For me I ignore them when they are in this state. There is no reasoning with a child in this condition because they are zoned out and in full on tantrum mode. If possible I would lead them to the "decision" mat and make sure no other kids were around during this tantrum to protect the other children, or even have a sectioned off space for her if she's violent during a tantrum. I have a 20 month old like this and I never engage with her when she's doing this. I wait until she is calm before talking to her.

Do you feel the "decision" mat is working for her? I would re-evaluate and possibly come up with a new solution if she has impulse control issues or anger issues. It seems like teaching her how to deal with her frustration would be the best thing to do.

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