I'm in the "I don't care" camp.

I have a 2.5 yr old who didn't eat a single thing her first whole month here. She drank her milk and that's it. Now she eats some things but is still VERY picky and sometimes goes a whole day without eating anything.

I NEVER comment on what she does or doesn't eat. I give her a bare minimum of food to avoid wasting too much - no alternatives. If she does eat something and asks for seconds I give her seconds, even if she didn't eat anything else (same rule as everyone). No one gets thirds unless their plate is clean. I give her the Food Program minimum requirement of milk, then 3-4 oz water so she doesn't fill up on liquids.

I think the lack of power struggle makes a difference because she does try some new things when she thinks I'm not looking. Most of the time she spits them out, but I don't say anything, not even "Good job!" for trying something new.

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