Originally Posted by wdmmom:
LIving the life I am and the circumstances surrounding it, yes, right now, this is the way things need to be.
I knew getting into this that he had a son that lived with grandma and I knew the circumstances surrounding why. He was basically thrown onto our laps when grandma decided to pick herself up a boyfriend and live the "be young, be free, go ___ " lifestyle. Fair?! Not so much. I never expected to "parent" this child.
And, "keeping control" as you call it isn't the reason for not blending as you see it. As I see it, we are all individuals living together. We are not harmonious or in unison. We are just us being who we are. Better to be me than live a lie and be someone I'm not.
It seems to me that Grandma raised her kids and would be free to decide that her son should take responsibility for his. Fair...Absolutely.