2019 02:19 PM
Ariana Just got informed that parents are looking into Montessori school for their kid who has been with me for over a year. They are going to look when she is 3. I had been banking on having their infant here in September plus the older one. Kinda feeling bummed and taking it personally.

They didnít say anything was definite but I have to cover my coveted infant space so they will be getting notice in July. Buh bye!
03-22-2019 09:12 AM
LostMyMarbles
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My 5 yo dcg went through that phase where every other word was butt, 'get your butt out of here' wiggling her butt or whatever she could think of that got a rise out of people. Well, that phase passed and now she knows what the middle finger is for.
Oh my...
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