Originally Posted by melilley:
I have a 3 year old dcb who I've had here since he was 18 months. He started as a biter, aggressive, and as a very hyper child. I had just opened so I thought I could deal with it despite my stress level rising from the minute he walked in the door until he left. He eventually stopped biting, but was still hyper; this child NEVER stops, he will if we are doing something, but it doesn't last long. I have wanted to term so many times, but never did. Dh has said to term, my sis who fills in for me maybe 2 times a year told me that he's fine for about 20 minutes then he's hyper, other parents have said things. I still kept him. Dcm works with me, dcm has taken him to get evaluated for his speech and aggressiveness, but early on said his behavior is normal 
Sorry, but bouncing off the walls and being aggressive isn't normal and his speech is normal-he can barely talk, but I'm not the expert. Dcd asks me how he's doing and when I tell him that his day is rough, he just says "oh M." 
His dcm and dcd started having problems last summer and are divorced now so I thought maybe his behavior was due to that, but he has always been this way so I don't think so.
Dcb is now p/t and has been since the end of August. I thought I could handle him on a p/t basis, but boy was I wrong! I can't leave him with the other kids at all, if I do there's crying. I have a playroom off of the kitchen/dining room. I can't see them unless I go to the other end of the dining room, but can hear them. I let the other kids play and walk around, but when this dcb is here, all I hear is crying, when he's not, all is fine. I have to make sure he's with me if I am cooking or doing something in the kitchen/dining or family room. That leads to him scream crying which leads to a headache for me. This child still NEVER stops, he's always running or throwing things, or whatever! The rest of the kids are 2 and under (except for one other 3 yo dcb) and watch this dcb. He runs, they follow. My rule is no running and he knows this. He'll think I can't see him and run and when I ask him to walk or hop or if he sees me watching him, he says "hop" like he's never been running. Then laughs and does it again and if the littles follow, he laughs. When the other 3 yo p/t dcb is here, he follows this dcb and is a different child. I'm just so frustrated with this child. I can honestly say that I can't bond with him one bit. I can't wait until nap time every time he is here!
I think I'm going to term. Every day that dcb isn't here, it's wonderful. When he is here, everyone is wound up and it's horrible. I was so upset earlier that I started crying. 
This child wouldn't stop running, I was trying to change ds's diaper and he saw dcb running and laughing so he thought it was funny and was kicking and laughing so I could barely change him and dcb started going crazy and I couldn't do anything, which dcb knew, because I was changing a diaper.
Now, I just need to write up a term letter and make myself give it to dcm. This is my weakness, I don't like to do things like this. Plus I LOVE dcm. And she just told me a couple of weeks ago that she has cervical cancer so I feel horrible terming, but I broke down today and that shouldn't happen. Why do I have to be so nice? I can't stand that part of myself-when I know I have to do something that other people may not like.
Thanks for letting me vent. Sometimes I just have to talk it out with someone other than dh.
I really feel your pain! I recently had a boy who was almost 4, still in diapers, hit others, grabbed toys away, had kids crying all day, and would do everything unsafe all day long! HE DROVE ME NUTS!! I could NOT wait for him to leave...I was think of term for a few weeks when I found out that the parents were having a hard time making their payments. I waited and two weeks later I term over payment issues. Now, my daycare is so quite and peacefull and kids are getting along and playing together! It is wonderful...Circle time goes smoother without him pinching and interrupting every two seconds. Nap time is so much better as well without his constant interruptions. I have no glue or markers on other kids, I have no hitting or taking toys away. I hate to say it, but if he is making you and everyone unhappy I would tell mom that this is not the right daycare for him. I am sorry she is sick, but that has nothing to do with this situation. It is all business..sounds cold I know..but its true
I wish you lots of luck
