Originally Posted by Mad_Pistachio:
as my husband would put it, "if I pay your bills, I set your priorities." as he does, and he does 
Oh hell no! Ha! If my husband said that, he sure as hell wouldn't be my husband much longer. We pay OUR bills with OUR money. Even when I wasn't working for an income, it was OUR money. We both contributed to the household in different ways and we both laid equal claim to his paycheck.