Originally Posted by lilbit:
I haven't been able to get on this site for a few days, but I'm a littler hurt of how some of the providers responded. As a parent I know I have the right to tell someone who can and can't change my childs diapers. I think it's perfectly acceptable for me to tell the provider that someone other than her and her assistance should not be changing my sons diapers. My child is 2 by the way and not 3+...so I think it's perfectly acceptable for him to be in diapers still. I brought up the other mother not paying because someone asked me if she is paying extra...and all of the information I've told you about I didn't go digging to find...the provider herself has told me all of it. Your talking about messing with someones livily hood, but I dont have to do that. She is messing with her own livily hood by keeping a child there that is harming all the other kids only because she thinks she can save him (which will eventually come back to bit her when his mother finally wakes up). By the way, as i mentioned I am very close with the other mother (we go out together alot and bring the kids to do stuff together...so how could I be terminated for talking to a friend?)
We decided to find a new place for my son, however I also think I should find a new place for support. Appearently the daycare community is very close knitt if this is how you treat others who are just coming looking for advice.
Thanks for all the people who were understanding and helped! 
When I first read your post and felt it was pretty straight forward. I also wondered how it would be taken in a forum that is mostly dominated by providers. My first thought was; will she be offended by the opinions offered. While the comments here were straight foward and helpful I figured that another parent would not find the support they were looking for amongst other parents.
You did post in the "Parents and Guardians Forum" and most that answered you were provider members. I still can't figure out how to either cross the Provider vs Parents divide or separate the two completely.
Any suggestions or ideas would be helpful.
