I'm Starting To Feel Uncomfortable
My parents are starting to show their true colors and it's making me uncomfortable. One parent gave me a tub full of little people toys..GREAT. Then a couple of days later she asked if I would take her daughter for the weekend. I was so taken back by the request and I did not give her answer right away. After discussing it with my husband, I called her back and declined. I don't do evening or weekend care and she knows it. I think she set me up with the toys so that I would feel obligated to say yes. Another of my parents asked me to help her start a daycare. I was shocked. I would be happy to help anyone but she lives nearby and I already have competion all around me. I said I would help her but I really don't want to help someone that I will be competing with. She even wants to do what I am doing right down to the same age group, preschool, etc. Advice please. Should I be worried or is it just me feeling obligated. :(
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If this makes you feel any better, I use to watch a neighbor girl, we were friends with her dad, his girlfriend moved in and I continued watching her even though she stayed home with their son who was a baby at the time, (this girl was NOT he daugher) when her schedule went really part time like 1 day a week I told them I really couldn't do it anymore, then he came and asked me if it would bother me if his girlfriend started daycare, they live 2 doors away, we live on a small cul-de-sac, at first I was concerned but learned very quickly her style of care was MUCH different than mine and her clientel was MUCH different than mine. Her daycare kids 12 mo old even were EVERY where in our road in other peoples yards and she did NOT supervise very well at all, snot coming out of their noses, to the way she potty trained, I was not worried anymore. Needless to say she had very flaky clientel and was in court her first 6 mo of doing care. Needless to say she was closed in less than 2 years. Not saying your situation will be the same but you've been doing care longer and most people will want that. Hopefully it works out, I wouldn't worry too much....
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Beware the "let's be best friends" types...:lol: I will not keep kids of friends or family and they all know it.
Now, as far as helping them start their own daycare, I have done it several times. If I can help one Mom to financially be able to stay home with their kids I wont hesitate. I help with all the policies down to assembling bookshelves. :Sunny: So far only one made it more than a year, though...:( They see how I manage my groups and assume it is really easy since I can do this in my sleep. Mostly I was born this way but the rest is YEARS of doing it the wrong way first, like everyone else :p Most realize they have never worked this hard at any outside job and go back to work with a new found respect for me. I put them on my waiting list and bring them back in when and if I can.... ;) Every cycle of this seems to buy me about 4 years before someone else asks....they talk to each other :ouch: |
Just tell the parent to buy this: https://www.daycare.com/advertisers/startingadaycare/
If she is going to start a day care NOTHING you say or do will change her mind. You could end up being her go to guy for free advice. Just tell her to RESEARCH RESEARCH RESEARCH and buy as many "how to" books as she can get her hands on. Tell her it is an awesome job and she will LOVE it and she will be GREAT at it. :D |
Originally Posted by nannyde: |
busymomof2, are you licensed? If you are, that gives you a step up from your neighbor starting. Don't feel obligated to help at all. Try not to be mean about it because you are neighbors after all. If you want to help some, I would tell her to work on her CDA (costly and time consuming but worth the education) and tell her to "buy" a start up kit or something so she actually spends money, lol, she may decide not to take your advice from now on if she needs to spend money on things you recommend. :lol: As far as the evening/weekend care, I can see how your neighbor *might offer that since you do not. It's a good thing you said no to this weekend request of the parent because it builds the strong foundation of them knowing they can't walk all over you. Good job!
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I would probably help out, but that's just the type of person I am... Always doing service for others with a smile! :lol:
At least she came to you and asked you up front and didn't go behind your back like my neighbor across my street did. My neighbor had a baby and was to return to work he she turned 1... A few months prior to her returning to work she came over, unannounced, asking questions regarding my daycare and contract, prices, etc. A few months later my son told me on the way to school it was like a Q&A session. She asked him so many questions about my dc. I was furious when her daughter told me that he mom just opened her dc. :eek: I just felt betrayed. I would've been more than happy to assist her in setting up her dc, but she went about it the sneaky way and I don't stand for that. I feel bad, but often laugh sometimes because it been 4 months and she still doesn't have any kids. |
Thanks ladies. I just feel like I did all the hard work (coming up with procedures, all forms, schedule, activities ect) and she is just gonna take it and run with it. But your right she did come to me and didn't do it behind my back...I appreciate that. She will also get an eye opener when she figures out it's alot of work, expenses, long hours, for low pay and being unappreciated by parents. LOL she is the one parent who asked me for a discount. I wonder how she is gonna handle it when someone wants a discount from her. :lol:
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Originally Posted by DCMomOf3: It's a "do as you are told" job. Do as the parents tell you. Do as the State tells you. Do as the "child experts" tell you. And do as the KIDS tell you. That's all you need to know and you'll be just fine. ;) |
Originally Posted by busymomof2: |
I would feel the same way then again YOU are YOU and she is she and people choose a provider based on how YOU make them feel. How their child will be in your care etc. Don't worry about it. Help her out, be a friend. And when she quits her group will be yours, LOL
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Originally Posted by busymomof2: Originally Posted by busymomof2: I also had a day care parent leave me to start her own day care. Like a previous poster said, she found out it was a lot more work than she thought it would be and quit shortly after she opened. I also got one of her dc kids (who I absolutely adored!) so that situation worked out well, too. |
Originally Posted by Abigail: |
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