Do You Think This is OK to Say?
I have a dcb 1.5 who comes in every morning screaming and the parents don't do anything to stop it until I physically take him from dcp and tell him to be quiet. He immediately stops when I do this. I do it nicely, but I hate this exchange and for him to start his day this way every day. I really think all it would take is his parents telling him to be quiet. Bye bye outside unfortunately will not work for my set up as I know this would probably stop it pretty quickly.
I get a text from mom almost every morning something like "I hope he was not too much of a mess for you. He just loves us so much" I always text back " he was fine" because it seems to me dcm only texts this to get some validation from me as she's doing nothing to stop it and not asking for advice. It's almost like the tantrum helps them feel loved or missed by dcb. I don't know. I was thinking of texting back this morning, "he was fine as usual and stopped crying before dcd left. Just curious, have you guys tried asking him to stop before coming in? I think this might help him have a better start to his day". These dcps have also become my friends so I'm struggling with what to say or even if I should say anything since I am able to stop it. I just hate doing it and that they feel totally fine bringing a screaming child into my home where other children are sleeping. Wondering if what I intend to say is ok or if I should be more or less blunt or just keep doing what we've been doing. This has been going on for months now. |
Originally Posted by Indoorvoice: |
Originally Posted by Cat Herder: |
I would suggest to the parent that they literally walk in, hand the child to you and walk out. Less than 30 seconds.
Have them say their goodbyes and give kisses in the car prior to coming in. Once DCB sees the transition is swift and quick, he may be better about the whole thing. If not, at least you are able to get him to stop quickly so the super fast drop off might help everyone's sanity. |
Originally Posted by Indoorvoice: A simple daily sticker chart "Morning Routine" with each child's name with things like 1) Greeted my teacher 2) Quickly kissed my parent goodbye 3) Put my own things away 4) Washed my own hands 5) Joined my friends on circle rug Attention seekers like both positive and negative attention. :ouch: Most will figure out that they can do their goodbye rituals outside before entering the classroom, like the rest of the parents. Some will choose not to for the show. |
Originally Posted by Blackcat31: |
I would stop responding to her texts. Unless a child has some issues you are working on together, she knows he is now fine. I would also tell her a short and sweet transition will be easier for him and the group.
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I tend to find a way to correct the parents when they tell me stuff that isn't accurate. I can see myself telling them that it's normal 18 mth separation anxiety.
ITA Probably keeping it short and sweet would be the best thing. |
Ugh. I had a child like thst. I finally quit and let the patents watch her fit for a moment. See what she does daily. He just said she doesn't want to be in hete. It's annoying. But those parents waited a long time to even discuss her behavior. Eyeroll
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31: |
Oh boy.
We definitely subscribe to short and sweet. We have one family whose child apparently pitches a fit and home, but is absolutely fine once she gets here. They say it is "just so hard to get her here". Who's the parent, here? They are considering withdrawing from our program! |
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