Originally Posted by spud912:
Ok, so I have done several interviews and have narrowed my one vacancy to two boys. I was wondering if you all could help me make up my mind!
Family One:
(1) Father is deployed, mother is also in the military
(2) Boy is 2 1/2 and potty trained
(3) Boy has been with current daycare for 2 months. Mother believes something strange is going on there. He is always upset throughout the day and he is picking up bad habits (such as whining). He is very introverted and is having a very hard time adjusting, according to mother.
(4) Prior daycare had him from 6 weeks to 2 years and they had to leave because dc provider quit. Boy really misses her.
(5) Mother admits that she spoils her son. They have no schedule on the weekends and therefore he will not take a nap for her (although she says he takes naps at daycare).
(6) Mother seems very nice. Boy opened up during interview (he was playing and sharing toys), something the mother said he doesn't do at current daycare.
Family Two:
(1) Met mother, father, boy, and older sister (who I would not provide care for). Family was very nice and open.
(2) Boy just turned 2 and has not started potty training yet.
(3) Current daycare lady has had him since he was 6 weeks old. She spoils him and lets him get away with bad behavior (like hitting), which is why they want to leave.
(4) Boy has a good schedule on the weekends and takes long naps.
(5) Boy was gentle with my children. He was upset when family went to leave and started throwing things and kicking toys. This does not bother me *too* much because the interview was during dinner time and stretching into bedtime, so I can understand how a major schedule change can really trigger a toddler temper tantrum. Parents say he responds well to discipline if necessary (such as time outs).
(6) Boy has limited speech, but mother says he is eager to learn.
Family 1 Hummm that child is upset at daycare, dad is deployed that could be why he is upset. Too many changes and now mom wants to put him in a new daycare? Regressing with potty training well this is why. Poor kido. This child needs to stay right where he is and not have another adjustment to go through. Mom said, she thinks something is going on at his current daycare. Humm yea he is not getting his way and is not being spoiled oh and since there is no schedual that poor child could be exhausted and that is why he is crying.
Family 2. I love the schedual. I love that the olde sibling was there and you got to see her. Red flag to me is that I think the current provider termed him for his behavior and I think also what you saw is the real deal. He threw toys and was kicking. How did mom and dad handle that? Did you like how they handled this in front of you? If they did nothing expect that if you take this child on.
Upon nit picking these two familys I say keep looking.