I Know I Provide A Service But...
This mom is not working and wants to leave her fresh 1 year old who’s never been to care before from open to close. 7am-5:30pm. To me, that’s insane. I don’t want to care for her child for 10.5 hrs when she is not working... so what do I reply? Even if she was working I don’t want to care for a child that long. Am I wrong here?
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Originally Posted by Ac114: |
Originally Posted by Ac114: Maybe some version of: Dear DCM Katie is welcome to be in care for no more than 5 hours per day unless a parent's work schedule dictates otherwise. Quality time with a parent is ideal for all children thus the limitations in when scheduling. Thank you! Sincerely Katie's Daycare PROVIDER not PARENT |
You are not wrong in your feelings. :hug:
I, however, deal with it all the time, from birth on. As long as they pay tuition and stay within my business hours, what they are doing with their time is really none of my business. I find that by keeping score of it, all I really do is interfere with my own peace. ;) Sure it can be super frustrating when they are the ONLY kid in care, but it is part of the contract, IMHO. (Last year I had one child here 11 days when both parents were off work and no other child was in care. I completely get what you are saying. ;)) |
Is the child just getting used to care? What are their normal hours? What is the reason she needs care, if known? I was once a single mom and took days off work to do things like doctor appointments and things I could not bring my kiddos to (custody hearings etc.) I have contracted hours so as long as parents are within those, I am ok with it. None of my kids are here that long of a day though.
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Originally Posted by LittleExplorers: She’s currently looking for a job but wants to start him ASAP to secure a spot. She doesn’t even know what her working hours would be, but in the meantime she wants to leave him here for 10.5 hrs. |
I'd tell her that her contracted hours will be based on her work schedule, but for now, while she's job hunting, she can leave him from 8-4. That means she can still make job hunting her full-time job, and he won't be plunged into 55 hours per week daycare right away....call it a transition time.
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Originally Posted by Ac114: I dunno, I have always been in the camp of not really caring what parents do when I have their child but I also have contracted hours and the rate reflects their hours so it's never been an issue and I'm only open 9.5 hours so IF I did have a child needing care from open to close, they'd be paying a fairly high rate for it. Maybe you can tell her care for 9 hours is $X but for more than 9 hours its $X PLUS $. My reasoning for contracted hours (other than the obvious...knowing when kids are DO/PU) it's because I want parents to understand that care beyond what you truly needs comes as a price/cost. |
Originally Posted by Ac114: |
Absolutely charge her a premium price for 10.5 hours. I charge my premium price for anything above 8 hours and am only open 10 hours. It is a looong day for little ones. I have two families that pay the premium and one of them is not working but is home on mat leave. The in thing to do here is have your oldest kid in care while you stay home with baby.
I am not too sure I would care if she was working and would actually be worried about this child not getting the care she needs at home. I have always had part time kids so most of them did not have working parents so I am somewhat used to it. I judge them for sure but as long as they pay me then it is their parenting mistake to live with. |
Most of my moms aren't working when their kids are here. It doesn't affect me. I wanted to open a childcare and preschool to work with the kids. I don't care what the parent's schedule is at all. I definitely wouldn't want to work those hours though. I am 9-4:30. I pretty much weeded out dual income households with my hours! Not that I wanted to, but those were the hours I wanted. So, I don't really expect my families to need me all those hours. Also, it's better because I have people who won't be freaking out if I have to close for sickness or appointments. They don't work (well, most do part time) so they aren't screwed when I have to close.
I would just tell this parent those hours don't work. And tell them what hours do work for you. Since it seems too long for you, choose the earlier or later time and see if she would want that. If not, next please! |
I do not care what-where-when-how parents are doing/not doing during the time I care about their kid(s). Why? Because it is not my business.
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Originally Posted by Ac114: Yikes! |
If you don't want to take care of the child, say that your opening is no longer available.
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Originally Posted by ColorfulSunburst: |
Originally Posted by hwichlaz: |
Originally Posted by hwichlaz: The counterpoint is *which is worse for a child, being with a child care provider in a safe and loving environment or being forced upon adults who don't want them there? |
Originally Posted by Cat Herder: While this is true...this overuse of daycare slowly leads to behavior problems that often result in termination of services anyway... |
Originally Posted by hwichlaz: I have termed two kids for behavioral issues in 24 years. ;) Neither had to do with long hours. The rest of my terminations have been due to adult issues. ;) IME, not all children are planned, some are not wanted (religious pressure, etc) and some parents simply are not capable of spending large amounts of time with young children (anxiety disorders, Bipolar Depression, addiction, etc). Some live in fear of the damage they may cause others are just happy to have made it through the night to get them back to daycare. I provide care for them as well. ;) It is simply a broad grey issue with many different individual situations. Right now I am blessed to have all great families, but that has not often been the case. |
Originally Posted by hwichlaz: Those children that have a less than ideal home life or parents that don't understand the benefits of face time with their child and dump that child in care from open to close are usually the better behaved child for me. They crave the routine, consistency and comfort of an environment that is stable. Their behavior reflects that. Those parents that spend quality time with their child no matter how little or much time they spend in child care also tend to behave better here in daycare as they are secure in their attachments to caregivers/parents It's the children that have parents that aren't involved in a quality way (whether it be 5 minutes or 5 hours) with their child that I have issues with. So for me, the quality not quantity of time spent with parents is the biggest influence over child care behaviors. |
Originally Posted by Blackcat31: I have found the children that are dumped from open to close are usually not getting quality or quantity time with their parents. These kids are usually dirty or you can tell they haven't had a bath in a while. I have had some parents even try to drop them off in yesterday's clothes. :( I end up knowing more about their children than they do. :( |
Originally Posted by hwichlaz: I enrolled an infant years ago at 60 hours a week because mom worked FT and was going to school PT AND had quite the commute. she ended up quitting, but keeping the FT care up and told me she was 'looking for work' and she was actually just insanely training for all of these marathons and doing housework, etc. She did this so that when infant was actually with her, she did NOTHING BUT parent him. She could NOT parent AND do laundry, or parent AND cook dinner. He was a VERY high needs child because of this CONSTANT 1:1 that I ended up terming. I have a LOT of SAHM's now, always have had them. I limit their hours to 9-3:30. That gives them a good early school experience without sacrificing their parent face time. |
This doesn't bother me so much, until a parent fakes missing their child in front of me.
Example: DCB just shy of 2 years old. Mom is a SAHM. DCB is contracted from 7:15 - 5:00pm M - F. When mom picks up she acts like she missed DCB just so much. And I don't understand it. While I am sure she did miss her child, her actions are saying she doesn't miss him enough to not enroll him full time while she is home. It's just a show for me to try and make herself feel better. Same mom makes jokes about her being the last one to pick up. Same child: this week older sibling is off for fall break. I closed Monday because this DCB was the only child scheduled. They are supposed to keep DCB home tomorrow, but I haven't heard the final word on that yet. Both dad AND mom are home with older sibling while DCB is here with me. Tuition is paid on time, etc, etc. But it makes me sad for DCB. Especially because he is old enough to understand what is happening. Especially because he is a great kid. |
Originally Posted by Cat Herder: |
My clients get 9.5 hours a day not to exceed 4:30. In the past, I have allowed some nurse clients that work 12 hours to use the 6:00 to 4:30 but they only are allowed the three days they actually work. I do not waiver on my closing time at all. This is one of the things I do so I wasn't irrated all the time about what clients are doing. I do like daycarediva's hours for SAHM. I don't have any SAHM but I would like to use that when a client is off for the day. :)
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Thanks guys! I responded to her basically saying that I can do 7-4 or 8-5 while she is looking for work and that 10.5 hrs is an extremely long time for her child to be in care, especially if he’s never attended daycare before. So she wants to ease him into care by doing 7-12 for the first 2 weeks and then 7-4 after that.
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Originally Posted by hwichlaz: |
Good advice
Originally Posted by Cat Herder: |
Originally Posted by Ac114: |
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