I am sorry for your family’s loss.
According to my contract, I charge the full rate regardless of attendance and that includes days missed for bereavement. When I opened my daycare, I researched policies on this and found this to be extremely common. Somewhere, I think in the forum actually, I read that it’s like a gym membership- You pay the same price even if you don’t go. That’s how they afford to stay in business.
That said, if you feel you’ve been cheated in that your provider herself isn’t following her own contract, you need to ask her about it. It also wouldn’t hurt to go through the contract in detail and ask her to clarify anything you feel is too vague so you don’t have surprises like this in the future.

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