Have you checked out any tattling books from the library? I had this problem at the beginning of the school year, but dcg was closer to 5. We talked about telling is ok if someone is hurt, going to hurt someone else, or doing something dangerous. Also talked about if it's a big problem or little problem. We don't tell on little problems, but we do for big problems. Throughout the day I'd give her an example of a big or little problem, ask her which it was, and if it should be told to an adult. It became a game. Your 4 year old should be able to handle that. Books definitely help, along with LOTS of examples.

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