Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
That's alot of separation and redirection for ONE child.
I couldn't do it and would probably let him go...it sounds like he isn't really a good fit for your environment since it seems to prompt him to hit and/or bite so that isn't good for anyone.
Maybe he needs a more physical environment.... I don't know but I just don't think I could keep him. Like I said, it's a LOT of redirecting, separating and conversation for ONE child.
Originally Posted by childcaremom:
How I handle it is this: it happens once and they are my shadow. NO access to other kids. Separate play areas. Then I reintegrate and watch closely. If it happens twice then parents are put on notice. A lot of redirection. Right beside them, watching for triggers, etc. If it happens three times, I'm done.
I don't care what age the child is. I am not equipped to handle that behaviour here. I am here by myself and I refuse to spend that much time shadowing when I have a whole group to care for.
If it gets to the terming point, I suggest going somewhere where there are at least 2 adults or just a plain change of scenery.
The child needs to be somewhere where they can 'succeed' and a change of scenery/environment can be enough to nip the behaviour. I also tell parents that I've taken on biters, from other daycares, and not had any issues here, so the environment plays a HUGE role, imho.
(I just termed a biter before Christmas, same age. SO much relief once she was gone. She had much the same aggressive behaviours and it was unpredictable and unmanageable in a 1 adult group setting.)
There are two adults here...
I feel like I'm doing something wrong. But then i think about how he acted like this from the first 5 minutes he was here on his first day, its just gotten worse.
Mom and dad ask how they can help him but i had no ideas since there is nothing visibly prompting him.