Originally Posted by Ac114:
I don’t think this has anything to do about consleeping. My 4 year old still sleeps with us and is the most independent little guy I know. Very strong willed and an over all emotionally stable person.
This issue has to do with separation anxiety that they are feeding into instead of getting the proper help for her. She needs evaluated and they need to set boundaries. It’s not normal for a 5 year old to cry when someone leaves the room. Something traumatic may have happened recently and the parents are not forthcoming. Anything from sexual abuse to going away for a weekend and leaving her with someone she didn’t feel secure with.
If you can’t handle to crying, I would call for pick up. I personally can’t listen to it from a 5 year old all day long.
Co-sleeping absolutely plays a role in this issues.
Your DS may co-sleep as well but it's obvious you support and encourage independent behaviors whereas this family has outright told the provider they do not encourage or support but instead are hostages to their own child.
I don't believe for one second it's separation anxiety but instead is "You won't be MY adult like my parents are and I don't like that" type of reaction to an environment where the adult is in control and not allowing her to be.
If this were a 3 yr old, I might think differently but this child is 5 and is not a newly enrolled child.