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Cat Herder 06:00 AM 04-16-2021
Originally Posted by Valerie928:
I've never thought about this until you mentioned it here! But I too have never had kids act out for the dad. It's 100% the mom
The psychology class I audited pointed in the direction of a biological competition between mothers and caretakers for the ownership of the childs care. Not so much the child, but the authority of care. This is seen in younger grandmothers, too.

What was discussed was that this was primal, not necessarily a choice and can be gracefully managed with limiting time in the triangular power struggle. Things like quick drop-off and child free conferences. Better for the kids, better for the provider, better for the mothers.

The mother with a co-dependent or unhealthy attachment requires another set of tools, though. If not managed it can stunt the child development and intellectual growth. These classes are so interesting, I wish I could have afforded to stay in college. I am grateful that the local college has occasional seats for auditing.
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