Raising Voice
I was looking for some posts on this and found one where the providers were even afraid of loosing control and hurting kids, that is not my case. But I do feel that with some of the kids, including my own I sometimes loose control and raise my voice to them, loudly, very loud:( Today was one of those days and I was wondering if I should tell one of the parents, because her child just was to much for me today, i even thought about calling Mom to come pick child up, but did not thinking that mom could think that I have no control over kids so kept child, ended up yelling at her and other kids loudly. Like I said in other post I found providers said they ere afraid of hurting kids, I am not afraid of hurting them physically because I know I won't, but I am afraid of hurting them emotionally when I raise my voice. They don't seem afraid or nothing, but I am still concerned. Should i mention to mom that I did raise my voice to child and explain why? Or is that a bad idea?:confused:
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I would explain to Mom that dck had a very rough day today. Maybe he/she was up late last night and that's why he/she was pushing you to the edge today. I honestly wouldn't say that you "yelled" I would say that you had to use your "stern" voice.
When I feel like I'm going to raise my voice LOUDLY I take a huge deep breath and sometimes I even count to ten. An oldie but a goodie. |
LOl thanks, will take advice, did not know that word, stern, see I can only think of yelling because English is not my 1st language, thank God there is this forum that we can check before we make an oopsie:p
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I think it is human nature to lose your cool once in awhile. I'd be willing to bet anyone who has ever worked with children has raised their voice with a child at some point, and if they say they haven't I wouldn't beleive em' ;)
We have all done it, I am sure. Rarely, but it does happen. I would tell Mom what her child did, that this occurred after having to speak with him numerous times about his behavior and that you did raise your voice at her child. If she gets mad, well then, that gives you a good idea of why his behavior is the way it is. :rolleyes: |
I always tell the parents if a child and I have had a rough day and I've raise my voice. I'm only human so I'm not ashamed to admit that sometimes they get to me. But I do always mention it since it's out of the ordinary. I'll just say something like, "DCG had a rough day today. I had to bark a little and I was pretty cross, wasn't I DCG?" Then we usually get big eyes and , "Uh huh, I didn't wisten!" :lol:
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I feel like I'm always yelling :ouch:.
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If the kids weren't scared, I am guessing you weren't as bad as you say. lol
I have raised my voice to dck's before. I ALWAYS tell parents. I'm not a yeller, so the kids know that when I yell, I mean business. A louder than everyone else voice IS yelling at my house. LOL |
Originally Posted by Meyou: Sometimes we yell. We are human. I doubt it is the first time the child was yelled at and it probably won't be the last. :) |
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Originally Posted by Crystal: I had a gf who NEVER, EVER raised her voice. When she got upset, she would sing There is Love All Around. The more upset she got, the quieter she sang. Her kids knew that when she started whispering, they'd be having a talk with Dad real soon. |
After reading the responses on this site regarding the issue of a child mistakenly being left in a car and how the majority of posts all seemed to think the right thing to do is to perjure oneself by reporting this mistake. I can only assume that after the comments of justifying yelling at the children, you will have the same conviction to follow the "mandate" to report a violation of a child's "personal rights" as described in the childcare regulations in Ca, as well many other states.
This regulation clearly states that you may not raise your voice to threaten, scare or intimidate a child. Raising your voice for any reason is clearly a violation. We all make mistakes and have been at our "wits end", we are all human. My prayer is that none of us ever make a mistake that hurts a child and that we all may have the patience to deal with children daily. |
LOL a lot of the teachers I have worked it call it "Using my angry voice" :D
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Originally Posted by Unregistered: |
Originally Posted by daycarediva: |
Originally Posted by Unregistered: How is raising your voice "threatening" a child? You're funny. :lol: |
Originally Posted by CedarCreek: Originally Posted by Unregistered: In regards to the child forgotten in a vehicle, I am wondering how urging the provider to report such a SERIOUS incident is considered perjury? It was a mistake but how dare you imply that raising your voice to a child is anywhere near as serious as forgetting a child in a vehicle for over half an hour?!?! :mad::mad: No one ever died from being yelled at! |
Originally Posted by Blackcat31: |
Im confused, too, Unregistered.
You're saying that by reporting an incident ("mistake") where a child was left alone in a vehicle for over half an hour is "perjuring" the provider (Im guessing you meant "incriminating") but...raising ones voice is a violation of the child's rights and should be reported? I suppose you were trying to be sarcastic, however you didn't do a great job of it. And seeing as how no one had even gone down that road, your post was highly unnecessary. I will so glad when people get over their cabin fever or whatever and stop stirring up controversy on this forum. |
Originally Posted by Country Kids: |
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