Originally Posted by Clueless:
I have dealt with this and regretably I termed the child. I wish there was more I could have done. I don't believe terming solves anything. However I just could not handle the child. All of the kids I have had problems with got spanked at home as their punishment. Some even spanked them at pick up when I would inform them of the behavior issues.
The kids would never mind me.
I always thought it was because I was not intimidating to them. Also because spanking does not teach children apprioprate behavior.
I hope you can help her.
I wish you the best.
Terming doesn't solve anything except the fact that a child's behavior was an issue or problematic to the care of the other children in the group.
Too many providers are under the assumption that part of our duties are to solve behavior issues that are either caused by or heavily influenced by the parenting styles of their mom/dad.
Terming is only bad IMHO, when the behavior is due to the environment at child care only. When a child has issues in other areas of their life then terming is the only option if parents are not willing to change what they do.
We are child care providers not behavioral specialists and I think it is important for providers to know that terming IS an option in some cases.
We do NOT have to put up with, fix or solve issues that are directly related to everything but the care a provider gives.
Providers shouldn't be made to feel guilty for doing something in the best interest of their group.