Originally Posted by AmyKidsCo:
Here's the thing, and I'm not being insensitive, just realistic - you can be concerned all you want but you can only do so much. You job is to offer healthy food when he's with you and his job is to decide what to eat and how much. You can't control what happens when he's home, and getting upset about it isn't going to do any good. Continue offering him good food and hopefully at some point he'll try something besides fruit. If you feel like you need to do more maybe you can compromise - serve whole wheat French Toast, put a little cinnamon sugar on his toast, make healthy muffins with whole wheat flour and fruit, etc.
This! A hundred times over!
You can't control how parents parent.
If it really stresses you out, then don't keep him.
Simply refuse to be part of the entire situation.
Otherwise, just go about your business and continue offering and encouraging but leave it at that.
IME, most food issues have nothing to do with food and everything to do with power of control.