This is a hard line for me.
If a parent came at drop off with their kid diaperless and said to me the child doesn't have a diaper on because he/she wouldn't let me put one on, I would reply with "Well if she is the one in charge, she won't be able to stay here. I don't accept kids that aren't ready for the day"
No socks, half dressed, bringing in a toy or eating something and the reply is similar.
I REFUSE to parent children that are not mine and I REFUSE to allow myself to be put in that position by an ADULT that has a license to drive, can hold a job, pay bills and basically live unassisted but can't get a 3 yr old to comply?!?! Um, yeah....NOT my problem.
*the path to inner peace begins with 3 simple words; NOT MY PROBLEM.