Originally Posted by care giver:
Choices don't really work with this boy. You tell him it is up to him to either give the toy back because it is not a nice thing to do or he gets a privilege taken away, he will just stand stand there and do nothing. Time outs do not work with his boy as he won't listen and go into the time out corner. Sometimes he will throw the toy and start a tantrum.
Taking him and letting him color and not play to me is not really fixing his behavior as he is not learning that it is not nice to do what he did, it is just getting him to do something else. He needs to know that he can not do that anymore period. Even not getting to play doesn't seem to work, he is just very stubborn and wants what he wants when he wants it and that is not how things work. Giving this boy choices is not a option as it is not solving his behavior issue, he needs to know that it is not acceptable behavior. Sometimes the choice things work for people, but sometimes it just isn't really taking care or solving the issue at hand and they seem to keep doing what ever they were doing that wasn't nice.
But the coloring is sending the message that 1. In the end, you didn't get to take the other child's toy and play with it and 2. That if you take the other child's toy then you will have to do an activity that the provider chooses and not get to choose yourself. In time, it should solve his behavior issue as long as every single time the same thing happens.
Either that or every single time he does something like that you take him by the hand and he goes with you and doesn't leave your side. That will get pretty boring for him after awhile.
Laurel