Originally Posted by Max:
I'll see if I can get more info on this for sure. It's just so odd b/c I asked several times to make sure I understood what she was saying. I'm pretty sure she didn't say "you have sole physical custody" but she definitely was saying I had no legal obligation to allow visits. She's from a very well known firm and has been working in this field for twenty some years. Another lawyer said her firm was the best in the business.
So weird 
I think your lawyer is correct. Visitation at the discretion of a parent versus court ordered visitation are very different things. He will need to go through the courts. Once a judge rules on it, you won't have a choice, but until then, I would keep him on the "do not release" list.