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Heidi 04:01 PM 09-05-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
My phrase that I use it, "I like it when you ..." (Eat your peas, color in the lines, sit quietly, etc.) I use, "I don't like it when you..." (push someone, take a toy away, etc.)

Probably wrong, but hey, I'm consistent.
I like that, and use it too.

But......

I am sure my QIP consultant said something to like it would teach children to only feel validated when they please adults.

Uh.. Wow, the horror of raising children to please their parents and teachers!

Seriously, of course I want children to be self-motivated. But, like so many things, we learn to practice the skills first, then internalize them. We work with infants, toddlers, and preschoolers, not teenagers.
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