Termination Notice
I have never had to terminate a child from my care before, but I feel it is necessary. I have had this child in my care for 2 1/2 yrs. but I can no longer tolerate her behavior. And I feel that she is a bad influence on my younger DC children. I've had more than one parent comment & ask questions about her.
The biggest problem is that her parent's & grandparent's are friend's with my family. I can only imagine the grief I'll receive. Do I just hang in there until next fall when the child will be entering Kindergarten, or terminate now?😫 Help!!😫😫 |
Originally Posted by Justjoy: NOT fair to you or the other kids that a friendship means you are required to put up with bad behavior. I wouldn't spell it out (reasons why you are terming) but I'd certainly say she has outgrown your environment or that you are simply unable to provide what she needs. If the parents are aware that you have been having these issues (on any level) being termed shouldn't be surprising. |
Thanks Black Cat!
The parent's are aware as this has been an ongoing thing, and they have been told of her behavior almost daily. Last Friday was my breaking point. I told her it was time for nap ( as at the age of almost 5 she still takes one and dad insists). She proceeded to throw herself on the floor, screaming..."you hurt me, you hurt me!" I was on the phone with her dad within minutes and told him what occurred and that I will not be able to continue care for her unless her behavior changes drastically. Which we know it will not. I also told him I cannot risk the other children in my care to witness these scenes. From what I have heard, she has been terminated from daycare before... |
Just wanted to add that word is she's been terminated from daycare before. I am dad's last hope. It was evident last Friday at pickup.
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Originally Posted by Justjoy: No one has the time or money to discredit that type of thing so providers just learn that phrase is code for "term". Sad, I know but there is too much at stake (for you) to have to put up with it. 9 out 10 times the behavior of the child is rooted in parenting style. Parent's can deal with the fall out of their actions (or lack of actions) and leave the provider out of it. I'm sorry it's come to this for you and this family but good for you for being concerned and one step ahead! likethis |
Originally Posted by Justjoy: Dad was trying to be his son's best friend and at 3 years old he ran his dad. Each day for naps would be some type of struggle or fight with him. I only dealt with it for 3 weeks. I then found out he had been terminated from like 4 other daycares. Dad was stuck driving an hour each way to a relatives because his behavior was so bad. He would hit kids and dad rewarded his behavior with special treats. It is the parents responsibility to get their kids behavior in check, not ours! |
You need to let her go.
At almost 5, a center, with more staff, peers her age/older who won't put up with it, etc. might actually help her. |
The thing that really got to me was when dad came for pickup the night of the latest incident and said to his daughter " What did you do this time sh*t head?" And this was in front of a 2 1/2 yr old & an18 month old in my care, standing in front of me, freaking out as the kid was screaming & crying!
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I'd be concerned about Dad's behavior also. I would believe that is where her aggression is coming from, she's probably witnessing something and has no other way to verbalize it. Have you notice any other problems with the parents acting like that towards her? Sarcasm can be a great indicator of actions.
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I hope you have the behaviors documented. The child may need early intervention. Unfortunately behavioral issues take up much time in centers. I have had older children even arreated for assault at the one I am associated with only to have owner allow the child back because the family had five children (subsidized) enrolled
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Originally Posted by Justjoy: He needs to look at his own behavior towards his dd if he wants to see any improvement. Poor kid. :( It's not your responsibility to improve that whole family's environment, just your own. Term, replace and do NOT feel guilty. |
Originally Posted by Justjoy: “ my daddy says it.” |
Originally Posted by Justjoy: Dad is a grown man completely capable of having his own daughter evaluated if needed or finding a center where his daughter is among a larger group of only children her age. Sometimes being a big fish in a small pond is not what is best for certain children. They need a little time as the small fish for a perspective change. ;) |
I would put it on the parents.Little 'Suzie" is clearly not happy here.I would give them a few center numbers.Give notice that they should plan for her to move on Christmas week.At latest by New Years.Play up that she has aged out.Good luck.
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Originally Posted by daycarediva: |
I have my termination letter printed out and waiting. She will not be back in my care until this coming Monday. So that will be the day!
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We've got a child that was exactly like dcg and we will be talking with mom soon
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