I had one girl who was always very helpful, followed rules, hugged me when she went home. Her mom had a great sense of humor, very giving, and showed her dd love in all ways. But her mom also expected her dd to respect others, expected her to help out. She and her dd have lived at the grandparents' all along and the grandparents are the same way. United front, loves her with all their heart but won't put up with anything with her. I think she's 10 now. I haven't had her since she started school FT.
I have a 4 yo dcb right now. I really enjoy him. He's got the sweetest smile and loves to talk, goes right to sleep. I'm amazed he doesn't seem to have a lot of issues because his mom and dad certainly do. He helps with the other kids.