Originally Posted by Joyce:
You're NOT being mean! I would probably go ahead and take the full-time boy. At least he'd be steadier income and much easier to work with.
But if you do keep the girls, I would just say to the mom one day, "I'm really going to need you to give me their schedule in advance. I have to be able to plan food and activities." If she doesn't respect that after about a month, give her a two-week notice and just say it isn't working out for you.
I understand the guilt and reluctance to stand your ground. I'm kind of the same way. But lately I've been trying to be firmer. Nice, but firm on policies. It actually feels pretty good!
I agree. and state that you need her schedule in writing.