I'd give her two options for how you two deal with money.

Option 1: The money is freely given, as it has been, and help with whatever you ask is also freely given. She needs to go to the movies? You got it. You need to rearrange furniture? She jumps up.

Option 2: She is paid a specific hourly wage for helping, down to the minute, and gets that money and that money only. She has her own cash, can decide whether she wants to help or not, and thus decides whether she has the money to go to the movies or not.

Personally, I'd be enforcing the second option if I got any resistance with the first.

But I see you figured out a medical issue, so hopefully that will also help!

Reply