Honestly Why Are People Rude?
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My full timer, comes in every morning and dad puts her coat on my little table by the door. I always have some sort of decoration on there. Right now it's my snowman and a little sign. I mean does anyone think this is rude? As soon as he does it, I take it off and put it on one of the 2 doorknobs that i have right there. To the right is a closet and to the left is the basement, so there are doorknobs there. There may be another coat on them, but you can always double it up. I would never dream of putting a coat on someone's decorations. Do I just need a vacation or is this rude? So now this weekend, I'm going to get one of those over the door hangers and that way I can put it up in the morning and take it down and tuck it in the closet when they leave. Here are 2 pics, one of what it normally looks like and the other is what dad does every morning.
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Yea, that doesn't look like a coat hanger. :rolleyes:
He probably knocked down the sign doing that and if he scratched the wood table- that'd tick me off. |
That is very rude, but I’m having one of those weeks where everyone has been rude or inconsiderate that maybe I’m over exaggerating. But I think at this point, you need to be direct andask him NOT to do that. Some people are just jerks and don’t think things through. I have a dcd that throws the kids coats on TOP of the coat rack... :eek: and another one that I have to say ‘please CLOSE the door” every morning.
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Originally Posted by sahm1225: |
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Originally Posted by Snowmom: This is only $7.00. I think I will pick it up tonight. It has 6 hooks, just enough for all the kids. Then I can take it down at 5:15 and keep it in the closet. |
It's rude.
I have similar issues with standing on benches with fabric cushions and kids being sat on TOP of my cubby units. I have a laminated sign that says "Please do NOT place your child on top the cubbys. Thank you!" Most parents can't read it though because their child's butt is blocking it from view. :rolleyes: In your case, I'd have a hard time not putting something on the table that will spill over and make a huge racket when DCD puts the coat on it. Something like a tall container full of little bells or acorns or Christmas tree bulbs etc... something so that the minute DCD sets the coat on the table it falls all over the place. Then I'd stand there and say "That's why I've asked you not to put her coat there Bob. Could you please make sure that is picked up before the another child arrives? Thank you" I do agree.... people can be obliviously rude sometimes. :ouch: |
I think that is the hardest part of having a family daycare.This is your home,its rude to put the coat there.I am surprised that the children are not touching the decorations.That being said I would move the table.I would get a coat rack and put it there for daycare hours.I would put a tray for wet boots in that space.I did like the idea Black cat had of the noisy ornaments though.Why make yourself aggravated every morning .We know the parents are ofted clueless.
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31: Maybe put up tack strips? hahahaha! I like the idea of putting stuff up there that woudl fall and make a mess. Would be fun to watch him on his hands and knees picking stuff up haha |
Originally Posted by rosieteddy: |
Yep...same crap here!! I have a shelf for kids back packs...sign on that please do not place children here...nope every damn day mom puts kid there to remove boots...there is a bench 19" away...I measured it!!
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Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo: But then it never fails, ever year I have that one parent that will pick up their kid and say "See how pretty" as they are holding them up high 3 inches from the ornament or lights I just spent the week teaching them not to touch. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: |
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31: |
Sorry I did not notice the baskets.The coat rack sounds like the perfect solution.I know parents can sometimes not get that this is your home.
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Originally Posted by rosieteddy: |
The updated training video says to look for the *good idea* in his action. :lol: So, going with that theory, at least he knows not the throw it on the floor? :p
Awesome of you to get the rack. Sorry you had to. :hug: |
It wouldn't occur to me to hang a coat on a doorknob. You need to be able to use the doorknobs. Put up some coat hooks and I bet he'll use them.
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Originally Posted by hwichlaz: |
Originally Posted by Cat Herder: |
Definitely rude.
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I am to the point now where I say something. I used to bite my tongue about a lot of things but now I say what needs to be said. I refuse to let my house get disrespected. My own kids know better and if a dck or parent does something I do not like I say something. A couple examples are my landscaping. Keep your kid out of my landscaping. Kids also mess with my screen door. I put a stop to that. I am over it this week.
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From a design standpoint, this is happening because you have not provided an intuitive place to put the coat. Yes, it is rude that he is knocking over your stuff. However, it is human nature to take the path of least resistance, so if there is no clearly-visible coat hook immediately accessible as soon as people walk through the door, you can expect them to continue to toss coats wherever. A doorknob is not a coat hook, even if other people have been hanging coats on them, and honestly I would not feel comfortable hanging up a coat on a doorknob in anybody's house. It's just not how anyone in my household does it, so it would never occur to me in the first place, and I'd feel rude and lazy doing it.
You have to hold people's hands and walk them through the process if they are encountering anything new or unusual. How old is the child? If she is old enough to stand up, she is old enough to put her coat away herself. Spend the next week walking her through that process ( and make sure you have a designated coat spot that she is capable of reaching). Once she can put her own coat away, you can cut him off before he tosses the coat anywhere, and tell him that his daughter needs to put her own clothing away herself. Then have her show him how to do it! |
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo: My dd makes various crafts and often will go to craft fairs to sell them. She puts time, effort and money into making her crafts. Last weekend, I went with her to help out. She had set up a display of hair bows made out of ribbons. An older woman came by and bought some of the earrings she had made. In order to get to her wallet, though, the woman laid her purse down right on top of the bows, squashing them all. I was proud of my dd for remaining polite and professional but she was so angry - and rightfully so! Some people are just so oblivious! I like your idea of the hanging coat rack that can be put away when you're not doing day care. Hopefully, it will solve the problem for you. |
Originally Posted by e.j.: |
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Really if he would have just asked it wouldn't have been so bad but to continuously do it I think is rude. Plus, at the end of the day he takes the coat off the door knob where I put it after we go outside, so it's not like he can't see that that is where I keep it and see other kids' coats too, but for $8 I solved the problem. My husband ran to the store this morning and bought this hook for me. Much better all the way around.
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Originally Posted by Unregistered: I just recently lost my marbles on a family who kept putting their kids shoes on top the arm of my brand new couch. My entry is very open but there is a huge rug, a three tier shoe bin and a chair for the kids... but no, apparently my couch looks like the shoe organizer. I don't bite my tongue when it comes to my home. Their parenting abilities... yes, but not my home. |
Originally Posted by Snowmom: I have a lightswitch by my door that controls my dusk to dawn light. Every time a kid turns the light switch on/off, it clears out the "programming" for the light and my DH is going batty fixing it. We put a cover over the light switch and a sign that says "Do NOT touch". I have parents that will say in a smirky tone..."You know the kids can't read" I'm like "No, but YOU can" :rolleyes: |
Originally Posted by Blackcat31: That would drive me crazy. |
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Originally Posted by ColorfulSunburst: |
Maybe I am weird but I would say something like “my goodness john your destroying my knickknacks with this coat every day” or “there must room on one of the hooks for this coat” or some other joking thing to get him to realize what the heck he is doing. I find people like this need it spelled out for them.
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Originally Posted by Ariana: |
The coat rack looks like a perfect solution. Next week you can just silently point to it as he walks through the door. :D
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Would you have had room for a child size coat rack? This would allow the kids to hang it up and get it down by themselves.
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Originally Posted by Tin Blues: I was thinking of a way to put this on but have it hang lower, but I"m afraid with it hanging the kids would push it back and forth and scratch the daylights out of my door. |
Originally Posted by Rockgirl: |
At least he didn't hang it on that super cute wall hanger above the table :ouch:
I think having the visual of a coat hook should definitely help him. I, myself wouldn't hang a coat on the doorknob in someone elses house either, especially if there are other coats on it. I would probably ask where you'd want it though and definitely wouldn't use the table. Pretty sure coats aren't allowed to be stored on top of/touching each other here. |
Originally Posted by momofsix: |
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo: I have these super strong magnet hooks on my door and they work FABULOUSLY. I keep them slightly higher up out of reach and they hold heavy coats (even mine). Plus, you can remove them for weekends! https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/...?ie=UTF8&psc=1 |
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you can attach permanent hooks on the wall on the level of your decoration table ( by the left side of it). kids will be able to hang up their coats by themselves.
My hallway looks like this now. I understand this kind of hallway can bother some daycare providers. But I am OK with this. For me more important that I have no extra reasons to get upset during my long workdays. :) I have 12 kids here every single day. All of them know where their stuff supposes to be. |
Originally Posted by ColorfulSunburst: |
keep it simple
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo: Question though - is your front door unlocked so people can come in right away? I keep my front door locked so I can "head them off at the pass!" (and for safety reasons) Shoes are off after my entryway. |
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Originally Posted by Blackcat31: or try covering the top in decor that would require them to move the items before they sat their child up there. Decorative fence anyone? |
Ugh! I once had a Mom who would bring her child in and set her on top of a bookcase I had. It was just one of those short, cheap 3 shelf ones. I was too new to have a backbone, so I kept waiting for the day the top caved in... Lol... Eventually I just started storing things on it. I didn't get the nerve of her doing that. Who just sits a child on someone's bookcase?!
If I didn't see where to put something, I would ask where someone wanted it, not toss it on a surface that's clearly in use. Glad you found a solution 👍 |
He walks PAST the coat rack and puts the coat on top of your decor? :eek:
RUDE and also VERY WEIRD! |
Originally Posted by dreamer: |
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo: Most providers have extra large cubbies/lockers so that nobody's belongings touch. I don't have a large enough foyer for that. This was not a regulation when I purchased my home so I could not plan in advance for it. ;) |
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Originally Posted by flying_babyb: I finally told him to knock it off but there were several times before and after I addressed it that I know it happened but I didn't see it. My cubby room is completely separate and it's hard to see into the main area of the house unless you are standing right at the entrance so I didn't see him sitting his kid there until after when other parents or kids told me. Thankfully, this parent no longer drops off or picks up. |
Drop off this morning was smooth as silk. Hung the coat right up on the hook!
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Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo: |
Originally Posted by momofsix: |
I am cracking up this morning. The original dad that I made this post about came in this morning, hung up his daughters coat and then put her hat and mittens back on the table. I grabbed them immediately and said "you know what? Let's put these right in the sleeve of her coat to keep me organized." lol I picked them up and put them inside her coat and hung it back up on the hook. He says, oh yea ok. haha
Another mom came in and put her childs sippy cup on it and his ziplock of pullups. I picked up the sippy and handed it back to her. I don't have kids bring drinks from home and opened the drawer right there and put the ziplock of pullups in it. Every child has a drawer and she knows that. Mom of my 15 month old comes in with his pacifier in his mouth. She sets him down, picks the pacifier out of his mouth and sets it on the table. I immediately open the top drawer (his) and toss it in. First of all, why do you let him have it in the car and then make me bad and take it away as soon as he walks in? Secondly, do you think I want his spit on my table? All ya can do is laugh right? I figure if I rinse and repeat long enough in 6 to 8 months they'll get it right? lol |
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