Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
No worries... 
It always goes something like this:
Parent and provider are having an issue.
Parent doesnt get told what they want/get what they want the provider is automatically bad.
Other parents "said" X, Y or Z. NONE of which were variables in the situation until the parent didn't get the results or answer they wanted.
OP said her DD loves her provider.
OP said she didn't want to move her.
OP had NO complaints about provider.
Until none of us agreed or told her what she (OP) wanted to hear. Suddenly the provider is the now bad guy.....
Everyone likes you until you say no or fail to follow instructions, then we are the ones in the wrong. 
Actually, as soon as you guys said that it wasn't a good fit, I started texting other parents to see where they went and how the kids adjusted. That's when I started hearing all of these things.