I have seen it time and time again, parents blaming me for crappy night sleep. I lie and tell them their kid didn't nap and by some miracle night sleep improves. I am so over it
None of these kids are getting proper sleep and I have seen it. A 2-3-4 yr old going to be at 9pm?? My 8 yr old goes to bed at 8:30 and my 4 yr old is in bed at 7. They both wake up at 7-7:30am. If your kid comes to me exhausted they nap. End of story.
Having a space at a daycare is kind of like buying season tickets to football. You may not like the choices the coaches are making but no one forced you to sign up.