Your lucky your husband wants to spend time with the kids......many don't. Esp after working such long hours. I agree with Crazy8- Let him. Let him do the responsible things too, not just play. Give them baths, brush teeth, story, etc... bump up bed time and bump up wake time and extend nap if needed. You have room to be flexible with your own kids. I would have schedule for the daycare kids but if your own kids go off schedule, no biggie- your there, you can get them back on track or alter. Benefit of doing home care. When daycare is going on, husband should respect your rules, or take the kids away from the other daycare kids to do special, or include daycare kids with your approval. What you have is rare- embrace it.

Flip side- I do understand how you feel-but I would adjust it to having him help you with the responsible stuff too-not just play. He can incorporate play into the nightly routine.

Good luck-

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