Originally Posted by Cindy:
I have been told by my son’s preschool that he needs to be toilet trained to move into the 3 year old room. My son turned 3 in September ’09 and has been diagnosed as ADHD combined and is really having a difficult time staying in the 2 year old room due to several reasons.
1. All of his friends have moved into the 3 year old room
2. He is bored with the things that are being taught as he’s been through it once already
3. He is not challenged or stimulated
4. Most of the children in his room are very young 2 year old girls
5. The teachers are frustrated with him and just want him out of their room
His preschool will not allow him to move into the 3 year old room until he’s toilet trained. If this is a California licensing requirement for preschools, can I please be told where to locate this in writing? Are there no exceptions? His ADHD is a big factor in him not being toilet trained. He can do it on occasion; the problem is with his lack of attention and focus.
Thank you so much for any help and/or assistance you can give me.
My son really needs to be stimulated and challenged at preschool.
While I do understand totally where you are coming from, I,who is a former preschool teacher/Assistant Director agree with your center.
I speak from personal experience that it is/was VERY difficult to have a child in my classroom who was not potty trained. I would have to stop what I am doing, whether it be teaching or doing a craft, just to change a child. It is/was not only distracting but unfair to me, my other children in care, but naturally the child them self.
I understand that your child has a medical condition. Although I am not a Dr. I have never heard of ADHD causing a child not to be potty trained. But what do I know
My former director/owner made it a policy that all children in the Pre-K room must be potty trained. No matter the age. I once had a 2 year old (almost 3) who was actually to smart to be in the 2 year old room and she was potty trained so she was moved up. We have also had calls from parents in situations where the child would be 4 years old or so with no medical reasoning (just pure laziness). Once I had a parent who called and was actually offended because I said the child who was 4, had to be in the younger room. I had to explain to her that I did not have the diaper changing facility etc. Of course she never enrolled.
I don't think my state (TX) has a law concerning this. It would be a reasoning for action if they denied you care at all. It seems like they are still willing to watch him just reluctantly.
If you are that unhappy, I suggest you find another provider. Maybe perhaps talked to your doctor as well.
Good luck!