Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
This is called "NO Cry" parenting.
ANYTHING so the child does not cry.
ANYTHING so the child likes them (the parent)
ANYTHING so the child will be their friend, not be frustrated, upset, mad, unsure, independent, etc...
ANYTHING so the child will not cry.
For many today, that is being the perfect parent. 
I was texting with a provider friend yesterday about this on a different level. We were discussing how we as providers are ready for our 3 and 4 year olds to become independent and helpers but they are the whiners because the parents don't want to allow them to grow up in this way....parents want to baby them and get offended if providers share this with them. Parents think if their precious little xxxx has rules/expectations that is a bad thing and they can't be happy that way???? A four year old is definitely too old to be carried in and peeled off the parent. I do not peel any kids off anymore. Definitely going to be interesting when these kids go to school because no teacher will be ready for this behavior.
