Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Exactly, it falls back on me and makes me look bad. It happens in just a blink of an eye, they are supervised at all times, if I'm cooking lunch, they are at the table doing puzzles or play doh stuff. But I swear, I turn my head for a second and he's smacking someone. I constantly tell him, do not hit, I have to continually remind him. At 3 1/2 he should no better. Thank you for your input.
I had a term a just turned 3 yo for hitting earlier this Fall so I totally understand. I tried everything, shadowed him, had him shadow me, he was just too sneaky and would find a way to hurt someone.
In my case it was a parenting problem. His mom just kept making excuses for him, "didn't see" the behaviors, and refused to work to help us fix them. IMO if you can term I would. I have never regretted terming a family and in most cases wish I would have done sooner! If they aren't a good fit, you can't fix it on your own and the family isn't willing/able to help then term!