Originally Posted by Pestle:
It sounds like he has a LOT of stressors going on right now:
-New sibling
-Other kids in his house, taking his parent's attention and using the stuff and space he thinks of as "his"
-Changed schedule due to the day care
-New house
-Undiagnosed executive function disorder or learning disability without early intervention
-A missed window of sensitivity for potty training (if he's four now and you started a year ago, then you probably started too late for him to easily transition in--kids are ready at very different ages, some as early as just past a year old)
You may have limited resources as far as money, time, family support, and state programs go. However, your son needs intervention. He has nobody else looking out for him, and each delay will make his potential disability more difficult to cope with, while you work to provide for your family through the day care. You're busy right now learning how to care for infants, but your son needs you to learn how to best care for him. It's a challenging situation for all of you.
Please get in touch with a local gov't agency that can help you identify programs your son qualifies for--you may be able to get help with testing and a diagnosis, or find a preschool that will take him. Some care providers find they have to put their own kids in care for everybody's health and sanity.
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I would get him evaluated by the local school district. He might qualify for free, special education preschool.
ITA with all of this!